Love in both directions is the best love, which is a sentence I heard recently. The so-called two-way rush, literally, can be understood, is that two people at both ends of love are running towards each other's location.
What are the benefits of this? If love is a substantial distance, then if only one person runs to another, it will definitely increase time and increase the physical burden, and if two people gather together in the middle, then time will only be half of the one-way run, half of the distance from each person, and it will not be too tired.
Where is the good thing about such love, it is obvious that one-way rushing, unilaterally paying but not knowing whether it can be rewarded, will always make people suffer and torture,
But if two people love each other, are willing to work hard for each other, and are willing to step closer to each other, how can there be the pain of love? There will only be the sweetness of love, and the inevitable happy ending.
And I personally feel that a marriage that goes in both directions is more meaningful than a two-way love. We always talk only about love, but when it comes to marriage, we start to keep silent, or simply ignore marriage. Fairy tale books are like this, the happy ending is only to "the prince and princess live happily together", and then what? Nothing was said about the marriage.
After marriage, it is even more necessary for both husband and wife to have the belief of running in both directions in order to manage the marriage well. Strive to run together to a good life, still regard marriage as a hot love, strive to love each other, cherish each other, run to not only all aspects of life, feelings are also an important key that cannot be ignored.
"You never loved me, did you?" From the beginning to the present, it has always been that I care more about you and I love you more. You are angry, I will coax you unconditionally, if you are unhappy, I will try to please you, I have always been so temperamental to tolerate you, you seem to have felt that I love you is a matter of course, as if I feel that no matter what you do, I can tolerate you unconditionally.
You are wrong, I am not a good temper at all, even if I am a good tempered person, I also have a temper! Since you have done it, then I can only assume that you have no attachment to this marriage, and I have not taken me, the man who is single-mindedly devoted to you, as a thing. Oh, you may have always thought I was just a sticky dog, and it was coming and going.
You're awesome, you're amazing, you two are playing me around, you guys are really good....... Hahahahahahahahaha
Divorce it. ”
Zhang Xian is an introverted man, he never vents his emotions in public, but this time, he made an exception.
In a crowded office building, he roared out his inner words without hesitation, hysterically, even if everyone around him was watching, he seemed to have no scruples.
Because at that moment in his eyes, time stood still, all people, are a shadow, the only person he can see, is the person in front of him, his beloved wife who has been married for five years.
Just ten minutes ago, Zhang Xian was not this crazy and out of shape, at that time, he was very normal. Normal as usual to send his wife to work, normal in the car and his wife small talk, the wife is normal as usual, just fiddling with the mobile phone, do not pay much attention to Zhang Xian. The company arrived, the wife opened the car door to get off, the head did not return, did not leave a word, Zhang Xian has become accustomed to it, the wife has always been such an attitude, some indifference, but he will still treat his wife as always, even if he will not get a response, his mood will not have any unhappiness.
He just turned the front of the car and drove to his company, but suddenly he braked sharply and stopped.
Just when my wife had just taken a few steps out of the car, a five-second voice suddenly played automatically in the car.
"Got to the company?" Do you still meet at the old place at noon today, I want to see you. ”
This was only five seconds of voice, but the amount of information in it was so large that Zhang Xianyi could not accept it for a while.
That voice, Zhang Xian was all too familiar with, was the voice of his friend Xiao Liao, who was in a park with his wife's company. This is not sent to Zhang Xian, but Zhang Xian heard it, his wife just got off the car, Zhang Xian looked back and saw his wife listening to the voice, this is for his wife, but the wife's mobile phone Bluetooth is not turned off, so Zhang Xian heard it.
The next thing, everyone knows, Zhang Xian can't calmly turn back to his wife to question.
Zhang Xian was able to ignore it like this, but his wife obviously couldn't do it, and she panicked and advised Zhang Xian not to say it again, but Zhang Xian was already crazy at that moment.
"Why don't I say, what can't I say, are you still afraid of losing face?" Don't be afraid, it's not you who are ashamed, it's me, it's me who explodes! You're doing it right, you're amazing, how long have you been starting? How long have I been hiding, you say! ”
Zhang Xian was caught off guard by a slap in the face, and his wife's eyes were tinged with deep accusations:
"You forced it all!" With you, I'm not happy at all! You only know work every day, never say half a sweet word to me, go home and sleep upside down, I have a child with a child, you have not participated in half a point.
With you I feel very cold, can not get a little warmth, I don't even know whether you love me or not, you just treat me as a decoration, I did it, what, that's what you failed to do, you can't do it, I got it from others, is there anything wrong?! ”
After listening to his wife's crying accusations, Zhang Xian was silent, and after his wife's mood stabilized, Zhang Xian opened his mouth.
"Forget it, nothing matters, it's already happened anyway, I can't accept the fact that, leave it."
After Zhang Xian proposed divorce, he drove away in frustration, but his heart was still full of doubts.
"I never imagined that my marriage would end in such a way, it was really ridiculous, too funny, too interesting! I ah, it turns out that there is already a football field overhead, I actually did not notice anything for such a long time, every day is still happy, and I think that my marriage is particularly happy, in fact, it is all fake, all fake! ”
When Zhang Xian said this, he was smiling, with the kind of laughter that wanted to laugh but cried. The more he spoke, the more he laughed, the more he laughed, but he laughed even louder, unstoppablely, and eventually turned into a wild laugh.
After a long time, he stopped laughing, and began to fall into endless silence again, and after a long time, he slowly opened his mouth.
Why? I just can't figure it out, why is this happening? What am I doing wrong? Although I don't earn much, as a man, I have been working hard for my family, in order to make my family live a better life, I am not afraid of overtime, not afraid of hardship, not afraid of tiredness.
As a husband, I have always taken this marriage seriously and cherished my wife. Although I am very busy at work and do not have much personal time, as long as I have time, I will accompany her to accompany the child, every morning I will send her to work, pick her up at night, get married for five years, every morning, I have not been missing a day!
But why did she do this to me, why did I end up like this, why was it me? Why!!! ”
Zhang Xian roared angrily and painfully, echoing in the room, the echo took a long time to disperse, but I couldn't give him an answer, why? Perhaps, as his wife said, Zhang Xian was too busy, always busy with work, ignoring her feelings, ignoring her needs, and not doing a good job of being a husband in life, perhaps, from the beginning, this relationship was Zhang Xian's wishful thinking, or as he said, his wife's feelings for him have never been as deep as his.
Maybe, maybe, just because he's a good guy.
What can be said to appease a man who has been heartbroken by the double betrayal of his friends and the people he loves the most? I don't know, and I can only comfort silently, with silence so that this man can talk about the bitterness in his heart with peace of mind, and there is nothing else that can be done.
A voice that ruined five years of marriage. Or perhaps, this marriage has long been incurable, because one person's heart has long gone far, and the other person wants to get close to each other again, but every time he tries to get closer, the other party is farther away, so how can he get closer?
We don't know how the couple's five-year marriage has been, nor do I know how much of what they say is true and how much of what they say is false, and the whole picture is unknown, and I will not comment.
But I think, but all those who enter the marriage, at the beginning most of them originated from two-way rushing, the couple in the text is also, they must have had a beautiful past, but also have a deep affection, but also like glue paint, but we don't know, only they know, maybe like Zhang Xian, many couples themselves do not understand why they have finally come to such a fate.
In any case, it is regrettable.
We are always like this, before marriage know how to manage love, but after marriage, we do not know how to maintain feelings and maintain marriage.
We don't talk about so-called morality, we don't talk about betrayal and so on, we only talk about the process, what is wrong in the middle?
Maybe it's just that we've forgotten about the two-way journey to this process of love. After getting married, there is an extra layer of identity and responsibility, but the feelings are still unchanged, and two people need to run in one direction together, but this time, it is not a result, but the feelings are always fresh and lasting.
He is not your husband, she is not your wife, you are just a simple lover, the so-called lover, is the lover, that is a verb, not just a title.