<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > follow me and solve your emotional problems</h1>
Author: The Healing Girl
Before watching the TV drama version of "Half Life", I liked the character of Shu Hui. I think he is a gentle, warm-hearted and kind person, and I even think that he has a bright future, because he is better than Shi Jun and Man Zhen.
But after reading the original work, I suddenly found that I had a great misunderstanding of my uncle Save, and I was completely confused by his superficial cultivation and humor before. In fact, the character of Shu Hui is a typical phoenix man.
The conceit and inferiority, superiority and utilitarianism of the Phoenix man are all evident in him.
He and Cui Zhi failed to have results, and they were doomed. Because Bai Fumei is a mirror that reflects the true face of the phoenix man.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01 suspicion is heavy</h1>
When watching the TV series, I thought that Shu Hui and Man Zhen were good friends. But not in the original work, Zhang Ailing wrote:
Shuhui's friendship with her seems to be limited to office hours. Out of the office, ShuHui not only did not go to her, but did not even want to mention her name. ”
Man Zhen's vigilance against Shu Hui is also very heavy, and she and Shi Jun confess their family situation, and specifically instructed: "Don't tell Shu Hui." ”
Do you think it is strange that Shu Hui and Man Zhen are colleagues and eat together at noon every day, but the two people are like familiar strangers. Man Zhen is such a good person to get along with, why is he not waiting to see Shu Hui? Because of Shu Hui's jealousy.
He didn't know Man Zhen at all, but he began to maliciously speculate about her. Man Zhen is ill one day, and Shi Jun asks Shu Hui if she has the address of her home, and Shu Hui's answer is also very interesting:
"Knowing is knowing, I've never been there." You know her these days, and you've never heard her talk about her family, right? She can be said to be a person who has no mystery at all, only this point, but it seems to be very mysterious. ”
This sentence caused Shi Jun's double disgust, why? The meaning of Shu Hui's words is to suspect that Man Zhen has some ulterior secrets.
Later, Shi Jun and Shu Hui went to Man Zhen's house, and happened to encounter Man Zhen's brother to give Shu Hui the key to the office, and Shu Hui suspected that Man Zhen was afraid that others would go to his house before giving the key out, and said that the child seemed to be trained to let him not talk to outsiders much, and finally said directly: "Maybe her son?" ”
Even more egregiously, he also suspected that Man Zhen's age was fraudulent. No wonder Man Zhen was so defensive of him, it was obvious that Shu Hui was a bit unreliable.
In the original work, there is also such a sentence:
"Shu Hui usually talks about how women are, as if he is experienced. In fact, when he first entered the university, Shi Jun had heard him make such a statement. ”
It can be said that Shuhui is a typical kind of old-time man who has a prejudice against women. He always judged them from God's perspective. This kind of man has a strong machismo mentality in his heart, he can't treat women equally, and it is easy to see women as tools and playthings.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 does not take responsibility for feelings</h1>
In the play, Shuhui did not have a girlfriend around him, but in the original work, he mentioned a sentence, which caused people to think deeply:
Shi Jun did know that he only had one girlfriend, and he was also a classmate named Yao Peizhen. He said how women are, the so-called women, is synonymous with Yao Peizhen. Now maybe there is more than one Yao Peizhen. ”
The information content of this sentence is very large, which is enough to illustrate two points, one is that Shuhui has been betrayed by women, and the other is that he has many girlfriends. Maybe it was because he had been betrayed, so he began to play with feelings, or maybe his inner inferiority made him dare not chase love.
In the relationship with Shi Cuizhi, it is obvious. Shu Hui has a heart for Cui Zhi, and this heartbeat contains a kind of pity.
In the original book, it is written:
"Ladies like Cui Zhi always live in a small circle, and the only way out is to find a family of equal status and marry a young grandmother - this is also a sad fate." And Cui Zhi seems to be a person with a strong personality, and it is a pity that she was buried in such a fate. ”
You see, ShuHui is completely different from Cui Zhi and Man Zhen, he and Man Zhen have known each other for a long time, but they still have to maliciously speculate about her, but when he meets Cui Zhi, he has heartache.
This kind of heartache is the germ of love. At that time, Shu Hui was afraid to become a knight and save Cui Zhi from the shackles of the family. For Cui Zhi, Shu Hui also gives her a sense of freshness, he is completely different from the men in his circle.
The two have a tacit understanding, watching movies together, going to Xuanwu Lake to play together, tacitly acknowledging each other.
But Shuhui was not carried away by the momentary heartbeat, it was one thing to have a good feeling, and it was another thing to marry her.
He also felt that Miss Qianjin like Cui Zhi was not an ideal wife anyway. Of course, it doesn't matter if you make friends, but the atmosphere in the mainland is more conservative, especially a young lady like Cui Zhi, I am afraid that she does not make friends, as soon as she makes friends, she will soon talk about marriage, if it comes to marriage, he is such a poor boy, her family will never agree, but he does not want to climb high, because he is also a proud person. ”
What does this mental activity illustrate?
It shows that Shuhui did not plan to have anything with CuiZhi at the beginning, but just wanted to make friends with her, and it was enough to be ambiguous. Is such a Shuhui like the kind of scumbag who "doesn't refuse, doesn't take the initiative and is not responsible".
Coupled with the fact that Cui Zhi's mother looks down on Shu Hui, Shu Hui is more determined not to be with Cui Zhi. Even so, Shu Hui's ambiguity with Cui Zhi did not reduce by half a point.
From the beginning of the play to the exchange of letters, Cui Zhi's intention is obvious. Shu Hui is a smart person, and it is impossible not to understand. However, he is still fighting back.
"It's not that he lacks courage, but he feels that the problem isn't entirely in terms of her family. He could not but worry about herself, she was used to enjoying it, never knew what hardships and hardships were, and now she was emotionally emotional, and she would regret it in the future. ”
In the face of feelings, ShuHui's rationality overcame his impulses. If shuhui is divorced, she arouses Cuizhi's feelings, even if she is later engaged to someone else and sees Shuhui again, she chooses to quit marriage.
Yes, Cui Zhi sent a strong signal to Shu Hui that as long as he expressed it, she could be desperate. But Shuhui did not, he personally buried Cuizhi's love. Why couldn't he accept Cuizhi?
On the surface, as ShuHui said, Cuizhi's family conditions are too good, she has not suffered hardships, etc., in fact, these are just excuses, and the deepest reason is that Shuhui has an inferiority complex in her heart.
Yes, Shu Hui usually shows the appearance, always full of superiority, in any occasion to play with ease. But it is precisely beneath such a mask that he hides an inferior heart.
In his bones, he thought that he was not worthy of Cuizhi, but he did not dare to admit it, so he criticized Cuizhi's problems. Inferiority is fatal to a man because it robs him of courage and will.
Men who are strong enough inside can resist this feeling of inferiority, and a little weakness in the heart will drown their lives.
In fact, Shu Hui's ending is quite tragic, seemingly bright and beautiful, but in fact, he is lonely and lonely inside. And his sense of inferiority is innate, in that kind of growth environment, poverty and hardship will inevitably lead to a sense of inferiority.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 The poverty of the original family</h1>
The aforementioned suspicion of Shu Hui, machismo, irresponsibility, conceit and inferiority can all be found in his native family.
Shu Hui's father is a black and fat boy, working in a bank, because of a bit of a gentleman's temper, not good at greeting, sending an island old man or doing an hour before in the clerical stock, he did not mind.
It can be seen that Mr. Xu is not a sufficiently motivated person, a lifetime of mediocre work, the income is naturally not high, to support the family, stretched thin. Therefore, when Shuhui was in college, he worked half-time and studied half-time.
Mr. Xu is not good at making money, but he is very good at eating, and he has always been very conceited because he can cook. But when he cooked, he needed a "two knives" to prepare everything for him, cut into silk and chopped into pieces.
The relationship between the husband and wife is acceptable, but there are differences between Shuhui and Shuhui. Because Mr. Xu's evaluation of Shuhui is always too low, but Mrs. Xu attaches great importance to her son. It can be said that Shuhui grew up in the double heaven of ice and fire.
His sleek personality and ambition for his career are the complete opposite of Mr. Xu's. A man who is always denied by his father will often go to the other extreme, that is, he wants to prove himself desperately.
And Mrs. Xu almost killed Shuhui, thinking that he was all good. One is demeaning, the other is the source of Shuhui's inner inferiority and conceit. Coupled with the poor living environment, Shuhui became difficult throughout the growth process.
This kind of hardship, in addition to coming from life itself, also faces external evaluation.
He and Shi Jun are good friends, perhaps because they are the same type of people, inferior and conceited, cowardly and incompetent, facing what they want and dare not fight, until they are pushed away by the torrent of life, and finally lose control of life.
Why do many people say that phoenix men cannot marry?
In fact, not all phoenix men are bad, but most phoenix men have the inferiority of Shuhui. Because of the personality problems brought about by the growing environment, this is difficult to change.
Of course, there are two kinds of phoenix men, one is utilitarian, this type often flies up the branches from marriage, so they can combine with Bai Fumei; the other is the cowardly type, they hide in the prison of inferiority, thinking that they are not worthy of anything, even if the best is in front of him, he does not dare to reach out.
Shuhui was the second type at first, but eventually became the first. He went from extreme cowardice to extreme utilitarianism. People like Shu Hui are quite pathetic, and no matter how gorgeously he armed his surface, he can't hide his weak heart.
END.
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