In the morning I saw a paragraph and laughed:
Although the final exam is a baby, it is also the result of a group of accompanying readers, which reflects the completion of the broker's (mother's) year-end KPI, and the distribution data support for the investor's (father's) investment next year (what is the cram school report?). How to report? How parents intervene to help children learn), in addition, children's performance affects the status of the family's social circle.
My daughter started her exam today and ended on Friday. At the end of the semester, it is the district examination. As a parent of a junior high school sophomore, I have to say that the whole semester of junior high school students is solid for children, parents and teachers, so at the end of a semester, there must be a lot of summary. Let's start with the exam, after all, whether we admit it or not, this is a main line.
1. Study and examination
This semester, my daughter has experienced a total of 4 comprehensive examinations, 2 monthly examinations (October, December), 1 half-term, and 1 final examination. It can be said that these exams are very important, because only by passing the exams again and again can we maximize the discovery of problems in the learning process, and then solve problems, progress and improvement.
Judging from the scores and ranking performance, in addition to the final exams that are underway, the total scores of the first three exams do not fluctuate much, plus or minus 10 points. This shows that the level is almost that level, just look at each play. Because the difficulty range of the test questions is not the same, the score is only for reference, and the score combined with the ranking is a more accurate benchmark. From the ranking point of view, the fluctuation is not large, and the best and worst rankings float around 25. Basically within the normal range. (I think the fluctuation within the 50th place of the junior high school grade is normal.
So how to benchmark it in the city? For each exam, the school will give an A-line (the best high school admission line in the city) and a B-line (the key line of the middle school entrance examination). Then according to this standard, the comprehensive performance of the daughter is between 10% --- 30% of the same level students in the city. In this way, there is still a clear gap in entering the target high school.
From the perspective of disciplines, the main subjects that affect the ranking are English and mathematics, especially mathematics, after entering the second year of junior high school, the difficulty increases, if the problem does not have mature solution ideas, the basic problem type score is not high, then the total score will be pulled down by excellent students more than 10 more than 20 points, 20 points in a single subject is a big gap. Judging from her daughter's math and English, English is relatively stable, basically stable around Banping, but math is still unstable. Because the overall score difference will not be very large, the physical score is limited, and the score difference will not be particularly large, it can be said that mathematics is the biggest factor affecting her overall performance. If mathematics is improved to a higher level, other subjects are relatively stable, and the ranking will also be greatly improved.
Second, mentality and life
See the gap, but also see the child's efforts. Entering the second year of junior high school, my daughter's self-management and awareness improved compared with the first year of junior high school, and she handed over mp4 and extracurricular books to me at the beginning of the school, saying that she still sometimes couldn't control herself. She can take the initiative to do this, I think it is also a mental cognition improvement. This semester, especially the rules of electronic products, have been observed relatively well, and we have not had any conflicts over electronic products. The homework tasks in the school are also more active and conscious, and occasionally forget, but also take the initiative to make up for it in time. This semester there were no questions that were asked by the teacher alone because the assignment was completed. At the same time, after some exams, you can also have your own summary of your own learning situation and some planning.
These are the places where I feel my child is doing well.
Of course, there are some cases, MP4 and extracurricular books handed over to me for a period of time, I don't know when she quietly took it away, as she said, sometimes still can't control herself, not that extracurricular books and MP4 can't be used, but at an inappropriate time, and the daughter put the electronic novel into MP4, the screen is extremely small, which seriously affects vision. Affecting work and rest, sneaking into these also affects the next day's study. Half-term exams found this situation after the extracurricular books and MP4 I took away again. What does this matter mean, it shows that the child's self-control is still limited, sometimes want to get, may not be able to do, but also need the assistance of the people next to them.
Of course, the lack is still obvious, this as a bystander is to say why it is always in a position around, may be on the one hand is indeed not enough accumulation, rooted in the ground need time; on the other hand, the initiative to solve problems in learning is not enough, for their own time management, learning efficiency there is no clear requirements for themselves. For things that appear unclear in the study, it seems that there is no habit that I have to figure out in time. For example, the wrong question teacher has corrected, but it is used to being placed there, and it is necessary to wait for the teacher to talk before changing, why not change it first, and then listen to the teacher more targetedly? Therefore, for the wrong questions, especially the wrong questions in science, not enough attention is paid. Compared with excellent students, the tolerance and concentration of that kind of learning also need to be further improved. There is also the degree of steadfastness, such as things that need to be memorized honestly, and it is necessary to memorize honestly without discounts.
These external deficiencies, I feel that the awareness of the inner goal is not clear and not strong, that is, the internal drive is insufficient. To put it a little further, what kind of person do I want to be and what kind of life will I live in the future? Not clear; speaking of so many students in the class, which position can I achieve through my own efforts? Which high school classroom will I be sitting in in 1.5 years? How will I start my new life? I will come back to my alma mater later to see what kind of mood and state the teacher is in, and so on. These big and small things that can be called goals are not clear, so they lead to learning life, like watermelon peel, sliding to where to count. When encountering difficulties, always want to avoid.
Third, accompany and get along
This week is exam week, open the circle of friends, many mothers are sighing, this semester has finally passed, lamenting all kinds of not easy. Indeed, no matter what, the long semester is coming to an end, and the days of going to bed late and getting up early are temporarily over. As a parent, in the process of accompanying the child, I also see the hard work and effort of the child. There were also disputes and conflicts with my daughter this semester, but soon both sides were able to calm down and not cause any bigger incidents. There are two points that I think are necessary to accompany adolescent children, and they are also my own heart and experience.
1, do not provoke them, that is to say, after perceiving their emotions, parents need to temporarily avoid the front, do not compete for the advantage of the scene. Because of brain development and hormonal reasons, they inherently need an outlet for emotional catharsis. There is no need to be a target.
2, be aware of the child's emotions, do not communicate and preach when the child is obviously in a bad mood, sometimes they complain is just a complaint, an emotional catharsis, does not represent more. Shut your mouth.
3, give them enough respect and space, to close the door, close the door, do not want us to do what we do not do. On the issue of non-bottom-line principles, be a little more inclusive.
4, on the basis of keeping distance, do not forget to care and support, which is also what adolescent children need.
It is not the exam that determines the fate, but the continuous study, using this sentence to make the end, but also to appease yourself, pay more attention to the process, and look down on the results.