Southwestern Hokkaido, Japan, is a small coastal town called Muroran.
On a cold winter night, the sky was covered with goose feathers and heavy snow.
There is a fishing port with bright lights and sirens.
Police, firefighters, seemed to be searching for people who had fallen into the water.
An uncle, walking into the hut next to the fishing port, asked the woman in the house with a scarf:
"You're the girl's mother, right?" Please confirm your clothing. ”
The woman told the uncle with no expression on her face that it was her daughter's scarf.
Immediately, the people outside the house shouted into the distance:
"The scarf confirmed, it was the little girl who fell into the water."
Next, the camera cuts to the ground, and a feather soaked in snow and water seems to tell us a heart-wrenching past.
The story begins with a little girl named Domu Whoinin who was abused by her birth mother and her boyfriend.
The girl meets a female teacher named Naoru Suzuhara, who sees herself abandoned by her mother since she was a child.
She didn't want the girl to be as unhappy as she was, so she decided to give the girl enough maternal love to heal her miserable childhood.
Nai Xu secretly decided to take Pi Nan to escape from her current life, so they set up an incident of "Pi Nan falling into the sea and being killed", in order to cover up the eyes and ears of the people, and successfully took Pi Nan to escape.
In fact, Natsu's behavior is illegal, and behind her behavior, she sees the most glorious side of motherhood.
The story comes from the Japanese drama series "Mother's Love", a TV series that has a high score of 9.4 on Douban for ten consecutive years.
01 Born without raising, how to be a home
After her father's death, she lives with her mother and her mother's boyfriend.
Teachers at the school rumored that Shenan had been bruised for a long time and suspected that she had been abused.
So the teacher went to visit her home and wanted to hear Qiannan tell the truth, but she smiled and said:
"My mother loves me very much, and the injuries on my body were accidentally broken by myself."
She lied to cover up for her mother, but when she got home and saw her mother's boyfriend's shoes at the door, she trembled with fright.
After being beaten, abandoned, put into a garbage bag, and released, She smiled and covered up, comforting her mother and saying:
"After I played hide-and-seek, I found out that I couldn't get out."
What happened to a 7-year-old child made her so perceptive and meticulous.
Happiness and understanding are only her disguises, and under her mask of understanding is hidden the pain and suffering that her peers do not have.
Pi Nan especially likes hamsters, but her mother hates them, and she has thrown them away several times, but she has been secretly retrieved by Pi Nan again and again.
Maybe what she wants to protect is not a hamster, but her hamster-like self.
The more miserable the person, the more he knows how to love, and giving love is also a kind of self-preservation.
After her mother's boyfriend abused Hernan one by one, Mercy South Africa did not get her mother's protection, but instead suffered a more severe beating and injured her eyes.
On a cold night, wearing a thin gauze skirt, Shenan was put into a garbage bag by her mother and put in the snowy garbage can, while her mother and boyfriend drove to have fun.
It is not necessarily the mother who has motherhood, and the mother does not necessarily have motherhood.
As a mother, what makes her so cruel?
But no matter what has been experienced in it, and how many misfortunes of life have been encountered, it is not an excuse for a mother to mutilate her own flesh and blood.
I thought that such a dog blood shot would only appear in film and television drama works, but the real story in life is more cruel than the movie.
Remember the news of the tragic death of little Su Li that happened in Xining City a long time ago?
5-year-old Su Li often starved, was beaten by her mother, because she was hungry and stole chicken food, her mother sewed her mouth with a needle, and was punished for kneeling on the washboard for more than 1 hour.
Little Su Li was found after death, except for the soles of her feet, the other parts of her body could no longer find a skin without scars, the burns on her body were festering, her mouth was black, and the blankets she slept on were stained with blood.
Maybe in a smooth and stable life, they are all good mothers, but once they encounter bad luck, they will blame all their misfortunes on innocent children.
Vent your inner dissatisfaction by cruelty and abuse in order to achieve your inner balance.
Someone said:
"Lucky people, a lifetime of childhood healed, unfortunate people, with a lifetime to heal childhood." 」
Unfortunate children are not uncommon in life.
Those mothers who only care about birth and adoption really do not deserve the title of "mother".
It's not that the child is coming into this world, it's that you give her life.
Since a person has chosen to become a mother, he must take responsibility for the child and give her enough protection and love.
If you can't do it, don't take her into this world easily.
02 The person who really cares about you is the person you are closest to
Sometimes when looking at a person, we like to judge and evaluate a person from the surface, but some people are cold on the outside and may not be equally cold on the inside, and may still be a particularly tender and loving person.
Natsu is this kind of person who is cold on the outside and hot on the inside.
Natsu noticed that Nan nan refused to write her homework and crouched down to ask her why.
Nan said:
"Write a letter to a dead duck, it can't see it at all."
The other children felt that Qiannan was cold-blooded, but Naixu agreed with her and stopped scolding Qiannan's ruthless students.
Looking at the little girl in front of her, Natsu saw her former self, so she paid special attention to her.
Once, when Nan nan didn't come to school, Natsu went to visit her home, and her sixth sense made her think there was something wrong with the black garbage bag.
Sure enough, it was Qiannan who was thrown away like garbage.
Natsu took Hinata home, and looking at Chloe, who was weak on the bed, she asked in pain:
"Want to drink something?" Want to eat something? Where do you want to go? ”
And Nan tells Natsu that she wants to go to Sapporo.
From her arms, Shenan felt a newspaper clipping that read Sapporo Baby Shelter.
Why do you want to go to Sapporo, because there is a shelter there to save your life?
"Can I go at the age of 7?" Can I go at 104 cm high? ”
Natsu didn't know how to answer this poor little girl, and tears came out of her eyes in an instant.
The next day, Natsu took Nan nan to see the seabirds, and Nan looked at the flying seabirds and cried out to the sea:
"Take away Pi Nan too!"
Looking at the abused girl in front of her and abandoned by her mother desperately trying to survive, Natsu suddenly had a plan:
She decided to take Minan out of here and start her life in a new place.
"Daomu, listen well, I want to kidnap you."
"Teacher, won't you be caught and sent to jail?"
"Maybe."
"The cell is made of stone, it's cold and dark, and there are rats, and you can't take a bath yet, no."
At this time, Natsu couldn't manage so much, and only wanted to save Qiannan, she said:
"I may not be doing the right thing, and you may have a more difficult time, but I want to be your mother and want to live with you."
We went together to a place where no one knew us, where I was your mother and you were my daughter.
Two people have lied together for a lifetime and can't tell anyone, can you do it?
Piannan, can you call me Mommy? ”
After listening to Natsu's words, Nan Nan hugged Na Xu tightly and shouted, "Mom, Nan's mother." ”
Man has no unprovoked hatred, nor unprovoked love.
Because Natsu is also a child who has been hurt by his own mother since childhood.
Abandoned from an early age, she grew up under the care of her adoptive mother.
Although her adoptive mother treats her well, she will never be more at ease than her own mother's love.
Natsu's love for Yinan is also the redemption of the shadow of childhood, and she wants to help an unfortunate girl out of the sea of suffering by giving her maternal love, just as she has always longed to find her birth mother.
People who lack maternal love in childhood will love their children even more, because they want to compensate for the shortcomings of childhood by giving maternal love.
There is a line in the play:
"Human beings are divided into men and women, and there is another category, that is, mothers."
So what does the so-called mother look like?
Some people are mothers but have no motherhood, and some people are not mothers, but they are better than mothers.
Remember the story of Sun Yuqing, a post-90s girl, who took her adoptive mother with dementia to graduate school?
Sun Yuqing was abandoned from childhood, her adoptive parents were 65 and 51 years old when they picked her up, and the neighbors said that "it would be good to be able to feed her", but they never thought of giving up this little life.
They made a living by picking up and selling scrap, which not only pulled her up, but also made her study all the way to college.
In the third year of high school, his adoptive father died of illness.
Fate was really not fair to this weak girl, the adoptive father died, and the adoptive mother's health deteriorated, and she also had Alzheimer's disease.
After being admitted to graduate school, in order not to leave her mother alone at home, she asked for help from the school, and finally with the help of the school, she took her mother to study and live together.
I once saw a sentence:
True relatives are not determined by blood relations, but by the heart that awaits you.
There is only one kind of relative in this world, that is, the people who care about you and hurt you, whether they are related by blood or not, are your relatives.
Whether it is Qiannan, Naixu, or Sun Yuqing and his adoptive mother, although they are not related by blood, they are the closest and most cherished people to each other.
So remember that those who are genuinely good to you and feel that they deserve to be treated well are truly happy.
03 There is no mother who does not love her children
Looking at the moon leaf vegetables, an old lady from a neighbor's house that Nai Xu met on the way to escape.
Her gaze was always so gentle, she liked to constantly lean over and say sorry, and she never dared to look at the things around her with her head down.
However, such a gentle person can kill people and abandon a child who is only 5 years old and needs to be warmed with love.
Naissui is very grateful for her care, and also confides in her that she was abandoned by her birth mother, and later Wangyue accidentally learns that Naisu is her daughter.
When she learns of Natsu's predicament, she uses her life savings to help her get through it, but Natsu thinks that Mochizuki wants to atone for her sins in this way and does not want to forgive her at all.
However, what Wangyue did not tell Naixu was that When she was 5 years old, Naixu saw that she was abused by her father and set fire to her family's house.
She was afraid that Nai Xu would be guilty, so she chose to take all the blame for Nai Xu, and she did not intend to abandon her daughter.
All this, Natsuki forgot, and Mochizuki endured the humiliation of being misunderstood, still refusing to tell the truth.
Maybe she didn't want her daughter to live her life with guilt.
As a mother, in order to protect her children, she helps Natsu and Nan to escape, become accomplices, commit a second crime, give up all her possessions, and embark on the road to escape again.
And this series of actions is so firm and decisive.
Because this is the mother, willing to sacrifice everything for the sake of the child, even her own life.
I read a story online about a mother who said she liked to eat fish heads and that she always kept the best fish for her children.
When the child grows up, he understands that it is not the mother who likes to eat fish heads, it is a simple expression of maternal love.
We have too many mothers who secretly swallow all the bitterness of life and send the sweetness of candy to their children's mouths.
As the saying goes:
"Maternal love is the admonition of a bitter mouth in a confused time;
Mother's love is a heartfelt clang when traveling far;
Maternal love is the kind smile of loneliness and helplessness. ”
The secular mother in life always has to face all kinds of hardships, and the real mother's love will secretly wipe away the tears and smile at the child.
Children who truly have a sense of happiness must be children who grow up in a wisp of maternal love.
Later, when Heran's biological mother found her in Tokyo, she said calmly:
"Pi Nan is dead, I am Ji Mei."
Mom asked:
"Don't you love your mother anymore?"
"You're not my mother, you can't say love, you can't say you don't love."
A mother who does not love her children will eventually be abandoned by her children.
On the contrary, under the understanding of Naixu, the mother and daughter reconciled as before, and Naixu accompanied her seriously ill mother to quietly complete the last journey of her life.
In the eyes of the world, Naisui is not a mother, and Wangyue is not a mother, but in the eyes of the children, they are the best mothers.
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04
Remember the poster at the beginning of the article?
The letter "t" in Mother becomes a cross.
I once saw an article that said:
In the Christian faith, the cross is both a painful marker of the crucifixion of the Son of God and a sign of victory over jesus' resurrection.
A more common metaphor is that the cross is a "sign of love."
God's suffering brings healing, and God's blood brings regeneration.
The cross is a sign of love for the believer's regeneration and victory!
I don't know if you have noticed that the love of motherhood and the love of Christ are so similar.
It is too difficult to carry the identity of mothers, they can suffer for us, suffer for us, and even sacrifice their lives for their children;
Just as Jesus was crucified and suffered himself, in exchange for the peace and joy of his children.
With the name mother, we learned to carry the weight forward.
What is maternal love?
I can't give a precise definition, I just know that before I was born, she waited for me eagerly, pampered me as I grew up, and pestered me.
This love even seeped into every pore of mine until she exhausted herself, and I didn't understand it until I was late.
Only when you become a mother will you know that there is really a more important existence in this world than your own life.
Some people are lucky, there is a mother who loves themselves, but there are also some people who don't seem to have such good luck.
Heaven predestined us not to choose blood, but we can choose love.
The place of birth may not be the homeland, but the place of peace of mind; those who are related by blood may not be relatives, but love is the one.