The following is a text version of the content of the forgotten fish scales with the same name, such as the vibrato number and the watermelon video
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There was a man who, one day, suddenly received a long letter, all the infatuation written to himself by a woman who had a crush on him all her life.
And this Viennese Don Juan-like scumbag, who was used to a life of lightness, gaming, and not heavy everything, he couldn't remember who the other person was.
So is it useful to love someone, to be good to a person, and to remember? Useless, first of all, does not conform to the laws of economics, economics has a concept called diminishing marginal benefits, that is, getting along for a long time, the stimulation and happiness brought by your continuous good will decrease with the increase of the number, the same thing, such as hugging, such as going somewhere to play, an old person and a new person accompany you, often new people because of uncertainty, freshness, appear more attractive.
So love has a bottleneck period, many people also go forward and die in the dead cycle of freshness, and even we have an old saying called Doumi Yangen Dan Rice Raising Hatred, well, it must be two-way and rhythmic. Because the course of love will become more and more complex and evolve, you need to go through the fog and overcome difficulties and bottlenecks.
I often say in the group, do not meet bad opponents, and the weak will be very unlucky to move forward, because only love is not enough, you also need to manage its various strengths, such as beliefs, such as means and methods, this process will inevitably encounter twists and turns, once there is a problem will consume a lot of mental energy, and those weak will run away, so only love but weak, it is very terrible.
And that's not enough, more terrible to fall into that kind of self-indulgent, emotionally driven love, like the heroine of the story we are talking about today, the book is called "A Letter from a Strange Woman" the masterpiece of the great god Zweig, perhaps you will understand a truth, spiritual loyalty seems to be more difficult than physical betrayal.
The love of the self, in the end, is also lost in the self
Zweig tells the story of a crush with a very delicate brushwork, a woman has a crush on a man for a lifetime, has sex with him several times, and gives birth to a son. Forced by life, fell into the wind and dust.
But until the woman died, the man still did not know her name, and there was no trace of her memory. When I first read it, I was amazed for a long time, how can a male writer have such a feminine psychology? This story is easy to understand as a situation where feminist friends spit on it, that is, a woman wastes her life for a scumbag, but if you really read it, it is not like this, and what the author reveals for you is an extreme form of love, a personality, a love that is completely driven by emotion.
You know, aestheticistic sensual love, even more so, it hits those who are still bearing the same weight as the mountain that has the precise purity requirements for love.
Therefore, the transition relies on sensibility to mobilize self-driven love, it is easy to dedicate herself to the fantasy set by herself, the heroine loves is actually a person imagined in her heart, I tell you that there is no preparation for life, it is easy to be a brain fever, so the heroine's love is not real. She would rather have a dewy affair with him than walk into the other person's real life, she does not have the courage and ability, and subconsciously fears that real life will break the illusion in her heart. This feeling is nothing more than a distortion that incorporates a strong sense of self.
So, she is a very egotistical person, she has neither way nor will she enter each other's souls, and all the narratives in the book are wishful thinking from her point of view. With repeated mental cues, I trapped myself in it and eventually evolved into an obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Fall in love with him, fall in love with the person you set himself, fall in love with the belief that "you love him". It's a one-way emotion, and it's not so much that the strange woman sacrifices herself to that person as it is to the "love" she has set.
Teaching someone to lick a dog is tantamount to making money and killing people
Will a love built on a humble basis have good results? It is difficult, rational and thoughtful love must be firm and sharp, is straightforward, not afraid of hurting the attack, behind the humble licking dog is actually the weak person's smile and inferiority to himself, is self-protection, just like the heroine touched their own narcissism.
So, I don't want you to reinforce your doubts and powerlessness about love after watching this video, and I don't want you to experience a bleak and cold feeling like me, rather than the enthusiasm of fighting for yourself.
Because the disappearance of this self-extinguishing courage is the sadness of adults, thinking that sober consciousness is actually another ridiculous kind of self-made cleverness. I hope you are still brave, but the best thing you do is the right choice with rational thinking, and your courage should be left to firmness rather than impulsiveness, after all, love is our powerful weapon, and it can achieve each other with good use, and it is not a shield for you to let yourself go.