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There is nothing stupid about a woman than thinking that she can change a man.
When you meet a prodigal son, you dream of being the one who can get him back to shore; meet someone who doesn't love you, and help him find a reason to stay with him and wait for him to change for you.
Men are a single-celled creature, many of their ideas are not so complicated, and they do not require you to go around in order to find his love, their love and non-love, are very obvious.
It's just that many women like to deceive themselves and are unwilling to admit that the other party does not love themselves, such an indisputable fact, rather than live in the illusion of love all the time.
When you feel that the other person is hot and cold to you; when you feel that the other person has no patience for you and always loses his temper for no reason; when you feel that the other person does not reply to messages and always pretends to be busy, you should know that he is not in love.
However, you can't convince yourself, so you choose to deceive yourself.
Like the strange woman in Zweig's writing, in "Letters from a Strange Woman", the strange woman has been deeply in love with Mr. R since she was a teenager. Later, he took the initiative many times and accidentally conceived his child, but found that he had no place in his heart.
But she didn't mind, in order to give her children a good growth environment and education, she did not hesitate to fall into the wind and dust and ruined her life.
In the end, Mr. R didn't even know who she was, and in his opinion, she was just a strange woman who had a dewy affair with herself, no different from the thousands of strange women she had met before.
All along, the strange woman is just living in the illusion of her own weaving, she does not understand the creature of man at all, thinking that if she can have the most intimate relationship with herself, she must love herself.
As everyone knows, men are animals that are driven by desire without love, and Mr. R does not love her, but only uses her as a pastime.
The reason why the girl's fate is so tragic is because she spent half her life with someone who did not love her. Instead of spending time with someone who doesn't love you, it's better to stop the loss in time.
When you find out that a man starts treating you this way, it's time to leave, and there's no point in loving anymore.
One: Lying to you shows no sense of responsibility
If a man loves you, he will never bear to cheat on you repeatedly in words, because he is afraid that you will be disappointed, and he is even more afraid that you will lose trust in him.
Only when he doesn't want to be responsible for you will he lie, just to coax you into a momentary peace of mind.
Just like after R Reality had an intimate relationship with the girl, in order to get rid of the girl's entanglement with herself, he tricked her into saying that he was going to go on a business trip far away. Give the girl some hope and tell her that he will definitely come back to her.
It was because of this promise that the girl's life fell into a long wait, she waited for the return of her beloved, but she never thought that the original promise was just a lie he said casually.
When the girl goes looking for Mr. R and finds that he has already returned, she should realize that he is deceiving herself in the first place. If the girl could wake up in time at that time, she would not have had so many involvements in the back.
Second: the communication process always wants to go straight to the subject, indicating that the intention is obvious
Every time Mr. R is with the girl, he will suggest that the girl stays overnight, and when he first met, he has a quick relationship with the girl, which is obviously not really loving the girl.
If a man really loves you, he will never be so anxious to get you, he will enjoy every date with you, even if it is just a walk and chat, he will cherish and be very satisfied.
Even if he wants to take the relationship of two people further, he will respect your ideas.
If a man is too purposeful, he only sees you as his prey, not his beloved.
If you still choose to be with him at this time, you must be prepared not to be cherished, and this relationship is most likely fruitless, and it will be exchanged for scars.
Zweig's "Letter from a Strange Woman" exposes many truths in love that women dare not admit.
Many people think that the portrayal of Mr. R's image is too dramatic, as if the plot was designed to highlight his scum, in fact, there are not a few men like him in real life.
Drama comes from life, and real life is often more amazing than drama.
In love, women should maintain moderate rationality and sobriety, and do not let the momentary pleasure reduce the IQ and blind the eyes. The novel "Letter from a Strange Woman" suggests that every woman should read it carefully.
Only after reading it will you know what kind of means a man will use if he wants to deceive you, and if a woman cannot read a man's heart, she will always be wishful thinking and will make herself into what kind of situation.
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