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Song Dandan's greatest courage in this life is to personally call Yingda on the third day of his derailment: "I have cheated, let's get a divorce." ”
Now, 25 years later, Song Dandan's daughter-in-law is pregnant with her second child, is the feud between the two over?
Recently, Batu's wife, Wang Bogu, was pregnant and posted a short video on a social platform to share her daily life.
Wang Bogu in the video does not apply powder, looks very simple, although the figure is slightly bloated because of pregnancy, but the face still looks thin, and the limbs are also very slender.
When Wang Bogu was filming the video, Batuu was choosing dishes in the kitchen, and the action looked very skillful, like a "master husband" in the family.
The couple seemed very affectionate.
Wang Bogu is actually seven years older than Batuu, and it is said that at first Song Dandan was somewhat opposed to the two being together, fearing that his son would be bullied.
Later, Wang Bogu impressed Song Dandan with his sincerity, and now the family is living in harmony.
I often see a family of several happy shopping and gatherings, but in this family, only Batu's father Yingda is missing.
According to Song Dandan, after her divorce from Yingda, Batuu once took the initiative to go to see Yingda, but was refused, and Song Dandan has been waiting for Yingda to see her son, so she has not changed her mobile phone number for 14 years, and the result has not waited for Yingda.
Instead, yingda and another young son showed "father-son love" in major programs.
What did Song Dandan do wrong to make Indah treat his own son Batuu like this? Even now that the son marries and has children, he does not appear.
How big a vendetta is this, how much resentment is this?
One
Before Song Dandan and Yingda got married, there was a short and failed marriage.
She was just 22 years old that year, her face was full of collagen, beautiful like the flower fairy in the painting, and naturally attracted the favored eyes of countless handsome men.
She had known a handsome guy for only a month, and then she had hastily married each other.
As a result, this marriage lasted only one year, and when the divorce was granted, the man made a request, and after Song Dandan became famous, he should not mention his name.
It is precisely because of this that Song Dan's marriage partner has become a mystery.
At that time, Song Dandan had just graduated from the performance training class of the Beijing People's Art Theater and became an actor in "Beijing Renyi", because of this identity, she was associated with Yingda.
At the beginning of Song Dandan's first marriage, Yingda was studying at Peking University, and became acquainted with a female classmate of the student and entered the palace of marriage.
The two had a common dream, and in 1985, the couple went to the United States to study theater and did not know what was happening, and two years later the two divorced.
In 1987, Yingda, who returned from school, also entered the "Beijing Renyi" and became colleagues with Song Dandan, who were not familiar with each other at first.
Once, when Song Dandan was rehearsing the play "Arsonist", she was extremely thirsty, but she forgot to bring water, and it happened that Yingda was standing aside with a water cup.
Then Song Dandan walked up to Yingda a little shyly and asked him very embarrassed, "Can I drink your water?" I'm not sick. ”
Seeing the shy-eyed beauty in front of her, Indah replied very humorously: "There is no water, but I have (disease)." ”
After saying that, the two looked at each other and smiled, and began to become acquainted.
At that time, Yingda was extremely attentive to Song Dandan, caring for her, and would write love poems to her, and in the face of such a talent, Song Dandan could not avoid being moved.
Because the two had a failed marriage before this, this time both were very cautious, until they admired each other for two years, and then officially entered the palace of marriage.
Still, it was a failed marriage that ended in the two of them cheating on each other.
Two
In fact, the combination of Song Dandan and Yingda, in some ways, can be said to be a match made in heaven, and their careers have advanced by leaps and bounds after marriage.
Of course, in terms of fame, Song Dandan is bigger, and she stains the light of the Spring Festival Gala stage.
In 1989, Song Dandan stood on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala and performed a program called "Lazy Man Blind Date" with Lei Kesheng and Zhao Lianjia.
Song Dandan plays a rustic rural woman in the show.
A sentence "My name is Wei Shufen" made Song Dandan a hit, of course, the most classic is the "White Cloud, Black Earth" series of sketches that she and Zhao Ben cooperated with.
"I am a white cloud"
"I am black earth"
"I'm Seventy-One"
"I'm Seventy-Five"
, "I belong to the chicken"
"I am a tiger"
"This is my husband"
"This is my mother"
These classic lines still surround people's ears to this day...
In short, since "Lazy Man Blind Date", Song Dandan has become popular, from an excellent drama actor to the most popular sketch actor of the year.
Yingda is also not bad, after getting married, not only won the "Hundred Flowers Award" for best actor, but also became the director of "Beijing People's Art Theater".
The two had a good time, and Batuu was born in the year when the couple's career was booming.
If there are no accidents, Batuu will also grow up in the favor of his parents, and when he gets married, his father will sit there kindly and send his sincerest wishes.
Unfortunately, all this has changed, and the change occurred in 1993, when Batuu was just 3 years old.
Three
In this year, Song Dandan was already a well-known sketch actor, and Yingda was only a small director with an indisputable reputation.
"Strong women and weak men" have always been a taboo of feelings, and many couples have broken down their feelings because of this.
Indah had been looking for an opportunity, an opportunity to prove herself, and finally this opportunity came.
In 1993, Yingda pulled Wang Shuo to save a project called "I Love My Home", with Yingda as the director and Wang Shuo as the screenwriter.
In order to support her husband's career, Song Dandan also joined "I Love My Family".
As a result, when it came to pulling investment, Wang Shuo suddenly picked a pick, he was also righteous enough, did not let Yingda care, but introduced the famous screenwriter Liang Zuojin group.
And Liang Zuo's sister Liang Huan also followed into the group to help.
Liang Huan is also a screenwriter, although not as long as Song Dandan, but he and Yingda have a lot of common language.
As the work of "I Love My Home" unfolded, Indah became busier and busier, and naturally more neglected to accompany Song Dandan, in the tenth year of their marriage.
Song Dandan finally couldn't bear the loneliness, she cheated.
At that time, Song Dandan was very ashamed, felt sorry for her husband, and called Yingda on the third day of being good with the man: "I cheated, let's get a divorce." ”
Indah agreed decisively.
In 1997, the two went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a divorce certificate, and after coming out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Song Dandan accidentally found the pager left by Yingda in the car, which was Liang Huan's extremely ambiguous text message: Is the matter done well? When will you be back?
Four
At that time, all the guilt and shame of Song Dandan turned into anger, and at this time she realized that the person who cheated first was not herself.
I also understood why Indah stayed up all night.
Song Dandan's anger was even peaked a month after the divorce because Yingda married Liang Huan, and the next year the two gave birth to a son, Yingrudi...
What annoyed Song Dandan even more was Yingda's very different attitude towards his two sons.
In the face of the younger son, Yingda showed unparalleled fatherly love, eager to hold his son in the palm of his hand, and frequently showed his father-son relationship in variety shows.
When he was on the show, he said that if he could only take three things with him in space, it must be Mozart's CD, a book, and a photo of his young son.
He even publicly "showed love" in a variety show: "This is YingruDi's father, and I feel very honored." ”
A father who uses the word "honor" to describe his relationship with his son must have loved him to the bone and could do anything for him.
When Yingrudi was very young, Yingda accompanied him to play the piano, and later found that his son was not very interested in the piano, but liked ice hockey.
Although this is a very unpopular project, Indah still gives his son unparalleled support.
Not only did he personally accompany his son to train together, but also spent a lot of money to send his son to the United States for further study, in order to take care of his son, he did not hesitate to fly to the United States many times...
At home, Yingda is in full swing, foreign is his beloved son, and Yingda, who wants "fish" and "bear paw", can only run between the two places.
Yingda can say that all his hard work has been put on the younger son, and seeing him like this, no one has said that he is not good, not a qualified father.
However, such a responsible person showed an extremely indifferent side to the eldest son, Batuu.
Five
When Song Dandan and Inda divorced, Batuu was just seven years old, and his dependence on his father made it impossible for him to stop his father's thoughts.
And Song Dandan is also a very reasonable person, and did not stop his son from seeing his father.
One day Batuu begged Indah to take him out to play once, but Indah ignored him, leaving a wound in Batuu's young mind that was difficult to heal.
At the age of 11, Batuu, who had not seen his father for a long time, wanted to ask him for a phone number, but Indah refused...
In the 14 years since the divorce, Song Dandan has been waiting for Indah to "change his mind", expecting him to make a phone call one day: "I miss my son." ”
For this hope, Song Dandan did not even dare to change the phone number, but Yingda did not, he gave all his love to Yingrudi.
While treating Batuu coldly, Indah carefully cared for Yingrudi, who was also his son, and the two had very different positions in his heart.
This greatly annoyed Song Dandan.
I don't know if it's for unfair appeals, or to vent anger in my heart, or just to record my emotional life.
Six
In 2007, Song Dandan wrote a book called "The Depths of Happiness", in which Song Dandan deeply interpreted her emotional life, of which the description of her and Yingda was the most profound.
There is sweetness:
"He was 49 days older than me, we fell in love at 27, broke up at 37, and spent the most important time of our lives together, from romantic and carefree youth to heart-wrenching middle age."
There are complaints:
"I was happy for 9 and a half of my 10 years with Indah, but at that time the divorce was proposed by me because I had the only extramarital affair, and he didn't keep it (at that time, Yingda was in love with Liang Huan). In the past 10 years, I have only called him once for my son. ”
More grievances:
"We rented a one-bedroom house with an astonishingly high monthly rent. During the day, I wash my face with tears, and at night I talk with a pillow, crying about my miserable situation. ”
After the divorce, Song Dandan was once very miserable, at that time she had no drama, no economic income, and once wanted to publish a book to "sell privacy" to make money.
The fragment of "The Depths of Happiness" about Yingda is the manuscript written by Song Dandan during that difficult period.
Seven
After the publication of "The Depths of Happiness", it did add a lot of twists and turns to Yingda's life, and Song Dandan's frankness about "extramarital love" added a lot of trouble to Yingda, which made him very dissatisfied:
"I graduated from Peking University Psychology, and I personally believe that this kind of book publishing is a kind of mental illness called nudity."
However, Yingda still retains the quality of a cultural person.
Not like Liu Xiaoqing's ex-husband Chen Guojun, after Liu Xiaoqing published a copy of "My Road".
Immediately after writing a book "The Story That Liu Xiaoqing and I Had to Tell", in this book, Chen Guojun defended the overly self-contained part of Liu Xiaoqing's book, which seemed very small and childish.
Nor did he, like Xiao Hua, publish a book exaggerating zhang Yimou after Zhang Yimou and Gong Li were well established...
Unless necessary, Indah rarely mentions the names of Song Dandan and Batuu in public.
In the face of repeated questions from reporters, Indah also made a clear response to why he treated Batuu so coldly.
Indah believes that if you are divorced, don't come to me.
He said very frankly: "I personally don't believe in friends, separated is separated... To start a new life, you have to close the original page completely, including not seeing children..."
Another reason is equally sufficient: "If I meet my eldest son, I am afraid of hurting his feelings with his stepfather and producing bad results." ”
It's a great one.
That's what Indah said and did, and for more than twenty years after that, he ignored Batuu, even when his father Ying Ruocheng died and Batu wanted to worship.
Batuu does not let go: I don't know if Batuu is still called Inbatu now!
In addition, it is inconceivable that the brothers Ying rudi and Batu have never seen each other.
Yingda's explanation seems reasonable, but it has not been praised by netizens, but he feels that he is very cold-blooded, after all, it is his own flesh and blood.
After the divorce, your eldest son is no longer your son?
Today, Batuu is 31 years old, is already a father of two children, Indah does not seem to have the intention of reconciling with his son, it seems that this period of father-son relationship has really become a strange road.
Maybe walking on the street, after the two meet, they may not say hello, so why bother? I hope that Yingda can be more open-minded and think about it earlier, after all, it is your son!
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