1. The path of exploring the source of happiness
Looking back, the love story between Song Dandan and his daughter-in-law Wang Bogu is tortuous and moving, and the process of gradually becoming recognized from doubt is undoubtedly emotional. As a well-known theater, film and television artist at home and abroad, Song Dandan's outstanding achievements in his long artistic career and the deep love given by the audience are well known.
However, her life experience has not been smooth sailing, and she has experienced a failed marriage with her ex-husband Yingda, and her pursuit and yearning for happiness are naturally deep and strong.
When Song Dandan's beloved son Batu returned from his studies in the United States and showed a strong interest and firm belief in the acting career, although she was skeptical about her son's choice, seeing the determination and enthusiasm in his son's eyes, she finally decided to wholeheartedly support his son to pursue his dream.
It was in the hit TV series "The Happy Life of the Golden Wolf" starring her that Batu met Wang Bogu, a Beijing girl who was seven years older.
At the beginning, Song Dandan didn't pay too much attention to this, after all, her relationship with Wang Bogu was not very close in the play. However, as time passed, Batu could not suppress his inner excitement and honestly told his mother that he was in a passionate relationship with Wang Bogu.
In the face of this sudden news, Song Dandan had mixed feelings in her heart that she had suffered setbacks in her marriage and had a deep understanding of the preciousness of happiness, so she naturally did not want her son to fall into the same predicament again.
Looking at his son's unwavering affection for Wang Bogu, Song Dandan could only sigh silently. She knows that the road of love is often full of thorns, so how can she forcibly interfere with the free love of others? As a person who has gone through vicissitudes, her heart is undoubtedly full of contradictions.
2. Mother's worries and doubts
When Song Dandan learned that her son Batu's girlfriend Wang Bogu was seven years older than him and had bad habits such as smoking, her worries and doubts could be imagined. As a woman with rich experience, Song Dandan knows that happiness is not easy to come by, so she instinctively believes that this relationship with a large age gap is difficult to last, and some of Wang Bogu's living habits also worry her.
She once said to Batu earnestly: "Son, you are seven years younger than the other party, and you must be fully mentally prepared. Since you choose to associate with her, it is for the purpose of getting married.
If it's just playing with feelings, then I suggest you break up immediately."
"Batu replied with deep emotion: 'We love each other with all our hearts, regardless of age, and we feel very well matched and happy together.' Seeing the firm belief in loyalty in his son's eyes, Song Dandan suddenly fell into deep thought.
She clearly recalled the days when she came to this city with enthusiasm to chase her dreams, but unfortunately suffered the frustration of her marriage, she was afraid that her son would follow in her footsteps, suffer pain and suffering, however, she was unwilling to interfere too much with her son's right to choose, lest her strong opposition have the opposite effect, and the inner contradiction can be imagined.
However, as time passed, Song Dandan gradually eliminated the doubts in his heart by observing the details of his son's relationship with Wang Bogu. She found that Batu had indeed grown a lot in this relationship, becoming more mature and steady, responsible, and more serious and responsible for his feelings.
Therefore, she made up her mind to respect and support her son's decision, confident that he would make a wise choice.
3. Doubts from the outside world
In 2017, Wang Bogu and Batu held a low-key wedding in Beijing, but there are many doubts about the 7-year-old couple. Someone frankly suggested to Song Dandan, believing that with the superior conditions of their family and Batu's talent and appearance, they were fully capable of finding a partner of the same age and the right family for their son.
Some people even directly pointed out that Wang Bogu's personality is too strong, and he is worried that the gentle and elegant Batu may be hurt in this marriage, after all, according to the traditional concept, the husband should work hard outside the home, while the wife should take care of the housework at home, showing a docile and considerate side.
For a modern woman like Wang Bogu, who is "seven years older than Batu", the public generally holds a certain prejudice. Of course, some people harshly criticized Wang Bogu's bad habit of smoking, believing that this behavior would have a negative impact on the education of future children, and urged Song Dandan to strictly control this "young daughter-in-law".
In the face of these complicated doubts, Song Dandan's heart couldn't help but waver. As a mother, she naturally hopes that her son will marry a beautiful and gentle wife, as she says: "Exquisite makeup and gentle temperament."
However, she understands that as an outsider, it is difficult for her to deeply explore the way her son and daughter-in-law get along with each other, as well as each other's personalities and interests. After all, they are the protagonists of the relationship, and neither party can interfere in the family life of others.
Therefore, in the face of all kinds of doubts, Song Dandan resolutely chose to remain silent. She is convinced that as long as her son and daughter-in-law can take care of this relationship, they will be able to create their own happy harbor together.
Happily, over time, Wang Bogu gradually learned how to be considerate and considerate of others, while Batu became more calm and mature, and the way they got along with each other won praise from everyone.
Part 4: Harmonious coexistence
After their marriage, Wang Bogu and Batu made remarkable progress in many aspects. They have learned to understand and tolerate each other, and when they encounter problems, they always have a calm attitude to discuss them, and there are no more tense and fierce quarrels in the past.
One side is no longer stuck to the rules and has difficulty adapting to the new environment; The other side is no longer stubborn and inflexible.
Song Dandan witnessed the growth of this young couple. In order to better care for her daughter-in-law and provide love for her future grandchildren, she lives in her son's home almost around the clock.
Although some people worry that this may lead to a rift in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Song Dandan and Wang Bogu are as close as biological sisters.
Both of them have frank and straightforward personalities, and they will express their thoughts directly. Song Dandan used to be a woman with a bold personality, and she understood her daughter-in-law's style very well.
When she happened to witness an argument between the young couple, Song Dandan would also choose to remain silent, because she knew that this was a matter between their husband and wife, and she didn't need to worry too much about it.
Wang Bogu once said that the words "I understand" are the warmest care for men. She deeply understands Batu, and she also understands Song Dandan. She knew that her mother-in-law loved them sincerely and never interfered in their lives at will, but just hoped that they would be happy.
Therefore, whenever Wang Bogu has a disagreement with Batu because of her straightforward personality, she always restrains her emotions and chooses to communicate in private, never causing disputes in front of her mother-in-law.
Batu was deeply touched by this. As a man, he naturally does not want his beloved wife to suffer any grievances. At the same time, he also understands his wife's personality and gradually learns to deal with her straightforward temper with the utmost tolerance and patience.
At home, Wang Bogu will always actively participate in housework to reduce the burden of his wife and interpret endless love through practical actions. Under the sincere and dedicated joint management of this young couple, their sweet little family slowly glows with a taste of life, which makes Song Dandan, a wise elder, deeply admire.
She is sincerely glad that she was not shaken by the malicious slander of others, and let her son's life embark on the road to happiness.
Fifth, a happy family
Now, Wang Bogu and Batu have gone through four years of marriage hand in hand, and their small family has welcomed two lovely baby sons, which can be described as a model of happiness. In terms of career, the young couple has also achieved remarkable achievements, Wang Bogu frequently appeared on TV screens, and participated in many well-received film and television masterpieces; Although Batu is not a first-line star, he is constantly launching his own excellent works.
Life may be uneventful, but the challenges and opportunities it contains are not simple. When there is a scene to film, I devote myself to work, and in my spare time, I can enjoy parent-child time or live broadcast on online platforms, and spend every day in the way closest to life.
It is precisely because of the people-friendly personality traits of the two that they have won the love and support of the audience.
When someone praised Wang Bogu for becoming more and more beautiful now, Batu proudly responded: "Maybe I took too good care of her." Seeing that his wife was still in good shape after giving birth at the age of 38, and the age gap between him and himself gradually blurred, he was extremely proud of his wife's beauty and happiness in his heart.
In fact, this happy family life is the result of the joint efforts of Wang Bogu and Song Dandan's mother and son. At first, Wang Bogu was worried about his mother-in-law's behavior, for fear of inadvertently touching Song Dandan's bottom line.
However, as time went on, she gradually discovered that her mother-in-law was not only intelligent and reasonable, but also extremely patient, and never unreasonably interfered in the life of their husband and wife.
Therefore, Wang Bogu relieved the doubts in his heart and began to take the initiative to ask his mother-in-law for advice on how to get along. She humbly listened to Song Dandan's valuable advice on family management, and at the same time tried her best to restrain her straightforward personality and respect her mother-in-law's dignity as an elder.
Faced with this scene, Song Dandan was more trusting and indulgent, completely handing over the power of the entire family to her daughter-in-law. Although there are occasional instructive suggestions, this is all within the boundaries she has set.
As a result, this three-generation family began to become extremely harmonious, and sincere emotions flowed between each member, forming a large family full of warmth. As a young member of the family, Batu is sincerely grateful to his wife and mother, whose magnanimity and understanding have made the family so happy.