Author: Insight Baby Ning
In 1936, the novel "Gone with the Wind" swept the world as soon as it came out, breaking the sales record in the history of American publishing.
The film "Gone with the Wind", based on the novel, not only won an Oscar, but also created the highest box office revenue of the world's films.
Author Margaret Mitchell established herself as an important figure in the American literary scene with this work alone.
Mr. Yang Dai once commented on "Gone with the Wind":
"Looking at the whole book, it is a history of the decline of the old southern plantation civilization, the history of the growth and struggle of a generation;
Throughout the book, it is like a mournful psychological drama, revealing the process of the heroine's maturity in conflict with her heart with the power of drama. ”
85 years later, reading this book again, I can still follow the footsteps of the heroine Hao Scarlett's growth and harvest the powerful power to inspire the soul.
01
Don't blindly follow, live your true self
De Beauvoir once said:
"People shut the woman in the kitchen or in the boudoir, but are amazed at her limited vision; people break her wings and lament that she cannot fly."
Scarlett lived in an era where there were many requirements for women.
Be gentle, be empathetic, and don't be too ambitious.
In her class, it is generally believed that the most important thing for a girl is to marry a man who is in the right household, and then marry and teach her children to be a qualified noblewoman.
Hao Sijia, who is uninhibited in nature and bold in character, will always be subjected to all kinds of reprimands.
The appetite for eating is bigger, and they will be advised by the nanny black mother: they want a little girl like a rat, with a small appetite like a bird.
She talked and spoke in the crowd.
Black Mother knocked on the side: If a gentleman suspects that you are more knowledgeable than him, he is not happy to marry you.
But Scarlett Hao scoffed at this, her ideal in life is not just to be a "female married person" and live as a person in a trap.
She never blindly followed these conventional rules and lived freely and passionately.
She likes to be in the limelight, talk and laugh at banquets.
She deliberately provoked the young lads and caused them to fight for her.
She dared to take the initiative to pursue love, and took the initiative to confess to the favorite Wei Xili, although she was rejected, she still did not give up.
She danced in mourning clothes, and the elders looked sideways, accusing her of not obeying the woman's way, and she smiled contemptuously.
Even later, she showed up to do business and set up a sawmill, and everyone didn't look favorably on her, but she didn't care and ran the wood factory well.
Those prejudices against women, she did not look at the eyes at all, she was always loyal to herself, always maverick, always living hot.
No matter what era, the public will always have all kinds of prejudices against women.
Many women always care too much about the eyes of others, and they are busy making themselves live as the standard in the eyes of the world.
Nietzsche said, "Don't let our brains become someone else's racetrack." ”
Truly intelligent women, with their own ability to think independently, have their own values.
She knows what she wants, always firmly goes her own way and takes responsibility for her choices.
They are free and free, and they have made themselves a unique landscape.
02
Do not cling, harvest a confident life
After the outbreak of the Civil War, Scarlett's first husband died in the war.
Subsequently, the mother died, and the father was severely injured, insane, and incapacitated.
Overnight, she lost all her dependence and suffered from poverty and hunger.
It was at this time that Scarlett grew up rapidly, and she vowed never to return to such miserable days.
She struggled to find food for her family and soothe their traumatized hearts.
She directed her family's female relatives to grow cotton, not only cultivating it herself, but also taking care of all the dirtiest and most tiring tasks.
At the saddest and most devastating moment, she also wanted to find a place to rely on, so she told Wei Xili about her troubles.
After discovering that Wei Xili was also powerless, the next second, she became strong again.
Bigger blows followed.
The war was over, and the Yankees suddenly raised Tao Le's taxes, unable to come up with a tax of 300 gold coins, which meant that she might lose her estate.
When Scarlett was desperate, she committed herself to the wealthy businessman Frank to solve the tax problem.
After marriage, she was not satisfied with being a rich and idle person, but with Frank's financial support, she set up a lumber factory, opened a restaurant, and single-mindedly started a career.
Although Scarlett Hao has some love brains, her valuable thing is that she has never been attached to the psychology.
If you love someone again, you will not forget yourself and give up your ambitions.
Married to a rich husband, he did not indulge in enjoyment, but took the opportunity to develop his career.
In her heart, working hard to make money, having her own career, and becoming a safe haven for her family is more important than heaven.
Because of this independence and self-improvement, she has experienced the hardships of the world, held high and low, and swallowed a lot of heartache and sorrow alone.
But in the midst of pain, it was refined into steel and grew rapidly. Along the way, I upgraded and fought monsters, allowing myself to reach a new height in life.
03
Not being jealous is the real pattern
Many people have such a misunderstanding, it seems that there is no real friendship between women, except for fighting for the wind and grabbing men, comparing and suppressing each other.
But in fact, friendships between women are sometimes very precious and very powerful.
That's the case with Scarlett And Melanie.
The two were originally lovers of each other.
When Hao Sijia was a teenager, she had a crush on Wei Xili, and even this love was not transferred because Wei Xili got married and had children.
But Wei Xili, who is traditional and introverted by nature, simply does not have the courage to fall in love with a brash girl like Hao Sijia.
Wesley likes her cousin Melanie.
After Wei Xili and Melanie got married, Although Hao Sijia also had a grudge, she even found someone to marry him in order to stimulate him.
However, when Wei Xili joined the army and entrusted Melanie to her care, she still revealed her responsibility and pattern.
When Melanie gave birth, she caught up with the most intense moment of the war, the enemy was approaching, and the war was raging.
Traffic was blocked, there were no doctors, no medication, and no one delivered babies.
Hao Sijia personally went to the battle to deliver the baby for Melanie, and finally the mother and son were safe.
The war ignited in the villa, everyone scattered and fled, and Hao Sijia, who was helpless, took Melanie's mother and son across the blockade line and left the war zone.
After the war, she always treated the couple as relatives, helping them and taking care of them as much as she could.
In the end, she saved the villa and gave the Melanie family a rich life.
Melanie died prematurely due to illness, and before dying, she entrusted her child to Scarlett Hao.
Hao Sijia agreed: "I will treat him like my own child." Go to college, go to Harvard, go to Europe, as long as he wants, he can do whatever he wants. ”
In this life, Hao Sijia's love has been faltering, but she and Melanie have always retained a sincere friendship.
In countless difficult moments, the two women helped each other, felt sorry for each other, and sprouted a comrade-in-arms affection.
Although Scarlett hao has been criticized as a refined egoist, she is a woman with a big pattern on key issues.
Instead of ignoring Melanie's safety out of jealousy, she helped her many times.
It is said that the friendship between women cannot avoid jealousy and comparison.
But truly powerful women have long understood that the most important thing in life is not to compare with others, but to surpass their past selves.
As Hemingway said: "Being superior to others is not noble, and the real nobility is superior to the past self." ”
A woman who knows how to be self-perfect, not to compare, not to be jealous, is a woman who really has a big pattern.
Such a woman is bound to live a prosperous life.
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Through the shadow of war, Hao Scarlett grew from a rich woman who did not understand the world to a big woman who was alone.
Her metamorphosis trajectory is inseparable from her big pattern.
As Yu Qiuyu said: "The pattern of human life is large, and it will not be too heavy in trivial matters." ”
A woman's pattern is large, she will not let the worldly evaluation control herself, will not lose herself in love, and will not let jealousy blind her eyes.
Click "Like it", and for the rest of your life, I hope you will keep your heart, enlarge the pattern, and live your most wonderful appearance.
Even the passage of time cannot erase the influence of "Gone with the Wind" on future generations.
Just like Scarlett's classic quote: "No matter what, tomorrow is a new day", has always inspired us to bravely face life.
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