Regarding Mao Yisheng, the person who has been most evaluated in history is his great contribution to the cause of building bridges in China. But underneath this glorious feat, it is his bumpy love history.
He and his wife, Dai Chuanhui, are truly in love with each other, and the two even have six children together.
But his married life was ruined by his own hands.
Mao to rise
When he was married, he fell in love with another woman and gave birth to a child with her, and these Dai Chuanhui did not know, she did not know, her husband was busy outside all day, in fact, there was a long time with another woman.
But in the end, the paper wrapped could not hold the fire, and later, the girl named Quan Guiyun entered the room and forced Dai Chuanhui and Mao Yisheng to divorce with her half-grown child.
At that time, Quan Guiyun, wishful thinking that Mao Yisheng and himself were true love, and this original match named Dai Chuanhui was the biggest obstacle between them, Mao Yisheng looked at Dai Chuanhui's childbearing and refused to pick it out, then she would come to be this evil person, no matter what, she would snatch Mao Yisheng over.
I thought that I had given birth to a child, and I could become a weapon to blackmail Dai Chuanhui and pull Mao Yisheng to my side, but I didn't think about her mixing, which directly caused all three of them to fall into the abyss.
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What is love? If you answer with Mao Yisheng's words, it is that he will meet Dai Chuanhui when he is young, and he will meet Quan Guiyun in his old age.
Does Mao Yisheng love Dai Chuanhui? Of course, love, even if Dai Chuanhui is deeply tormented by illness later, even if Quan Guiyun appears, it will not be consumed by half a point, because the marriage with Dai Chuanhui itself is to marry first and then love, and to understand and know each other deeply.
He could even vividly remember the first time he saw Dai Chuanhui, when Mao Yisheng was eighteen years old, in the years of youth and madness, and his parents had done their best for his marriage. At that time, most of the people of Mao Yisheng's age were already married, and his parents also hoped that he would marry early and let them hold their grandchildren as soon as possible.
Even if Mao Yisheng did not want to marry early. But in the end, no matter how reluctant he was, he still met with Dai Chuanhui, who was a year older than himself, under the arrangement of his aunt.
However, on this side, Mao Yisheng fell in love with the beautiful and dignified Dai Chuanhui at first sight and swept away his previous reluctance.
Mao Yisheng's parents asked Mao Yisheng how he was after the two met, and Mao Yisheng said shyly: I have never seen such a beautiful girl, saying that Dai Chuanhui is gentle and kind, knowledgeable and reasonable, and has a dignified and elegant demeanor. To the parents to praise the passing of the hui, parents hear this how can not understand their son.
Mao Yisheng's mother also smiled and said to her son: "This girl is so good, who didn't want to meet before?" Mao Yisheng was still slightly blushing and did not speak.
And Dai Chuanhui's parents also have a very good impression of Mao Yisheng. In this way, the two families were summed up, and the marriage date of the two was set.
Dai Chuanhui's grandmother was a well-known lady, and her grandfather was a reader. Dai Chuanhui was even more excellent, and Dai Chuanhui inherited the beauty and elegant and intellectual temperament of her grandmother, and then studied with her grandfather. Naturally, it is different from ordinary boudoir, Mao Yisheng always talks with her, and Dai Chuanhui can talk to his heart.
"If you have a wife like this, why should your husband ask for it again", Mao Yisheng loved his wife even more.
Soon after, Dai Chuanhui gave birth to the eldest son Mao Yuyue, as his first child, Mao Yisheng was naturally very happy, as long as he was idle, he would hold his son around, and even did not forget to grab the child's hands and feet to write.
But at this time, Mao Yuyue only knew how to suckle and snor, which would write what words? Mao Yisheng sometimes annoyed him, and the little guy began to cry recklessly, at this time, Dai Chuanhui, no matter what he was doing, would definitely run over and pick up the child.
"They told you that the child is too young to distinguish between people, why don't you listen?" Dai Chuanhui blamed Mao Yisheng while coaxing the child in a soft voice: "You go to help me look at some pots, I am still cooking." ”
Watching his son obediently sleeping in his wife's arms, Mao Yisheng could say anything, so he had to laugh and run to look at the pot that burned the fire, waiting for his wife to coax the child over.
I thought that the days would be so beautiful and happy, but I didn't think that as the time of Mao Yisheng's examination was getting closer and closer, a separation was coming.
Dai Chuanhui and Mao Yisheng
So she said, "You can't stay at home, you have to go to the United States, and then learn great knowledge and complete your ideals, I don't understand your academic matters, but I can help you run this home well, you can rest assured." ”
As soon as he thought about it, his heart was very unpleasant, and then he suddenly realized that unconsciously, the word "home" had become the most important word in his life.
Dai Chuanhui did not know anything about Mao Yisheng's thoughts, she only knew that her husband had taken the postgraduate examination, and today was the time when the results were announced, so she prepared meals early and waited at home to celebrate Mao Yisheng's good results.
Why is Dai Chuanhui so confident in mao's rising results? On the one hand is trust in one's own husband. On the other hand, Mao Yisheng has a very high attainment in academic research, and even sometimes pulls herself together to discuss, although she sometimes listens to it confusedly, but this does not affect her admiration for her husband.
However, even if Dai Chuanhui did not understand, Mao Yisheng did not show any contempt and impatience, but answered her question very carefully, as if in Mao Yisheng' place, knowledge is not a gap between two people.
It is also the erudition shown by Mao Yisheng that makes Dai Chuanhui extra confident.
When Mao Yisheng returned home and looked at the full meal prepared by his wife, mao Yisheng's heart only rose in his heart, and his wife smiled at him with a shallow smile under the coal lamp.
Mao Yisheng (first from right) and Dai Chuanhui (third from right) with their families
Until this time, Mao Yisheng was still holding on to the fluke, hoping that Dai Chuanhui could forget about his exam, but how could this be, before he could swallow a mouthful of rice, Dai Chuanhui opened his mouth: "How is the exam?" Passed? ”
Mao Yisheng's heart suddenly panicked, and after a long time, he slowly nodded his head and whispered.
"I'll just say you can live." Dai Chuanhui was very happy, simply happy that Mao Yisheng could pass the exam, but he did not know that her husband was very uncomfortable now.
Looking at Dai Chuanhui's confused and joyful look, Mao Yisheng hesitated for a long time, and finally said: "I am a graduate student exam for studying in the United States." ”
Now that he's accepted, it means he's leaving his new wife and studying in the United States.
At this time, Dai Chuanhui also reacted, her eyes widened slightly, and asked in a half-convinced tone: "Does this mean that you will go to the United States in a short time?" ”
Mao Yisheng nodded, only this time he did not make a sound, just silently gave Dai Chuanhui a dish, signaling her to eat more.
But as soon as he thought that Mao Yisheng was leaving, how could Dai Chuanhui still eat? She looked at the meat in her bowl that was specially made for Mao Yisheng and asked, "Then what do you think?" Do you want to stay, or do you want to go to the United States? ”
At that time, many academic masters gathered in the United States, if Mao Yisheng was not married, he would definitely pack up his bags and set off that night after getting his grades.
However, looking at Dai Chuanhui's cautious look, Mao Yisheng was reluctant to do so, and he pretended to be relaxed and said: "The United States is not so good, I have such good grades, and I can also find good teachers and good schools in China." ”
But if it wasn't good, why did he have to take this test?
Over the years, Dai Chuanhui would not know the thoughts in Mao Yisheng's heart, although whenever she thought of this, she felt a sour heart, tears swirling in her eyes, but she knew in her heart that bridge construction was his lifelong dream, and he could not be trapped by himself for this reason.
Although the two have been married for several years, they are still like newlyweds, their feelings are strong, and they are reluctant to leave each other, but even if they are no longer willing, Dai Chuanhui also feels that he cannot delay Mao Yisheng's studies.
In this way, the two reluctantly separated.
In 1917, Mao graduated from Cornell University in the United States as a graduate student majoring in bridges. He received his Ph.D. from Carnegie Institute of Technology (Carnegie Mellon University) in 1919, becoming the first Doctor of Engineering at Carnegie Institute of Technology.
During these three years in the United States, Dai Chuanhui and Mao Yisheng often wrote letters. In the autumn of 1917, a letter sent by Dai Chuanhui to Mao Yisheng was accompanied by a photograph of Dai Chuanhui.
In the photo, Dai Chuanhui is sitting alone, wearing summer clothes and a black skirt on the lower part.
Dai Chuanhui also wrote a poem by Du Fu behind the photo, "When to rely on the false pretense, double photo tear stains dry." Mao Yisheng later mentioned this incident in his autobiography, writing that he had made many copies after receiving the photos, and one was placed in his wallet so that when he missed Dai Chuanhui, he could take it out at any time.
Dai Chuanhui also wrote a letter mentioning a Tang poem he recently saw, "The young woman in the boudoir does not know sorrow." Say, "How can you be unsure?" ”
Yes, two lovers with deep feelings are separated, how can they not be worried?
Just as Mao Yisheng would copy many of Dai Chuanhui's photos after receiving them, Dai Chuanhui's thoughts and sorrows also deepened as the two people separated.
During the three years of separation, Dai Chuanhui himself took his eldest son to live in his mother-in-law's house, with two yuan of pocket money per month.
As the pillar of the family, Mao Yisheng was unable to support Dai Chuanhui in life, and her life was naturally difficult.
But even if there are many difficulties in life, Dai Chuanhui has no complaints, she is filial to her in-laws and takes care of her children at home, just so that when Mao Yisheng returns home in the future, the family can be reunited.
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Later, Mao Yisheng returned to China, because of the war and the changes in his work, he took Dai Chuanhui to move around, and although the family lived a life of near upheaval and displacement, he was still a dutiful husband at this time, and he was a respected father of six children.
But what perfect thing in this world is there?
In 1946, because of the needs of work, Mao Yisheng had to leave the second of his hometown in Nanjing to work in Shanghai, thinking that this was just a simple business trip, and he would go back in a few days, but he did not think that there was a "bomb" buried here, waiting for Mao Yisheng to ignite.
After staying in Shanghai for more than half a year, one day, Mao Yisheng went to the appointment of an old friend as usual, but found that this gathering of two people actually had a little girl, although she was only in her 20s, but the clear and bright pupils attracted Mao Yisheng's eyes.
At that time, Mao Yisheng didn't think much about it, after all, at his age, he hadn't seen anything good,letting alone a little hairy girl.
But what he never expected was that his old friend was going to introduce this little girl to himself.
"That's not okay, my wife and I are very affectionate." Mao Yisheng hastily refused, now he is living a happy life, but he does not want the interference of any third party, and now advocates monogamy, but he does not allow three wives and four concubines as before.
And this little girl is the third person who forced Dai Chuanhui to divorce at the beginning.
At this time, she was only in her twenties, not only young and beautiful, but also very fond of erudite and gentle Mao Yisheng. Even though Mao Yisheng was more than fifty years old, in Quan Guiyun's view, this was his true destiny.
At this time, Quan Guiyun did not care whether Mao Yisheng had a wife. He even believes that Mao Yisheng's marriage is an arranged marriage and has nothing to do with love, and Mao Yisheng rejects her because of his responsibility to his wife.
The original Mao Yisheng was not willing to betray his wife, and repeatedly refused Quan Guiyun. But where could Mao Yisheng resist the admiration of such a woman, after a moment of greed, Mao Yisheng could no longer extricate himself.
In the end, Mao Yisheng still agreed to be with Kwon Guiyun. Even Kwon Guiyun does not have the dignified temperament and understanding of his heart like his wife.
In this way, Mao Yisheng and Quan Guiyun formed a small family in Nanjing, but this small family is a small family that is not seen. Mao Yisheng never talked about Quan Guiyun to the outside world, nor did he mention his own little family. Moreover, Mao Yisheng did not allow Quan Guiyun to bring up this matter to the outside world.
In this way, under the meticulous cover of Mao Yisheng, this small family was completely undetected by Dai Chuanhui who was far away from his hometown. Over time, Kwon gave birth to a daughter in Nanjing. Named Mao Yulin, although Mao Yulin was born, Mao Yisheng did not intend to take Quan Guiyun home, which naturally caused Quan Guiyun's dissatisfaction.
Daughter of Mao Yisheng and Kwon Guiyun
Quan Guiyun repeatedly told Mao Yisheng that he wanted Mao Yisheng to take her back to her hometown, but Mao Yisheng was not willing to let Dai Chuanhui know what had happened in Nanjing. Seeing that Mao Yisheng was unwilling to take himself home, Quan Guiyun had no way.
Until one time an article was found in the newspaper that a man had openly raised an outer chamber under the monogamous system. This was not allowed by society at that time, and it was immediately published in the newspaper to criticize this matter. After seeing this incident, Mao Yisheng felt worried, afraid that his own affairs would be discovered and affect his career, and even more afraid of what would happen to his wife Dai Chuanhui after discovering this matter.
So after settling Quan Guiyun, he returned to his hometown to reunite with Dai Chuanhui.
Quan Guiyun, who was staying in Nanjing, found that things were not quite right, and Mao Yisheng returned to his hometown and no longer saw himself, so what should he do? She often used her daughter as an excuse to let Mao Yisheng visit her daughter in Nanjing. More times, Dai Chuanhui also found that her husband was not quite right, so he mentioned to her husband how to always go to Nanjing.
Mao Yisheng did not dare to say much, but said that he was on a business trip to Nanjing. But over time, paper can't contain the fire. Mao Yisheng felt that it was not a way for him to go on like this, and once carefully mentioned the storm about the man having a concubine, and asked Dai Chuanhui about her opinion. Although Dai Chuanhui was suspicious, she did not think of Mao Yisheng's body, but before she could find the reason for her husband's suspicious appearance, Quan Guiyun himself came to the door.
She took her young daughter, who did not remember anything, and took advantage of the fact that the Mao family was only Dai Chuanhui alone, and as soon as she came in, she asked her to divorce Mao Yisheng, and said: "Yisheng does not love you at all, you should divorce him earlier." ”
Because Mao Yisheng did not reveal half of the matter about Quan Guiyun to Dai Chuanhui, Dai Chuanhui did not take her words seriously, even if the family returned, he did not mention this matter, until later Mao Yisheng confessed that he had raised people outside and had children.
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Dai Chuanhui was stunned. Especially when she heard Mao Yisheng say that she had a daughter with the outer chamber, at that moment, she thought of Quan Guiyun, who had come to her house not long ago, and suddenly realized.
But at this time, her health was not good, where she could bear the betrayal of Mao Yisheng, and her spirit gradually collapsed.
After learning of the existence of the outer chamber, whenever Mao Yisheng went to visit his own outer chamber and the illegitimate daughter born in the outer chamber, Dai Chuanhui always couldn't help but wonder if Mao Yisheng would not come back, whether he was going to leave his home.
Dai Chuanhui's spirit was getting worse and worse, and the schizophrenia that had been cured in Hangzhou had relapsed again. At this time, Mao Yisheng finally realized the seriousness of the matter, decided to ignore the small family in Nanjing, and after giving Quan Guiyun a sum of money, told Quan Guiyun that he would not go to Nanjing again, nor did he want Quan Guiyun to come to him, and he would give living expenses regularly.
Mao Yisheng, Dai Chuanhui and their children
Mao Yisheng no longer went to Nanjing, it seems that he really broke off relations with Kwon Guiyun, after which Dai Chuanhui's condition gradually improved, but it was impossible to recover as before. After this, Mao Yisheng looked at his emaciated and emaciated wife and felt very ashamed and remorseful in his heart.
But things have happened, the bitter fruit planted by himself, after all, he still has to swallow it himself, and finally Dai Chuanhui has not been able to survive after all, under the torture of severe mental illness, in the early morning of one day, he left this world forever, and even did not give Mao a chance to rise half a point.
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After Dai Chuanhui's death, Mao Yisheng was deeply saddened and very remorseful. After Kwon Gwai-yun heard the news of Dai Chuanhui's death, he took his daughter to look for Mao Yisheng, and Kwon Kwai-yun felt that this was his chance. When he saw Quan Guiyun, his heart was even more sad, if he hadn't been confused for a while, how could he have harmed Dai Chuanhui's old illness and eventually lost his life.
However, after Kwon Gyu-yun cried and complained, Mao Yisheng felt that he was already sorry for Dai Chuanhui and could no longer abandon Kwon Gwai-yun, so he consulted with his children to let Kwon Gyu-yun become the main room.
Mao Yisheng (first from the right)
Mao Yisheng's children were naturally reluctant, and in their opinion, if it were not for the father who raised his own mother outside the outer room, he would not have relapsed from the old disease. In the end, he was dragged to death by mental illness, and from then on, he no longer mentioned the outer room, but it was impossible to take the outer room home to be the wife of the main room.
And not being able to become the main room has also become the regret of Quan Guiyun's life.
In the end, Mao Yisheng did not help Quan Guiyun into the main room, but he still raised Quan Guiyun's mother and daughter. But none of his six children could accept the woman who indirectly killed his own mother. After that, they rarely return home, either moving abroad or working abroad.
Mao Yisheng, Dai Chuanhui and their four daughters
Even after Kwon Gwai-yun's death, Mao Yisheng's six children did not forgive their father. Later, the ninety-three-year-old Mao Yisheng had been thinking about himself and Dai Chuanhui's children before his death, hoping to get their forgiveness, but how could it be so easy?
Not to mention a letter, not even a word.
When Mao Yisheng decided to live with Kwon Guiyun, the six children broke off relations with him and did not interact with him until their deaths. In the end, Mao Yulin saw his father so sadly reading his half-brothers and sisters, so he secretly forged a letter of understanding and handed it to his father.
When he saw this letter, Mao Yisheng seemed to have finally fulfilled a big wish, and although it was difficult, he still laughed hard: "Yu Yue, good boy, thank you and forgive me." ”
Seeing his father who was amiable and gentle in the past so desolate, Mao Yulin's heart was full of heartache.
However, this was the result of Mao Yisheng himself, his hesitation, quan Guiyun's step by step, all became a sharp sword, hurting Mao Yisheng's favorite person.
But what Mao Yisheng didn't know was that even before his death, he didn't really get forgiveness from his children. Perhaps his eldest son, Mao Yuyue, felt that forgiving his father's continuation was once again pushing his mother into the abyss, so whether his mother was alive or not, he would stick to his mother's side, because in this relationship, only the mother was innocent and victimized.
And love is lost, as the last only daughter to send the end of Mao Yisheng, this is the biggest regret.