On December 16, in the latest episode of the interview network "Send 100 Girls Home", the famous "Talk Show Empress" Siwen was interviewed.
In the show, Siwen's state is completely different from that of her on the stage, perhaps because of the identity of the actor, Siwen standing on the stage must be with light, and she must have the ability to turn all the hardships of her life into a paragraph, and in this program, through the communication with the writer Ding Ding Zhang, Siwen revealed her more calm and soft side.
A few months ago, the news of SiWen and Cheng Lu's divorce dominated the hot search, and for a while netizens were lamenting that this "bunk brothers" couple was finally still parting ways, which also brought a lot of public opinion pressure to Siwen.
After all, the current social environment, in many cases, is not very friendly to women after divorce, and it was at the beginning of the "Talk Show Conference" competition, Siwen also chose to withdraw from the competition under the cusp of this storm, which made the unknown melon eating masses directly believe that divorce still brought a lot of harm to An independent woman like Siwen.
However, in the show, Siwen said that the divorce did not have such a direct impact, more because of his current self, not suitable for standing on the stage.
In the show, Si Wen expressed her unique view of marriage - "marriage unhappiness is normal, happiness is abnormal", which at first glance looks very meaningful to see through the red dust, which also reveals some reasons why Si Wen and Cheng Lu are separated.
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Si Wen, whose full name is Wang Siwen, was a state-owned enterprise employee who graduated from Xidian University before embarking on the road to becoming the "talk show empress".
In the state-owned enterprises, the days are still relatively idle, and Siwen himself once described this experience of "hitting workers" in a talk show, exaggerating the embarrassment of being despised by colleagues when working seriously.
At first, such a life was simply the paradise that every animal who did not want to 996 social animals yearned for, but over time, Siwen was also tormented by such a boring life, and had a heart that wanted to show his talents. It was at this time that she met Cheng Lu.
Si Wen and Cheng Lu's encounter is also the beginning of her contact with talk shows to change her lifestyle, during the work of state-owned enterprises, a holiday Si Wen and colleagues went to see a talk show, the magic is that the whole show is not much funny, in the final audience interaction link, Si Wen came on stage, in the form of imitating the actors who came on stage before, got a full house of color, even more wonderful than those actors, after the whole performance, the host with glasses and some thin quickly asked for her contact information.
This person is Cheng Lu.
Perhaps Cheng Lu only felt that he had discovered the talent of talk show at first, but people would always be attracted by talent, and Si Wen also became a person who faced life with Cheng Lu.
It was also because of Cheng Lu, when XiaoGuo came to dig someone to sign Cheng Lu, he also signed SiWen with him.
Who thought, later the situation showed that it seemed that Siwen was more like a talent dug up by Xiaoguo.
The passage that makes Si Wen out of the circle is the famous "husband is my brother who sleeps on the top bunk", when this kind of brain circuit Qingqi husband and wife get along is talked about, which also shows Si Wen's independent character.
Si Wen's passages are always unfolded from the perspective of husband and wife life and women, which is more intelligent than Yang Kasa's "gentle knife", appears more calm and dashing, and has the style of "talk show empress". Si Wen's creative source is mostly her life, and her life is actually full of suffering.
The end of married life with Cheng Lu does not seem to be one of these sufferings, but only a farewell ceremony.
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In "Sending 100 Girls Home," Siwen talks about the "most despised person alive" as her mother. "I think she made a mess of her life."
SiWen said that unhappy marriage is normal, happiness is abnormal, it is no wonder that she has such thoughts, because around Siwen, there are basically no examples of marital happiness.
Grandma divorced twice, my mother divorced five times, and my aunt was divorced.
As for the families that have not yet been divorced, they are in a state of flux.
In the previous paragraph, Si Wen also ridiculed his family's opposition to her marriage with Cheng Lu. "Short, poor and ugly" was Cheng Lu's first impression on her parents, siwen's father asked her why she looked at cheng lu, siwen replied: "Because I think he is funny." ”
"I think you're funny!"
At that time, when Siwen said this sentence in the second season of "Talk Show Conference", he successfully made the audience laugh. And Si Wen's experience of downplaying the passage can't be laughed at by anyone.
When Si Wen's father first met Cheng Lu, it was indeed already at their wedding. According to Siwen's recollection, her father's performance was not unwilling or just dissatisfied, but really sad, without a trace of happiness. He thought his daughter was completely married, and he was heartbroken.
And SiWen replied: "It's okay, no big deal I'll divorce again." ”
Si Wen's father was even more sad.
In fact, for Si Wen, even if the two finally came into contact with the marriage relationship, Cheng Lu is not a man who is so bad that he can only eat soft rice. This is just a persona for the audience to enjoy.
In the pursuit of talk shows, it is Cheng Lu who is more eager, and Siwen can become famous, and it is inseparable from the spur of Cheng Lu in the early stage.
"For most of the year I was particularly anxious, feeling that I had nowhere to go and could be fired at any time. In fact, many types of work will have the strength and weakness of men and women, talk show is a more positive energy, that kind of humor is relatively offensive, and women are naturally more tolerant, more warm. I remember a reporter asked Li Tian, think female stand-up comedians should pay attention to what, he replied that they should not think of themselves as female stand-up comedians. That's right. In the most than half a year that I did not perform, the boss saw that I had nothing to do every day, so he arranged for me to subtitle the video and keep an eye on the later stage, and then I even signed up for the class to learn yoga, thinking that I would be a yoga teacher to support my family in the future.
Until one time when the mai performance was opened, Cheng Lu said you write well, and the words you don't say anymore have no meaning here, this word points to my pain points, I said OK, and then start the whole. The performance was particularly good that day, and I felt like I was floating in the clouds all night. I went on to perform that weekend, and it was a blast again, and since then, they've put me on the line for the official show again. ”
——China News Weekly Siwen self-described
As Liang Haiyuan said, there is no strong woman and weak man between Si Wen and Cheng Lu, the two of them are complementary. Si Wen is more brilliant than Cheng Lu on the stage, but Cheng Lu's textual ability and conception are far stronger than Si Wen's.
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For Si Wen, until the day of the divorce, Cheng Lu was warm and would thoughtfully hand over the cat raised by the two to Si Wen, just because she liked it so much.
But this warmth is not enough to maintain this marriage.
Si Wen experienced her own surgery in this year, and there were many blows such as the death of her father due to work accidents, in such a situation, she still had to perform on stage, but in the face of the fragile moment of life and death, Cheng Lu could not accompany her because of work or other reasons to share her pain and vulnerability, and such a person's moment of suffering was not only this year, for many years, it seems that it is the same whether she is married or not.
However, Siwen herself does not think that the divorce is a stain on her failure, but only ends a relationship and returns to a state that she thinks is comfortable.
Today, she can dispose of her own money at will, buy a house without scruples, and spend a lot of rent to live in a spacious and bright house not far from the company, all of which is completely up to her own.
Perhaps from now on, the "tears of independence" will also flow a few lines less.
As long as Siwen can no longer endure the "strong" and accept his vulnerability.