The mountains have mountain winds, and the homes have family winds.
"The Cultivation of the Chinese" wrote: "The family is the first school of life." The character of a lifetime, the so-called ever-changing and inseparable from its ancestry, is probably embryonic in the family. ”
Home is the source of a person's strength and the greatest shelter on the road of life.
Therefore, promoting a good family style is the greatest wish of all family members.
Using the following laws of success to develop high-quality feng shui is the top self-discipline of family members.
01
The Law of Thirty-Seven: Three points of dispute, seven points of courtesy, and promote "harmony".
In life, we often hear such a saying: "Seven points of fullness for eating, three points of drunkenness, seven points for love, three points for love, and three points of love for yourself......"
The law of thirty-seven seems to be everywhere.
When family gets along, it is inevitable that there will be contention. It's common to have verbal arguments and win or lose over wealth. Therefore, we must know how to give way and form a pattern of "family and everything prospers".
There was a prime minister in the Western Han Dynasty named Bingji.
His coachman, often drunk and in the carriage, vomited and talked nonsense.
The officials who manage the petty officials, ready to punish the grooms.
Bingji said: "It is reasonable to punish the groom because he is drunk. But the groom has lost his job, and where is his family going to eat? ”
Yes, Bingji regarded the groom as the head of the family, not just a small official.
After listening to Bingji's words, the groom began to repent of himself, thus reining in his personality of being a good drinker and greedy for glasses.
There is also a door at home, thinking that Bingji is too confused: "The prince is a Han minister, and the traitor is private, but he is not punished." ”
In any case, Bingji maintained the harmony of the extended family. He also used the method of governing the family to govern the country, leaving a good reputation for being virtuous.
Later, Bingji's descendants were all taken care of by the imperial court because of the kindness of their ancestors.
's son, Bingxian, became the captain of the city gate.
Grandson Bingchang inherited the title and became the Marquis of Guannei.
Harmony is the best feng shui, and the foundation of harmony is to grasp the scale of doing things, and you are willing to suffer seven points.
For example, when supporting parents, there should be rules on how much alimony each child should give and whether they should take turns to take care of them. When your siblings can't follow the rules, it's okay for you to take on more support tasks.
For example, when you distribute your parents' property, you will inevitably have to fight for it, but if you take the initiative to give in, the competition will stop, and everyone can talk calmly and not show jokes to outsiders.
You let me let it, the world is wide, and the home is safe. If you can do it, you will be a peacemaker in the family.
02
The law of bamboo: reading and accumulating energy, accumulating thick and thin, and earning "wealth".
A very small bamboo shoot, living in the dirt for several years, only grows a few inches.
After many years of accumulation, the bamboo shoots quickly emerge from the soil and grow into bamboo in ten days, reaching a height of more than ten meters.
It can be seen from the law of bamboo that all soaring into the sky is the result of accumulation.
Many families envy how rich other people's families are, but they don't know how much others have paid. What's more, other people's families are planning a game, and there is a big pattern of "ten years of trees, one hundred years of people".
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, embarked on a career through study, and took several younger brothers to mix officialdom together, and achieved good results.
But the rise of Zeng Guofan starts with his grandfather's generation.
Grandfather Zeng Xinggang, relying on the wealth of his ancestors, lived a good life, but he was often laughed at, and he also developed the bad habit of his son-in-law - "Qiu Ma and young people chase each other, or sleep in a high day".
In order to completely change the image, Zeng Xinggang set up a family rule - "books, vegetables, fish and pigs sweep the treasure early", and started from himself.
Reading is in the first place in the house rules.
When it came to his father's Zeng Linshu's generation, he was selected for Xiucai.
Zeng Guofan inherited the ambition of his ancestors, and he was awarded the Jinshi.
Three generations, decades of time, finally ushered in the wealth of the family. This is an example for us to follow.
Don't think that the "ten-year cold window" is useless, if you have three generations of students studying for ten years, it will be thirty years of fame.
As the saying goes: "Thirty years in the east of the river, thirty years in the west of the river." It shows that 30 years of hard work will definitely allow a family to reach the other side of the ideal.
How much wealth a family has is how much knowledge a family has. Raising awareness is making money.
It is useless to put gold on the door of the house and hang jade, forcing children and grandchildren to study, and taking the lead in reading, this is the real waist.
You can't eat poorly, you can't wear poor, and you can't learn how to be poor.
03
The law of the flock: the family is big, the family is big, and the family is divided in time to earn "popularity".
There is a word called "standing out from the crowd".
Literally, the crane is in the flock of chickens, very prominent and proud.
At a deeper level, cranes have been in the flock for a long time, and they are either assimilated by chickens or harmed by chickens.
Different kinds of animals are not mixed together.
If you stand out, you have to go back to help your family, but you have to dare to go alone.
Therefore, there is an important link in the feng shui change of the family - separation.
In my hometown, people think that separating families is not a bad thing, it is a way to keep a family distance and reduce conflicts, and it also means "branching out".
A good big family is separated by several small families, and everyone struggles independently; when there is a big event, they can gather together and gather strength.
As the saying goes, "A mother gives birth to nine sons, and a mother has ten children." ”
Everyone has a different place, and they will not take exactly the same road, but they will walk separately and form different social circles, and their popularity will be even more vigorous.
04
Sun Qifeng, a master of science, said: "The prosperity and decline of family fortune cannot be exercised by heaven, but by itself." ”
Whether the family's feng shui is good or not, God can't control it, it's the family's own business.
Everyone must be a good master, and work hard in the three aspects of "harmony, wealth, and popularity", which can promote the blessing of the family and bring their own good luck.
A prosperous family will decay if it quarrels endlessly, and a poor family can turn defeat into victory if they accumulate strength together.
Whether the family style is good or not, the key depends on management, don't sit back and enjoy the success.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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