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When it comes to finding objects, you can observe and observe those around you who should be looking for objects, most of them first mention this condition and that condition, "don't do this", "don't do that", and list 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5 first...... For the children of ordinary people's families, looking for an object is "finding" an object, don't think about picking, some people will say what kind of logic you have? Who doesn't want to pick a satisfactory one? Yes! Everyone wants to find a satisfactory one, the problem is that many people misunderstand the three words "looking for an object"! Different understandings will lead to different ways and methods and attitudes.
The understanding of "finding an object" should be divided into two parts, and only by separating the three words "looking for an object" can we better grasp the true meaning of "finding an object".
The first is "finding", which is also the key point that many people misunderstand, when we remove the word "object", I believe that there will not be much deviation in the understanding of people, everyone will think of the meaning of "finding", which involves what way, what method, what mentality to find, but also to find by yourself, to find, To look forward to, whether there is or not, whether it is successful or not, to fight, just like looking for something lost, not only important but also urgent, when looking for both serious and careful, even the horns are not let go, and with an anxious and hopeful mentality, from thought to action, to the mentality of the whole heart and positive face.
The second is the "object", only the "right" is the "image", "the right" is not the "elephant", just like the "Ma Lanhua" on the top of Malan Mountain, not only "not often, not common, not often open", but also "the opportunity can not be lost, lost and not come again", but also "only for the hard-working and brave people to bloom" flowering conditions, looking for people not only to take a lot of trouble, but also to have a certain literacy, to find but also with life to care, if you are to find such a mentality to find the object, how can there be no reason to find the object?
However, the world is so wonderful, you can find anything, that is the meaning of finding, but when it is connected with the "object", it makes many people flutter, and it is understood as "picking" and "choosing", not only does not have the mentality of "asking for it", but also does not have the action of "asking for it", and there is no regret after "missing it", in most people's eyes, "looking for the object" is "picking the object" They think that the initiative is in their own hands; they think that others are willing to do it; they think that everywhere they go is a treasure, which one they want to pick up, and whoever they want is whom, especially when they know that the other party is unconditionally willing, they ignore others, are tepid, do not say "successful" or "do not succeed", but always think in their hearts, "will they be able to meet better in the future", just such a mentality! Where is this looking for a partner? Even the quality of looking for "Ma Lanhua" does not have!
Our most common phenomenon is that when someone says that they want to introduce him to the object, whether the other party is willing or not, first ask the introducer "this", ask the introducer "that", and then compare their own mate selection criteria to see if they meet, meet the requirements, refuse, and do not give the well-wisher a little face. If you see a big gap in your heart, after seeing each other, you don't have any passion, your face is full of unhappiness, and you still complain to the introducer, "What kind of person are you introducing to me?
Boys and girls who are in the mate selection period, if you still have the urge to find a partner, then cherish every girl (boy) who agrees to meet you, and treat each other sincerely, after all, to win the other half is to understand, the understanding here is different from the understanding mentioned earlier, the previous understanding is the meaning of "knowing, understanding", and the understanding here is "caring, considerate", you don't understand (caring, considerate) her (him), how can she (he) understand (caring, considerate) you? It is not omnipotent, but it is absolutely impossible to not have "understanding (care, consideration)", after all, "understanding (care, consideration)" is what everyone needs to get along, especially in the matter of finding a partner, and it is everyone's need for an "object".
To sum up, you who are in the period of finding a partner, you must not get the definition of "looking for an object" wrong, confused, not only to figure out the meaning of the three words "looking for an object", but also to "understand (know, understand, care, considerate)" in the process of finding a partner for everyone who helps you, but also to use your "care and consideration" to understand the opposite sex who is willing to meet you! Understanding is half the battle, if the understanding in the mind appears to be in the opposite direction, then the matter of finding a partner will only get farther and farther away from you. Since someone introduced you to a female (boyfriend) friend, it was also introduced to you by others after thinking about "picking up the radish and the onion", others are serious, and you can't be perfunctory, because this is your lifelong event!
- To the boys and girls who are worried that they have not yet found a friend of the opposite sex!