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Struggles in the early years
Li Chengru, a once unknown garment factory worker, has now become a famous acting giant in Beijing. Looking back on his growth process, I have to sigh that it was not easy for him to transform from an ordinary little person to a famous celebrity today.
Li Chengru, born in 1954, graduated from Jingshan School in Beijing with a bachelor's degree, and then entered a clothing factory to find a job. Outside of work, he is passionate about imitating the expressions of various characters and often performs for his colleagues.
With his unique acting talent, he soon became the center of attention in the factory, and was frequently arranged to participate in theatrical performances in the factory.
In 1985, Li Chengru made up his mind to leave the factory and opened a clothing store on his own. With a wealth of experience, his business soon flourished and his wealth was accumulated.
At the same time, he also formed a happy family and ushered in the birth of his only son Li Dahai. All this made Li Chengru feel unprecedented satisfaction and pride.
However, the take-off of his career did not bring Li Chengru's family life the happiness it deserved. His increasingly busy work left him with little time to spend with his wife and children, which gradually aroused the dissatisfaction of his wife Shi Min.
In the end, the two parties chose to divorce, and Shi Min took away his son Li Dahai.
This sudden family change undoubtedly dealt a heavy blow to Li Chengru's heart. But he did not sink into self-doubt, but chose to return to the showbiz he was most familiar with.
With years of accumulated experience and unremitting efforts, Li Chengru eventually became a well-recognized and powerful actor and made a name for himself in the industry.
Today, Li Chengru, who is already in his prime, has hundreds of millions of family properties and lives in a luxurious courtyard just across the wall from the Forbidden City. However, his independent son, Li Dahai, is still struggling to survive with his mother in a dilapidated bungalow of only 18 square meters.
The "Truth" of Li Dahai's Encounter
Compared with the attention of his father Li Chengru, Li Dahai's life can be described as much bleaker. This unknown person who is the son of a celebrity is also quite intriguing.
After the divorce, Li Dahai and his mother Shi Min lived in poverty and lived in poverty. In order to reduce the burden on his family, Li Dahai, who was only of school age, resolutely chose to drop out of school and go out to work.
Every morning, he wakes up in the glimmer of light, prepares a simple lunch, and walks kilometers to work. In his busy work, Li Dahai never complains, but devotes himself wholeheartedly, and even often works overtime until late at night.
Saving money is his rule, and he would rather walk home than take the bus.
Despite such a difficult life, Li Dahai never gave up his dream of acting. He has participated in various acting competitions, and has achieved results independently with his talent and hard work, but has never sought help and support from his father.
He understands that this behavior is likely to be mistaken for taking advantage of his father's relationship, so he prefers to fight independently.
When Li Dahai finally saved up a down payment for his mother's new home, he decided to ask his father, Li Chengru, for a loan. In his opinion, this is undoubtedly a rare opportunity for father and son to rebuild their relationship.
However, the result was unexpected, Li Chengru not only refused to provide any help, but even emphasized that family relationships should not be hyped on the screen.
This made Li Dahai feel extremely disappointed and chilled. He originally expected his father to understand and support his choice, but he didn't expect to be treated so coldly. This kind of encounter has undoubtedly deepened the estrangement between the father and son.
In the face of his father's coldness and indifference, Li Dahai felt very lost and painful. He used to have great respect for his father and dreamed of one day becoming an acting superstar like him.
But the blow of reality made him realize that his father's "suppression" of him was not out of love, but a deliberate educational concept.
What is the reason why Li Chengru treats his only child in such a way? The "truth" behind this is undoubtedly worthy of our in-depth exploration.
"Repressive education"
What is the reason why Li Chengru is so indifferent and indifferent to his only child? It turns out that Li Chengru has always adhered to a unique and strict educational philosophy, that is, the so-called "suppressive education."
In Li Chengru's view, only when a person tastes all the flavors of life in the family environment can he truly adapt to the various challenges of society. Therefore, he adopted an extremely strict discipline style for his son, hoping to raise a truly resilient child.
A typical example of this kind of "suppressive education" is the teaching of the equally famous cross talk actor Guo Degang to his son Guo Qilin. For example, after graduating from junior high school, Guo Qilin always had to wait until all the brothers had eaten before he could sit down, and even the dress had to follow the principle of choosing first and then considering himself.
This approach may seem extremely harsh to ordinary people, but in Guo Degang's view, it is cultivating children's morality and adaptability. Although this sentence does not directly praise Guo Degang's education method, it indirectly affirms the deep meaning behind it.
A person can only truly gain a foothold in society if he goes through all kinds of hardships in the family environment.
Li Chengru's education of his son Li Dahai also follows this concept. He never gave Li Dahai love and care, but often spoke coldly to him, and even bluntly said in a TV interview that this was a "unique and effective educational concept".
In his opinion, only in this way can his son grow up to be a person who can truly take charge of himself.
However, this kind of education not only made Li Dahai suffer, but also caused great psychological trauma to him. In the face of his father's cold reception, Li Dahai's heart was full of pain and incomprehension, and he couldn't understand why his father treated him like this.
What are the deep-seated reasons behind this kind of "repressive education"? What kind of considerations did Li Chengru have for adopting such a draconian approach? This obviously deserves our further exploration.
He sought his father's help but was refused
For Li Dahai, the most painful thing is his father Li Chengru's "suppression" of him. Although on the surface, Li Chengru has become a well-known acting superstar, but deep down, he has always lacked love and support for his son.
Because of this, when Li Dahai decided to embark on the road of acting, he did not seek his father's help. On the contrary, with his talent and hard work, he independently participated in various acting competitions and achieved good results.
On the one hand, this is to avoid people mistakenly thinking that he is taking advantage of his father's relationship, and on the other hand, it is also to prove his strength.
However, when Li Dahai finally saved up for a down payment to buy a new home for his mother, he couldn't help but ask his father Li Chengru for help. As a dutiful son, he hopes to gain his father's understanding and support so that his mother can get out of her current difficult situation.
However, the result was unexpected, Li Chengru not only refused to provide any help, but even emphasized that family relationships should not be hyped up on the screen. This undoubtedly made Li Dahai feel extremely disappointed and chilled.
He had expected his father to understand and support his choice, but reality gave him a heavy slap in the face.
In Li Chengru's eyes, his son Li Dahai is still just a "cheap as a kitten and a puppy". Back then, he once bluntly said in a show, "The only capital you have now is the flesh and blood given to you by your parents, and in addition, you have nothing and are completely insignificant."
This sentence not only broke the hearts of countless people, but also deeply pierced Li Dahai's heart.
In the face of his father's coldness and indifference, Li Dahai felt very lost and painful. He used to have great respect for his father and dreamed of one day becoming an acting superstar like him.
But the blow of reality made him realize that his father's "suppression" of him was not out of love, but a deliberate educational concept.
This experience undoubtedly deepened the contradictions and estrangement between father and son. Li Dahai began to question his father's education method, believing that men should not be like women, who should become flowers in the greenhouse, but should grow independently and surpass the protection of their parents.
He longed for his father's love and support, but this expectation was disappointed again and again, which only made him feel more miserable and helpless.
What is the reason why Li Chengru treats his only son so harshly? What kind of thoughts does Li Dahai have in his heart in the face of his father's cold treatment? The root cause of all this cannot but make people ponder deeply.
Inner Repentance
However, the twist of fate often comes in surprise. Just when Li Dahai lost all hope for his father, Li Chengru himself suffered a huge blow in his life.
A few years ago, Li Chengru unfortunately suffered from a rare disease and was on the verge of life and death. After a long and painful process of treatment, he was finally freed from the torment of his illness.
However, this baptism of illness also forced him to re-examine his life.
In the days of wandering in pain, Li Chengru deeply felt lonely and helpless. He began to miss his son and wife, who had been neglected and neglected by him, and felt deep remorse for what he had done back then.
Shortly after recovering from his illness, Li Chengru took the initiative to contact his son Li Dahai, whom he had not seen for a long time. Although on the surface, he still couldn't suppress his comments on his son, but from his words, Li Dahai could feel his father's sincere remorse.
Li Chengru told Li Dahai that he could provide him with rich film and television resources and expand his network, so that he could make more talents in the entertainment industry. This is undoubtedly a rare opportunity for Li Dahai to realize his dream of acting.
Although Li Chengru did not apologize to his son for his past mistakes, from his words, Li Dahai could feel the deep remorse in his father's heart.
This is undoubtedly a major breakthrough in alleviating the conflict between father and son.
It was this baptism of illness that made Li Chengru realize how wrong he was to be indifferent and indifferent to his son. He began to reflect on what he had done back then, and he also understood the disadvantages of "repressive education".
In this process, he finally understood that as a father, he should give his children love and support, rather than deliberately suppressing and attacking.
This change undoubtedly brought hope to Li Dahai. He felt his father's inner remorse, and realized that the conflict between father and son might be repaired.
Although the past experience caused him great pain, seeing his father's change also raised a glimmer of anticipation in his heart.
Perhaps, through this experience, the father and son were able to rebuild their once broken relationship and find a common language for each other. Li Dahai may finally be able to realize his acting dream with the help of his father, and Li Chengru can also get his son's love and understanding in his later years to make up for his regrets.
"Isn't it ironic that you live in a house of only 18 square meters, and I am living in a luxurious courtyard next to the Forbidden City?" This is what Li Chengru said when he reunited with his son Li Dahai.
For this veteran artist, once known for his "repressive education", his life seems to be moving in another direction. His indifference and disregard for his son back then turned into a deep remorse after he himself suffered from illness.
Today, Li Chengru is old, but he still has great wealth and influence. It's just that these things that once made him proud seem to have lost their former meaning after experiencing the ups and downs of life.
He began to truly feel that neither money nor fame could replace the love and understanding of his loved ones.
In contrast, although Li Dahai's life is poor, it is full of expectations for his father and yearning for the future. Despite being snubbed and suppressed by his father, he still did not give up his dream of acting, but chose to be self-reliant, and achieved certain results with his talent and hard work.
After experiencing all kinds of setbacks, Li Dahai's attitude towards his father has also undergone subtle changes. When he confronted his father again, he no longer had the same attachment and reverence for his father as before, but with a cautious and reflective attitude.
However, when he saw the remorse and transformation in his father's heart, Li Dahai's heart also rose with a trace of expectation. Perhaps, through this experience, the father and son were able to rebuild their once broken relationship and find a common language for each other.
Li Dahai may finally be able to realize his acting dream with the help of his father, and Li Chengru can also get his son's love and understanding in his later years to make up for his regrets.
This embarrassing parent-child relationship entanglement may eventually usher in a turnaround. When the father's repentance and the son's expectation meet, I believe that the vicissitudes of the past will eventually gradually dissolve, and the warmth of the family will be rekindled in their hearts.
This kind of dawn is undoubtedly worthy of our full expectation and blessings.