Have you ever felt like a knife in your heart when you were ruthlessly rejected by a friend?
Or on a lonely night, staring at your phone screen in a daze, but you can't find someone to talk to?
Each of us has experienced such moments to a greater or lesser extent, and those small emotions like being pricked by needles actually need to be taken care of.
The book "Emotional First Aid" is your personal psychiatrist, teaching you how to give yourself a timely first aid when you are emotionally hurt.
【Mountains and Seas】Emotional First Aid: Strategies and Methods to Deal with Various Everyday Psychological Injuries Psychology Books ¥32 Buy
Have you ever wondered why we are so obsessed with a small failure that it can affect our daily lives? Why does a simple rejection make us feel like we're worthless? This book shows us through a series of vivid cases that emotional damage is just as serious as physical damage and needs to be taken seriously.
The 'seven deadly sins' of psychological harm are: rejection, loneliness, loss, guilt, rumination, failure, and low self-esteem. The author uses a series of vivid metaphors to describe different types of emotional damage:
"Rejection is like a scratch and tear, and loneliness is like muscle weakness that slowly atrophies. ”
So, what do we do when our emotions are hurt?
1. When faced with rejection, look for alternative explanations instead of just seeing your own shortcomings.
2. Deal with the emotions that come with rejection through self-expression. Find safe ways to release your emotions, such as singing loudly, hitting a pillow or doing strenuous exercise. These activities can help you release tension and anger.
3. Stay social, even after rejection.
4. Fight loneliness by building deep relationships.
5. Deal with feelings of guilt by writing or telling. Writing: Write down feelings of guilt, and through reflection, you may discover the source of your feelings of guilt and gain a new understanding of your actions. You can also explore possible solutions or remedies. Not only will this alleviate feelings of guilt, but it will also help you avoid similar situations in the future. Tell the story: Share your guilt with a trusted friend or family member so they can understand how you're feeling. Through communicating with others, you may receive valuable feedback and suggestions.
6. Learn to forgive yourself and reduce self-blame for guilt.
7. Avoid rumination and focus on solving problems rather than past mistakes.
8. Counter the frustration of failure by taking positive action.
9. Boost self-esteem and reduce feelings of inferiority through self-affirmation.
10. Keep a reality check and avoid exaggerating negative emotions excessively. Is this idea real? Is it 100% true?
11. Adopt psychological distance and look at emotional issues objectively. Imagine yourself as another person, or imagine yourself as your future self looking back at the current situation to achieve.
12. Express and process emotions through artistic and creative activities.
Emotional injuries are a pervasive phenomenon in life, and they have a profound impact on an individual's mental health and require us to take them as seriously as physical injuries.
We need to learn to manage our emotions in the same way that we manage our physical health. In the face of emotional challenges, we are not helpless victims, but strong ones who can take action.