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My name is Li Xiaofang, I am 26 years old, and I am an old Beijinger. Last year, I married Peng Xiaoqiang, the son of the Peng family in Zhengzhou, and it can be said that I am a good marriage. After I got married, I followed my husband to live in his home in Zhengzhou.
When I first arrived at my father-in-law's house, I thought it would be a warm family, but I didn't expect this "home" to be full of unfriendliness to me.
"Xiaofang, this is your room with Xiaoqiang. The mother-in-law said expressionlessly, pointing to an inconspicuous small room at the door.
I looked and saw that the room was only a dozen square meters, with only a double bed in it, mottled walls, and an old floor.
"It's a dowry room. The mother-in-law said lightly, "You young people should be temperate, and your father-in-law and I still need a big room." ”
I was surprised, and just as I wanted to say something, my father-in-law had already interjected on the side: "Xiaofang, you just arrived at our house, you must know the rules, don't be so restrained, we will definitely love you like our own daughter." ”
In the face of my father-in-law's knowingly questioning, I couldn't question anything directly, so I could only endure it for the time being and moved into this small and dilapidated room.
At night, Xiaoqiang and I lay on the hard bed boards, tossing and turning.
"Husband, are we going to live in this room? The space is too small, and the rooms are bigger than this when I go back to my hometown. I asked cautiously.
"I understand you, but I can't help it at the moment. Xiaoqiang said, "My parents have always been like this, and my daughter-in-law should live in a small room, so don't worry too much." ”
I'm very distressed, why do I have to live in this kind of dowry room? I'm part of this family. This arrangement made me feel like a nanny rather than the mistress of the house.
At lunchtime, I plucked up the courage to say to my mother-in-law, "Mother-in-law, can I move out of that little room? It's so basic, I can't sleep well at night." ”
"It's good to have a room to sleep in, we didn't even have a room in the past!" The mother-in-law said impatiently, "Why are you so hypocritical? As a daughter-in-law, you should live in a smaller room and be content." ”
"No but!" The mother-in-law was angry, "We provide you with food and shelter, you should be grateful." Don't complain about this and that without staying for a few days!"
I only felt inexplicably aggrieved and humiliated, but I didn't dare to argue with my mother-in-law in front of my father-in-law. Xiaoqiang didn't dare to speak out on the side, but just comforted me: "Be good, listen to Mom, let's bear with it." ”
After dinner, Xiaoqiang went out to play ball with his friends. I was alone in the bridal room, and the walls around me seemed to oppress me and make me breathless.
After a few more days, I was still being assigned to do household chores, and the workload seemed to be increasing. My mother-in-law was always critical of me not doing well enough, and my mood was getting lower and lower.
In the evening, I again asked to move out of the room, but my mother-in-law still strongly refused.
"I just can't understand what's not satisfying about a room!" The mother-in-law said irritably, "Our family's conditions are limited, and it is not a luxury house, why do we have to change your room?"
"Buying and selling is not benevolent!" The mother-in-law said angrily, "We have already provided you with food and shelter, and you are really ungrateful to make demands without knowing what to do! As a daughter-in-law, you should be content!"
"There's nothing for me!" My mother-in-law interrupted me, "If you're not satisfied, you can leave! No one wants a daughter-in-law who is ungrateful!"
I only felt very aggrieved, but in the face of my mother-in-law's persecution, I didn't dare to really leave, so I could only hold back tears and return to the room. Xiaoqiang didn't say a word, and I felt that the distance between us was widening.
A few days later, I suggested that maybe I could build a simple room in the storage room, which would not cost very much. The mother-in-law was still furious when she heard this.
"It's not easy for me to feed you and live, how can I have the money to build you another room!" My mother-in-law glared at me, "I think you are really ungrateful, why are you so ignorant!"
"Mother-in-law, I've worked hard to do housework, and it's not that I don't know how to be grateful, but I really feel that the current environment is too difficult for me. "I'd like to explain more.
"Okay, I'm too lazy to listen to you!" The mother-in-law waved her hand and said, "I'll tell you, if you dare to move out of that room, I'll kick you out immediately!
I couldn't hold it anymore and ran back to my room crying. Xiaoqiang came to comfort me, but I already felt a rift in our relationship. I started thinking that maybe divorce was the only way out.
After two days, I calmed down and decided to have a good talk with my mother-in-law. I wanted to give the family a chance because I didn't want to give it up.
"Mother-in-law, let's talk about this well. I tried to be as calm as I could and said, "I understand your efforts and dedication to this family, and I appreciate you for making me a part of this family." But as an independent individual, I also need a little bit of personal space and dignity. I'm not asking for a master bedroom, but would like to have a regular room. It's about my basic needs and it's a sign of respect for my personality. I am willing to work to help this family, but at the same time I need to be cared for and understood. Could you please put yourself in my shoes and give us a chance to reconnect?"
The mother-in-law's face was ugly: "When I got married, I didn't even have a broken house! You are already much better than I was back then, and you still came to talk to me about the conditions, it is really selfish!"
I continued to say mildly: "Times are different, and I don't want to compare myself to you, but I want you to understand what it takes to be an independent woman. I sincerely want to live in peace with you, which is important not only for myself, but also for the happiness of my son. I'm willing to change all the bad as long as you give me a chance. ”
"Change what?" The mother-in-law sneered, "I think you are a woman who doesn't know what to do! You don't know how to be grateful to others for giving you food and shelter, you have to find fault, a woman like you is not qualified to be my daughter-in-law at all!"
I still want to explain that my mother-in-law has stood up and reprimanded me loudly, and I just feel like a knife in my heart.
"Listen up!" The mother-in-law glared angrily, "If you dare to mention the matter of the room again today, immediately pack up your things and get out!
"Mother-in-law!" At last I couldn't help crying out, "Why should I suffer this sin? I didn't marry into your family to be angry! I just need a basic living environment, what's too much about that?"
"Stop!" I struggled to break free from my mother-in-law, and Xiaoqiang, who was witnessing this scene on the side, finally couldn't help it.
"Mom, stop it!" Xiaoqiang stepped forward and grabbed his mother-in-law, "Let's say it well, don't do this!"
My mother-in-law shook off Xiaoqiang and continued to scold me: "A woman like her just owes repairs!
I wiped away a handful of tears and said calmly: "Mother-in-law, I'll give you one last chance to give us a harmonious family, okay?"
"Harmony, I'm not uncommon to be on par with you slut!" The mother-in-law was completely furious, "Don't let me go yet!"
I took a deep breath and said bitterly, "In that case, then we can only divorce." Mother-in-law, I respect you, but I can't accept that you are treated like this. Thank you for your family, goodbye. ”
With that, I walked out without looking back. Leaving this home where I had been hopeful but coldly treated.
I came to the streets of Zhengzhou alone, and tears finally welled up. I can't believe that my marriage with Xiaoqiang has come to an end like this. We could have had a happy and fulfilling life, but we were ruined by the unfair treatment of our families.
I called my parents and said that we were divorced and that I wanted to go back to my hometown in Beijing. My parents were surprised, but immediately agreed to let me go back. I decided to take tonight's train out of the city I'd cried so many times.
Just as I was standing on the train platform waiting, Xiaoqiang suddenly ran over, and he finally shed tears at this time, who had always been indifferent.
"Xiaofang, let's not get a divorce, okay?" Xiao Qiang choked up and begged me.
My heart could not be calmed for a long time, and I looked at him silently.
"I'm sorry I didn't protect you. Xiaoqiang blamed himself, "I should have taught my mother a lesson earlier, and I shouldn't have let her break your heart." Can I give me a chance to make amends?"
I still didn't speak. After a long time, I asked him softly, "If I hadn't left today, would you continue to let me stay in that room and continue to be angry with your mother, wouldn't you?"
Xiaoqiang was silent, but finally said firmly: "No." I decided to have a showdown with my parents and we'd move out. I'm not going to let you suffer any more grievances. ”
At this time, Xiaoqiang's parents also rushed over. The mother-in-law, who has always been strong, was full of tears at this time.
"Daughter-in-law, I'm sorry, I was wrong. The mother-in-law looked at me pitifully, "We will definitely rearrange your room, and I will never treat you harshly again." Please give our family a chance, don't get a divorce, okay?"
The father-in-law also stepped forward and said sincerely: "Our old couple does have a lot of mistakes. Divorce is not good for everyone, please don't remember the villain, and give us a chance to change. ”
"Mother-in-law, I know what you have done to this family. I finally spoke, "I'm willing to give everyone a chance to start over." I can stay, but please learn to respect me and understand my feelings. I will treat you with sincerity, as long as you can treat me with sincerity. ”
"Good daughter-in-law, I promise!" The mother-in-law said excitedly, "You are like my own daughter, I will love you well." ”
That night, they drove me home. I was given a warm and spacious room, as well as a sincere apology from my in-laws. Xiaoqiang took my hand and promised once again that he would always support me and respect me.
Perhaps, hope will come eventually. I'm sure we'll slowly repair this once cracked home.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, I have lived in my father-in-law's house for more than a year. The unhappiness that happened has long since turned into the past, and my relationship with my in-laws has become more and more harmonious.
My new room was spacious, bright and warmly furnished. Every morning, my mother-in-law always smiled and woke me up and made a delicious breakfast for me herself. I was no longer assigned to do all the housework, but shared it with my mother-in-law. In the evening, my in-laws often called me and Xiaoqiang to the living room to chat and watch TV, which made me really feel that I was part of this family.
I also learned to take the initiative to help my in-laws do some hard work. One day, my father-in-law was unwell and I immediately took him to the hospital. When the doctor praised me for being a filial daughter-in-law, my father-in-law smiled and shook my hand and said, "Not only is it filial, but I really regard her as my own daughter now." "I couldn't help but tear my eyes.
Another day, my mother-in-law was going to the market to buy, and I volunteered to help carry something. The mother-in-law smiled happily: "You don't have to carry my old body, as long as you help me choose fresh vegetables and fruits." I nodded, my heart warm.
In the evening, Xiaoqiang watched me tidy up my clothes and took the initiative to come over and help me fold them together.
"It's been a hard day, I'll get it. Xiaoqiang said softly.
I smiled and clapped his hands: "You have changed a lot, and I am very happy now." ”
Xiaoqiang hugged me: "Fortunately, you gave our family a chance to change." I will always support you and make you happy. ”
I hugged him hard as well. We all moistened our eyes and felt the warmth of this hard-won home.
There will be a little bit of noise, but I've learned to take a step back. I began to cherish every plant and tree here, as if they were also gently caring for me.
I cook the hometown dishes that my in-laws like to eat, watch those old movies with them, and listen to the bits and pieces of their youth.
Occasionally, I would have class reunions, and my in-laws would always laugh and tell me to have fun.
"Our good daughter-in-law should go around more and don't think about home. My father-in-law said.
I feel like they've really cared for me like family. I've finally found a sense of belonging.
Life can't be smooth sailing, but with love in your heart, you can get through all the ups and downs. I am glad that we have re-opted for understanding and tolerance.
Because no one is perfect, it is important to learn to be tolerant. This is also what I want to say to my sad and confused self in the past.
Once upon a time, I was also a little woman who didn't understand the amorous feelings and only thought about herself. But the god of fate arranged for me to marry into this slightly indifferent family, and after so much suffering and torture, it finally opened my heart.
I began to learn to put myself in the shoes of others and take the initiative to give, not just ask for it unilaterally. My mother-in-law is actually a hard worker, and she is so strict with me, but she also hopes that I will mature and take charge of myself as soon as possible.
Now, whenever I see my mother-in-law's tired eyes, I take the initiative to sit next to her and gently massage her sore shoulders and neck.
"Daughter-in-law, thank you for your hard work. I'm an old woman, you don't care. My mother-in-law still says this sometimes.
"You've worked hard all your life, and it's time for me to serve you and enjoy it. That's what I always say. My mother-in-law would also be moved to the point of redness, take my hand as before, and say some loving words.
My father-in-law's stomach problems are also often committed, and I make all kinds of vegetable soups to nourish my stomach. Every time I see him eating with relish, I feel happy myself.
Xiaoqiang would also gently massage my sore legs and stomach every night.
"It's hard work, are you still uncomfortable?" He always asked so attentively.
"I'm very happy to have you here. I'll hug him and say.
My mother-in-law also began to teach me all kinds of pregnancy knowledge, and together we prepared for the arrival of our little life.
"Remember that pregnant women eat more red dates and tomatoes, which are blood tonics. The child will be strong. The mother-in-law said.
"Yes, mother-in-law. I eat well every day. I smiled and responded.
In the ordinary days, I became more and more integrated with this former home. Every plant and tree here is full of meaning of life.
When I finally held the baby and lay on the confinement bed, I saw the relieved smiles on the faces of my mother-in-law and father-in-law, and the tears of pride in Xiaoqiang's eyes. At this moment, I felt more fulfilled than I had ever been.
The deepest happiness in the world is the communion of people's hearts.
"Thank you. I said to these three of my dearest people.
They also all had red eyes and whispered, "Thank you for giving us the opportunity to be new people." ”
I know that our hearts have been broken.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, I have spent five years in this new home.
I used to be a proud and conceited woman who lacked empathy. Always blindly demanding, but do not understand the suffering of others. At that time, I still couldn't appreciate the most basic human feelings in life.
It wasn't until I stepped into this seemingly indifferent home and experienced all kinds of hardships and misunderstandings that I finally opened my heart. Learn to put yourself in the shoes of others and replace harsh accusations with tolerance and understanding.
Only after experiencing pain can we know how to cherish it. When I really saw that behind the harmony of my in-laws, there was a lot of hard work and compromise hidden. This is the cornerstone of a home.
The stars have changed, and the unhappiness of the past has become a cloud of smoke. Instead, it was touched and attached bit by bit in the past five years.
The in-laws laughed and teased their grandson, with love and relief in their eyes.
Every birthday banquet touches my heart. By candlelight, I made a promise that I belonged to this family.
In the past five years, I have learned to operate with my heart. Take the initiative to take care of household chores and understand instead of complaining.
Giving in again and again, in exchange for being deeply moved. I learned what it means to be home, it's a haven for mutual support.
Life won't be smooth sailing, but there is family in my heart. Wind and rain can be blocked, and the sunset can be enjoyed.
There will also be dislikes, but more of them are holding hands.
We welcome joy together and get through the difficulties together. Then look at the sky is clearer and the sun is warmer.
I have wanted to run away from this home countless times in the past, but in the end, it has become the most solid pillar of my life.
It gives me wisdom, gives me belonging, and gives me growth.
It taught me how to love, to be tolerant, and to understand the meaning of life.
I thought it didn't deserve me, but in the end I couldn't live without what it gave me.
I finally understood that home is not a mansion, but a human heart. I finally have it, a real home.
In the world, the happiest thing is the mutual understanding of the heart. I will remember the bits and pieces of these five years for the rest of my life.
There was no more abandonment, no more betrayal.
This is where I belong in this life.