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My husband and I have been married for three years, and my mother-in-law has been living with us in the same three-bedroom house that my husband used to buy. I have a very good relationship with my mother-in-law, she treats me like her own daughter, often shush me for warmth, and often cook me something delicious. I also respect my mother-in-law as my own mother, and often open my heart to chat with her about her grievances. We have a deep relationship.
A few months ago, I moved to the city due to a job transfer, and after discussing with my husband, I decided to buy a house here and settle down. We have a new house with two bedrooms and one living room nearby, and the location and decoration are good. On the day of the signing, we happily called my mother-in-law to visit, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law to look very bad after seeing the house.
Mother-in-law: "Ah Chen, this room is too small, the living room is just such a small piece, where is my old mahogany wardrobe?"
I heard the complaining tone in my mother-in-law's words, and quickly comforted me softly: "Mom, we are also thinking about having children in the future, and we will leave some space when the house is bigger." You can live in our room first, and after a while, we will buy a larger one, and then we will change to a comfortable large room for you. ”
The mother-in-law didn't speak, and her face was still a little ugly. I know that she must think that this new home is not as grand as her hometown, and she can't let go of her old furniture, so she is disappointed. Actually, my husband and I also want to buy her a bigger and more beautiful house, but we have just been married for a long time, and the economy is not yet well-off. I can only promise my mother-in-law again and again that I will buy her a good home in the future.
Although my mother-in-law didn't say anything more, I could feel her loss. In the first few days when I first moved here, my mother-in-law always looked like she couldn't lift her energy, she didn't talk much at home, and she often had a sad look on her face. I was worried that she would not fit in, so I was even more cautious with her. I go out early and return late, but when I get home, I always see if my mother-in-law has eaten or slept and if there is anything she needs help with. As long as she makes a request, I will do it for her like an ant on a hot pan.
After a few days, my mother-in-law finally said to me: "Ah Chen, you don't have to be busy with my old lady every day, I can do it myself." Don't worry, I'm Xi here, it's good, you young people like such a simple little home. ”
When I heard my mother-in-law say this, my heart suddenly relaxed: "Mom, I'm relieved that you can be so cheerful." Let's get used to this new home Xi a better time in the future. ”
Another half a month passed, and when I came home one day, I saw my mother-in-law working alone in the living room. She hung a few calligraphy and paintings on the wall of the empty living room, and put potted flowers by the windowsill to look like she was decorating the room. I said happily, "Mom, your room is so beautiful." ”
The mother-in-law smiled and said, "Although the house is small, it is clean and tidy, and it is quite happy to live in it." You young people like simplicity, and I'll follow your preferences. ”
I am very happy to see my mother-in-law so energetic. This shows that she has really found a sense of belonging in this small home. When people are old, as long as they are healthy and happy, nothing else matters.
After a while, my mother-in-law seemed to be completely Xi to being here. One day, my neighbor Ah Yang came to me, and she mysteriously said that there was an old couple in her unit who wanted to move to our community, and she heard that there was still a spare room in my house, and she wanted to rent it and live there, and she could pay a good price. When I heard this, I felt that this was a great opportunity!
Ah Yang said earnestly: "Ah Chen, I heard that there is still a big room in your house that is idle, and the newly retired Lao Zhang and his wife in my unit want to move here, they can offer a good price, do you consider it?"
I said excitedly, "yes, yes, that's exactly what I want." I just want to change my mother-in-law to a bigger, more comfortable room, and they can rent us this room, so my mother-in-law can move to that big room. It's convenient for everyone!"
I thought my mother-in-law would be happy that someone was going to rent a house so that she could move from the small room we were living in now to the big room that was originally vacant. As soon as I finished speaking, my mother-in-law's face immediately sank, she frowned, and said in a serious tone:
"Ah Chen, this house was bought by your husband, how can you casually rent it to outsiders? Housing is one thing, but giving your own house to others is another. I'm sorry for your husband, if you have a child in the future, it won't be convenient to live. You are still young and don't understand these things, and you have to discuss this kind of big thing with your husband. ”
As soon as I heard my mother-in-law say this, I realized that my perspective on the problem was too one-sided and superficial. I only noticed that I could change a big room for my mother-in-law, but I ignored that the owner of this house is my husband, and I can't decide to let someone else live in it. I said with remorse:
"Mom, I was wrong. I shouldn't have made my own decisions and promised that people could rent a house, I should have discussed it with my husband first. You are right, this family belongs to my husband first and foremost, and I can't make a unilateral decision. I was so excited that I wanted to change you to a bigger room, but I didn't think of more. In the future, I will never make a decision without consulting my husband. I'm so sorry for my husband, and I'm sorry for you!"
"Thank you mom for the reminder, I'm really too naïve. I looked at my mother-in-law and nodded, feeling very ashamed.
Since then, I have learned to listen more to my family's ideas, especially the advice of my elders, and not to be arbitrary. I will discuss any important matters related to my family with my husband and listen to his opinions. I will also think more about my mother-in-law's feelings, so that she can truly feel the warmth of home.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye we have lived in this small home for two years. My mother-in-law has also gradually Xi life here, and she cooks, exercises, and chats with old friends on the phone in this small home, and every day is busy and fulfilling. Sometimes when I come home and see her sitting on the balcony basking in the sun, with a kind smile on her face, I feel a warmth in my heart.
I listened to my mother-in-law's words, and my eyes moistened. I know it's because I've learned to be more mindful of her feelings and make her feel happy and belonging in our little home. This is more important than any luxury house. I said to my mother-in-law from the bottom of my heart: "Mom, having you by our side is the warmth of home. ”
My mother-in-law smiled and nodded, looking at my husband and me with satisfaction. I know that family harmony is the most important thing.
My mother-in-law's words made me feel very warm. It turned out that in these days, she saw all the changes in me, and I learned to think from her point of view, so that she also felt love and respect in this small family.
Later, my husband and I also talked about this room. He smiled and said, "Mom is right, I bought this house to live in for your mother and daughter, how can I let others live in it casually." You too, you worry too much, and you decide for yourself without consulting me. ”
I quickly smiled and admitted my mistake: "Husband, I know it's wrong." I shouldn't have agreed to rent a house without consulting you, I was too impulsive. In the future, I will discuss with you first and listen to your opinions. After all, you are the master of this family, and I can't make a claim. ”
The husband nodded with satisfaction and said, "As long as you can realize the problem, we must discuss major family matters in the future, and this is what can be regarded as living together." ”
"I remembered that I would never make my own decisions again. I quickly agreed.
Through this lesson, I not only learned to pay more attention to my mother-in-law's feelings, but also realized that as a member of the family, I cannot decide the major affairs of the family alone. My husband and mother-in-law and I need to discuss to reach a consensus, so that everyone will feel happy and satisfied.
Another year has passed, and my relationship with my husband is getting better and better, and my mother-in-law often smiles when she looks at our loving eyes. At the end of the year, I was finally pregnant, and the good news made our whole family ecstatic.
"Mom, you finally have a fake grandson, and our family will be even more lively in the future!" I happily told my mother-in-law the good news.
"Great, Ah Chen, I can't wait to hold my grandson!" The mother-in-law was overjoyed and smiling.
However, problems also arise. After I became pregnant, I became listless, often vomiting and dizzy, and my mother-in-law was very worried when she saw me like this. "Ah Chen, can your body really hold up, do you want to go to the hospital for a check-up?" She said worriedly.
I smiled wryly and said, "Maybe, I'm very serious every morning, and I don't sleep well at night and don't have the energy." But this should be a normal reaction, so don't worry too much. ”
"Even if it's a normal reaction, you have to check it to prevent any complications. The mother-in-law insisted.
I went home with a long list of medicines, and my mother-in-law said, "Listen to Mom, and take care of yourself and your baby more in the future." If you feel uncomfortable, you must say it, and don't put up with it by yourself like before. With us here, you can rest assured that your body is well recuperated. ”
I nodded and said gratefully, "Thank you, Mom, I see." You're right, I'll put myself and my baby's body first. With you and my husband here, I feel at ease. ”
My mother-in-law has been accompanying me to check my health, and then taking care of my diet and daily life every day, which is really meticulous. She got up early every morning to make me some light and delicious porridge, and reminded me to take medicine on time and sleep more. I was very touched to know that this was all my mother-in-law's love for me and my unborn grandson.
In this way, under the care of my mother-in-law and husband, I gradually survived the most uncomfortable first trimester of pregnancy. By the time I was four months pregnant, my body had finally improved and my symptoms had been greatly reduced. My mother-in-law was very happy to see that I was able to eat and move normally.
One day I was sorting out and preparing baby supplies with my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law sighed while folding small clothes: "Ah Chen, do you remember when you first came to my house, when you were still a young girl, and now you are going to be a mother, time flies so fast!"
I was also touched, and said with a smile: "Mom, when I first got married, I was really ignorant, and I didn't know anything." Fortunately, you never disliked me, but taught me to do things with your heart, so that I could grow up slowly. Now that I finally have my own little family, you are also going to be a grandmother, and the relationship between our mother and daughter is deeper than that of my own mother. ”
"Ah Chen, in fact, the day you came, I knew that you were a good girl with a kind heart and obedient words. Mom is really pleased to see you mature a little bit over the years. When the child is born, you will definitely become a good and competent mother. The mother-in-law said with a smile.
"It's all up to you to get started. I will remember everything you have taught me and I will pass on this motherly love to my children. I said gratefully.
In the blink of an eye, the baby was born safely. I was so excited to hold my lovely daughter. The mother-in-law cried with joy, she held the baby in her arms, and her face was filled with peace and joy that had not been seen for a long time.
"Ah Chen, we have added a little princess to our family, it's really cute!" The mother-in-law was overjoyed.
"Yes, Mom, our family is happier and more complete now. I couldn't help but laugh and cry.
That night, our family celebrated the birth of our baby with great joy. I watched my husband happily hugging the child, and I was filled with emotion. Now that I have my own home and a lovely daughter, life is so beautiful and peaceful. All of this was created by my mother-in-law, and without her nurturing grace and wise guidance, there would be no happiness now.
More than a year has passed in the blink of an eye, and the baby has become more and more playful and cute. Our family often went out happily, and my mother-in-law loved us as her own family. She also often taught me how to raise children better, and I followed her wise advice. Now I have the knowledge and skills to become a mother, all of which have been taught by my mother-in-law. Whenever I see the baby's innocent smiling face, I sincerely thank my mother-in-law for her cultivation.
Life is a long journey, but you will never be alone when you have your family by your side. I know that we will continue to work together through all the ups and downs in the years to come.
I nodded a little shyly and followed my mother-in-law in and out of each room. This small home is still very new to me, but the kind attitude of my mother-in-law makes me feel at ease and warm.
That night, our family sat around the dinner table, and my mother-in-law carefully told me the name of each dish, and said with a smile: "Ah Chen, you may not be Xi to our taste now, just get used to it slowly, if you don't like to eat, don't force it, mom can make something else for you to eat." ”
As the days passed, under the care of my mother-in-law, I gradually Xi got used to life here. My mother-in-law cared for me as if I was her own daughter and took care of my daily life. I also genuinely respect my mother-in-law as my own mother. Now that I finally have a daughter of my own and can experience what it is like to be a mother, I am even more appreciative and grateful to my mother-in-law for nurturing me over the years.
Although I am now a mother, I am still the child who needs to be cared for in my mother-in-law's heart. A few days ago, the baby had a cold and fever, and my mother-in-law saw that I was busy, so she immediately asked me to accompany the baby, and then prepared the meals one by one, and told me to rest early.
"Thank you, Mom, I see. You've done a great job. I said gratefully.
"I remember your words. Thank you for taking care of Wenwen these days, so that I can accompany her with peace of mind. I nodded.
"That's what moms should do. You also have to learn how to take care of your children in order to be a competent mother. The mother-in-law said softly.
I suddenly remembered that my mother took care of me before her death, and I couldn't help but feel the cycle of life and the greatness of mother's love. My mother-in-law is like me regaining my mother's love, and I will give back this compassion to my children.
There is still a long way to go in life, and I will continue to learn Xi and become a good wife and mother under the enlightenment of my mother-in-law. It is the responsibility and obligation of our generation to support the next generation. I also look forward to Xiaowen growing up, and I can guide her like my mother-in-law did to me, and become a beacon in her life journey.
Spring goes to autumn, and another year has passed in the blink of an eye. Xiaowen is three years old and has become a little lively wave who loves to talk and laugh. She always pestered her mother-in-law to babble non-stop, and then went to play with her father with a grin. Our family is getting closer and closer.
A few days ago, considering that my mother-in-law is very old, my husband and I discussed letting my mother-in-law go to live in the old house in my hometown for a period of time. I also deliberately cleaned and tidied up the room in my hometown, and then drove my mother-in-law back to live.
When she arrived at her hometown, her mother-in-law was very happy, and she excitedly walked around the old house, looking here and there like a child. I smiled and said, "Mom, when you come back, it's like going back to your own home, happy to be like this!"
The mother-in-law smiled and said, "Of course, this is the place where I have lived for most of my life, and you all grew up here." Every corner is full of memories. ”
I see that my mother-in-law looks much younger because she has returned to the familiar environment, and I really feel the mystery of time.
My mother-in-law has lived in her hometown for a month, her mental state is very good, and her body is also well recuperated. Every day, she would go to the neighbor's house to sit and chat, reminisce about the old things, and talk about her heart. And I can also relax a little in my hometown, leave Xiaowen in the care of my mother-in-law, and go out to shop or see old friends by myself.
In this way, we spent a pleasant and peaceful month in our hometown. Before returning to the city, my mother-in-law said to me with great interest: "Ah Chen, when I came back this time, I found that I really missed every grass and tree here. In the future, our family will have to come back often when we have time, and we can also let Xiaowen know her relatives in her hometown. ”
I smiled and nodded: "Okay, Mom, seeing that you are in such good spirits, we will definitely come back to live for a while next time we have a holiday." It does feel more comfortable at home than in the city. ”
After returning to the city, I felt that my mother-in-law was much more lively. She said that the air in her hometown made her feel good, and we could go back often when we had time in the future. I also found that my mother-in-law's appetite is better, her sleep is better, and her spirit is very good. It occurred to me that maybe I could consider moving back to my hometown in the future, so that my mother-in-law could live a healthier and longer life in a familiar environment.
"I'll say you'll feel the same way!" I happily put my arms around my husband and we decided to implement the plan soon.
So not long after, in the expectation of my mother-in-law, we moved back to our hometown. The mother-in-law was very happy, and she said that it was the best arrangement of her life to be able to return to a familiar place to retire. My husband and I also feel more comfortable living in our hometown. Xiaowen can enjoy the sunny and clear pastoral life here, which is also good for her growth.
Looking at my mother-in-law busy in the old house, smiling and smiling, I felt that we had made a very correct decision. People always have to go back to the beginning, and this is the most fulfilling state of life.
It's been half a year since I moved back to my hometown, and I found that this decision was very correct. The mother-in-law is younger, she is happily busy, and there is indeed a feeling of rejuvenation in the familiar environment.
A few days ago, the neighbor's aunt came to sit at home, and the two chatted about all kinds of interesting things in the past.
"I still remember Xiao Chen, when you first arrived in our village, you were a thin little girl, and I didn't know anyone. Now that you're married and have your own baby daughter, it's so happy!" The neighbor's aunt said with a smile.
"Yes, Chenchen was a shy little girl when she came to our house, and now she is a mature and virtuous mother. The mother-in-law said with relief.
"Where and where, I still have to learn from you Xi "I'm a little embarrassed.
"You kid, always so humble. Auntie smiled and complimented me.
As I listened to them talk about my past when I first got married, I couldn't help but feel the passage of time. I was still an ignorant little girl, but now I am a mother, time flies, and life is endless.
That night, my mother-in-law was sitting on the porch with the night breeze, so I went over to accompany her.
"Mom, you look younger. I laughed.
"Yes, I feel relaxed when I can go back to my hometown. The mother-in-law said, "The old friends in the old place make me feel rejuvenated." ”
"That's good. This shows that we have made the right choice to move back. I nodded.
"In the future, you and Xiaopeng will often bring Xiaowen back, so that your children can know their hometown from an early age and have feelings for the land here. The mother-in-law said lovingly.
"We will. "I solemnly agreed.
I suddenly remembered the ignorant girl who left home and came to this village in the past, and now I have become a mother myself, and I want to teach my children to love their hometown. Like the cycle of life, we all have to go through the ups and downs of growing up, and then turn our experience into wisdom and pass it on to the next generation.
"Mom, this cauliflower is blooming so beautifully!" Xiaowen said happily.
"Yes, the countryside in our hometown is the most beautiful. I laughed.
"Then I will go back to my hometown often to play in the future!" Xiaowen said and ran to chase butterflies.
Looking at my innocent daughter, I suddenly had a feeling of fear that she would grow up. The joy of childhood was so pure and beautiful, and I wanted to do everything I could to protect her happiness.
That night, I told my husband about it. He smiled and said, "I understand your feelings. We also had a carefree childhood, so we should try our best to give our children a good environment to grow up. ”
I nodded, he always understood my thoughts. There is still a long way to go, and we will work together to give Xiaowen a loving and happy growth process and help her grow up healthily and upwardly. I will also teach her the bits and pieces of her hometown, and cultivate her feelings for her hometown, so that the roots of life will not be broken.