Text: Jing Ma
Zhang Tao is my junior high school classmate, but also our class president, or the only student in our class who was admitted to the key high school in the city, her math score is very good, science thinking is very good, but she didn't expect that she chose Beijing Normal University later, she said that it is good to be a teacher, after all, girls will eventually return to the family, but also take care of the family.
Although being a teacher is not bad, with Zhang Tao's ability, she can become a financial analyst, or IT or something like that, so that it is easier to succeed in her career.
Later, when I was studying psychology, I saw an experiment done by the University of British Columbia, they observed more than 300 children aged 7~10 and their fathers, and found that the father never did housework at home, and the daughter's mind was prone to the idea of inequality between men and women, and the daughter was more likely to choose some traditional careers in the choice of career, and it was more difficult for her to have great achievements in her career.
I just remember that Zhang Tao once said that her father would cross Erlang's legs to watch TV when he came home, and he wouldn't even help the oil bottle at home when it was poured, that is, the kind of person who never knew how to do housework at home, so Zhang Tao would choose to be a teacher as a traditional profession.
Whether a father does housework or not has a relatively large impact on his daughter's adulthood, especially in these three aspects
The first aspect: participation in housework
If the father does housework at home, the daughter will also tend to find a husband who is willing to do housework after marriage.
In this way, she will have less time and energy to spend on housework, and she will be more comfortable in her marriage, she will have less complaints about the family, she will have more time and energy to develop her career, or hobbies, and her children will often be happier.
But if the father never does housework at home since she was a child, the daughter will subconsciously feel that it is a matter of course for a woman to do housework at home, and she will do housework diligently and diligently after she gets married.
Doing more housework will raise a lazier husband, which will make her spend more time and energy, and it will be more difficult to achieve success in her career in housework.
The second aspect: the choice of career
For example, women can also build airplanes and cannons, women can also be architects, or women can also be excellent athletes, their career choices will be richer, or their career choices will be more extensive.
When she chooses a career, she will be more inclined to choose a career that can take care of the family, such as a civil servant, such as a teacher, for example, to do some relatively stable jobs, so that she can take better care of the family.
In fact, the balance between family and career requires the sacrifice of one party, and if the daughter feels that she has to take care of the family, then the achievement in her career will definitely be less.
The third aspect: whether the character is strong or weak
Dad doing housework at home, it also means that such a father will also take the child, usually play with the child, the father takes the child to play with the daughter, in fact, the daughter can learn more from the father some male characteristics, male sexual traits are bold and strong, self-confidence is not easily defeated by difficulties, bold attempts dare to dare to fight.
The daughter raised in this way will be stronger in character in the future, more daring and enterprising in her career, and want to solve difficulties instead of running away.
But if the father never does housework at home and does not take care of the children, it will lead to the daughter growing up with her mother from an early age, and she can only learn the unique things of the mother that are feminine, gentle, delicate, and considerate, so that the child will be weaker in character and more likely to retreat when encountering difficulties. #萌娃成长记#
Topic: If you want your daughter to live a happier life, a more successful career, and give back to you better, as a father, hurry up and follow your mother to do housework!
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