Is it worth it to sell a house and rent a yard in the countryside and give children a happy childhood?

 What kind of house can give children a better educational experience? Educational resources near the house, return on investment, whether it is convenient to move in, etc., the game between various interests makes parents entangled. And these are not a problem for today's protagonist Chengyi's family, after selling the improved house in the city and renting a yard in the countryside for 20 years, they said: I have made a lot of money in my life...

This article is reproduced from the public number: Children's Book Mother Fun Home (ID: gh_7e8b059a1779)

Interviewee丨Cheng Yiwen, editor丨Mubai Editor丨May

Compared to life and death

Scores and grades don't matter

Hi, I'm Cheng Yi, Master of Medicine from Wuhan University, came to Huzhou, Zhejiang Province after graduation and started clinical work. My husband comes from a poor rural area, can bear hardships and stand hard work, exactly the same as Sun Shaoan in "Ordinary World", which fits all my imaginations of love.

In 2013, after having my son Xiaoxin, I was very excited, I brought it myself as soon as I was born, rounded the room with me, slept in the duty room together, once the nurse called me in the middle of the night, he slept outside, I came together, he fell under the bed with a bang.

The child grew up in the hospital

In my eyes, raising children is a sweet burden, not a bitterness. He was sent to nursery at 15 months, and although he was a little introverted, he adapted well and did not cry at all.

Raising a child, I don't care much about grades, as long as he goes his own way, I can accept how he lives. There is no point of return in life, and I cherish the days of happy life with him.

As a clinician in the rehabilitation department, I face patients with serious nerve and brain damage every day, cure many people, see a lot of life and death, and feel the impermanence of life, so in my eyes, there is only one thing that is the most important, that is, life and death.

I remember that many years ago, a Shanghai executive went to Huzhou on a business trip and suddenly had a heart attack, which was very dangerous, and it was gone before he had time to rescue people, and he was very sad and helpless as a doctor.

There is also a female patient who is also an acute cerebral infarction and later recovered well, but because there are more underlying diseases, the condition is always repeated. One day before work, I went to see her, she was in good spirits, she said that tomorrow she wanted me to prescribe some throat medicine for her, I said yes, and specially wrote it down in the doctor's order book, so as not to forget it. That night, she suddenly suffered cardiac arrest and passed away. The next morning, I looked at the medicine in the medical order book I wrote yesterday, silent for a long time, unable to speak. It was also from that moment that I told myself that what I wanted to do, I had to do immediately, and the people I wanted to meet should be met as soon as possible, and nothing was more precious than time.

Less than 5 minutes

Sell rent in the city and the country yard

During the epidemic, my heart was very depressed, I liked to grow flowers, so I raised more than 200 pots on the terrace at home, and then I wanted to have a garden, so I rented a piece of land, the land was all renovated, and the whole family was like fighting chicken blood every day, picking lights and fighting night and night, full of energy. At four o'clock the next morning, my husband went to the garden to water and prune.

I have been digging and building this garden for almost a year, planting all the flowers I want to plant, the garden is my favorite, the path full of flowers, purple and white thread flowers swaying in the wind, goose-yellow ground flowers creeping in bloom, the smell of lavender fills the air, and I run to enjoy the flowers every day, and my heart is full of flowers.

Unfortunately, the land was later expropriated. I had a bigger idea and wanted to find a yard with a house, 30% for flowers and 70% for my son.

Farming is the most traditional way of life in our Chinese, the land is our root, the sky is also our root, I hope that children can step on the earth and get close to the soil, can recognize food, feel the change of seasons, and experience things other than books.

Most importantly, I want my children to be in contact with nature from an early age.

According to introduction, in the early spring of 2021, I saw for the first time the old house under the shade of big trees in Xuyun Village by Taihu Lake, which was full of firewood, a lot of weeds, and spider webs on the top, and thick and dirty ash accumulated everywhere, and I couldn't step on it, and it was still a dangerous house.

The original photos are lost and the yard is in semi-renovated condition

But I loved the few trees in the yard, and the sunlight shining through the patio, as if a dream that had been looking for a long time, suddenly appeared in front of me, and I did not hesitate to decide that this was the house I wanted.

My husband was a little hesitant, thinking that it was not cost-effective to spend so much money to rent a dangerous house. But the yard is my ultimate dream in life, and he supports it unconditionally as soon as he hears it.

We are not financially rich, there is not enough money to rent the yard, we sold an improved house in the city, talked with the buyer in less than 5 minutes, repaid all bank loans, and the rest of the money paid off the rent for 20 years in one lump sum.

Usually, the family still lives in the old house in the city, and when the holidays come, they run to the countryside yard.

The whole family builds the yard together

I picked up a lot of furniture

After renting the yard, I waited for the decoration every day with a sense of anticipation, and I changed the design plan many times.

The courtyard is divided into two small courtyards, east and west, with more than 300 square meters. The small courtyard on the east side has two bedrooms, a large kitchen, and the wall near the courtyard room has been changed to a large glass, and a large long table has been placed, which is the handicraft room where I am interested.

I like baking, I like to call friends, I like to eat together as a family, leaving the maximum space for the kitchen, which can accommodate 30 people.

The kitchen dining room is connected

In winter, you can eat while roasting the fire, and you can put on a projector during festivals and eat while watching a movie, which is very atmospheric.

He also stepped on mud with the child to make a bread kiln, he designed the appearance of a marmot, pinched it a lot of teeth, put it indoors, plus a chimney, when burning the kiln can be heated indoors, after annealing can bake a variety of bread, pizza, sweet potatoes and the like, and it is easy to be crispy and soft, and the house in the countryside is particularly practical.

I like photography very much, I like the light in oil paintings, each room has new windows to increase the light, and when the weather is good, beams of light come in, like oil paintings, which often make me look in a daze.

Our whole family worked together to fill in the soil and pave the road, transform the soil and layout of the yard, with the shade of large trees, the garden achieved low maintenance, no need to take care of much, beautiful and healing in all seasons.

When the west yard was renovated and decorated, the corridor was specially designed, in addition to listening to the rain, there are also flowers that cannot be rained and need sunlight and ventilation, and when the temperature is suitable, it can be semi-exposed.

In the scorching heat, the small hibiscus and geraniums placed under the corridor survived strongly. My favorite cyclamen is beginning to bloom again under the corridor.

I like reading very much, and left a small space for the study, a row of bookshelves against the wall, a painting on the wall, a chair underneath, when it rains, you can sit inside and read through the window, which adds a touch of book aroma to the small courtyard.

I picked up a lot of furniture in the yard, and I wandered around the village when I had nothing to do, picking things everywhere, and every time I encountered it, I would become a powerful female man, wearing long skirts and high heels, and carrying them back to the yard with my bare hands.

The wooden planks I picked up and sanded the paint with the children, and my husband was responsible for repairing the wood, and with a little treatment, it was a very feeling table.

The table with broken legs I picked up was transformed into two beautiful little tables, and a woodblock print I had drawn was made into a tabletop.

Every place is created little by little by the whole family, and there is love as far as the eye can see.

There is no air conditioning in the yard, you can feel the wind flowing in the four seasons, and there is no WIFI in the yard, I hope everyone comes here, does not play with mobile phones, can have more communication, and enjoy the real pastoral life.

Parenting in the country

Better than any interest class

After the yard was installed, we lived in the country for all our holidays.

In the past, I liked to travel with my children, I went to Hulunbuir, Yunnan, Sanya, Qingdao, etc., to see the mountains, seas and grasslands, but now I don't even want to travel, the whole family competes to enjoy the country life alone, even on Sundays to stay one night, and then rush back to the city on Monday.

My child has a lot of free time, and in the fifth grade, he arranges his homework, and I never care. Although my grades in school are average, I am not worried at all, as long as the child has the ability to learn, he will definitely be able to learn well when he wants to.

The countryside is an extremely rich interest class, the child is full of curiosity, subtly can learn a lot in life, he has a busy and fulfilling life here.

01

Labor Lessons

The village rents a house and gives away 200 square meters of vegetable land, and it is stipulated that it is not allowed to be idle, no flowers are allowed, and vegetables must be grown.

I am responsible for growing flowers, and my children and my husband are responsible for growing vegetables. They had never done it before, so they learned from the villagers, and they planted whatever they planted.

Father and son picking sparse leeks in the field

Growing tomatoes and cucumbers also requires racks, which are often blown down by the wind and have to be remedied. Growing beans, only one grew in the summer, and my husband was very satisfied. My child often invited me to pick vegetables in the vegetable field that he thought was growing well, and listened to his constant reports of surprises: the winter melon was fruiting, the cucumber was also growing, leaving him excitedly pulling grass in the vegetable field.

When there is a good harvest in the fields, our whole family is busier.

Last year, we had so many radishes that we kept drying them and drying them all winter. This year, there are so many eggplants that I can't finish eating, and I have dried 5 large bags of dried eggplants, and found that the eggplant is dried and stewed, and the eggplant is better than meat.

I love my child's planting of vegetables, flowers, and sweeping the fallen leaves of the yard in the country, and I hope that he will realize the importance of labor sooner.

In recent years, cerebrovascular accident diseases have become younger and younger, and cerebral infarction hemorrhage in their twenties and thirties is very common, and in the past, these were diseases of the elderly.

Many diseases are closely related to lifestyle, and now young people eat and order takeaway, stay at home for a few days, and the circle of life is very narrow. People who do not work will have a heart disease and a lazy disease in the spirit.

I hope the sun will tan him and make him healthier, more determined, and more hard-working.

02

Nature lessons

My children have never read Fabre Insects, but they know almost all the common insects in the village.

In summer, the neem tree hangs upside down with dense caterpillars, which turn into butterflies after a while, and the child observes the entire process of metamorphosis. He often catches dragonflies to feed spiders, and also makes many insect specimens himself.

As we work, the children learn about seasonal crops and edible wild vegetables.

Once doing food homework related to osmanthus flowers, the child said that the textbook used to shake osmanthus trees to pick osmanthus flowers, so he shook it, quickly obtained many osmanthus flowers, and made purple sweet potato rice cake with his own hands, which was very accomplished.

03

Drawing lessons

He didn't like to go to art classes, but he loved to draw.

On a rainy night, the child generously invited me to draw his precious ultra-soft oil sticks with him, and also helped me pull the tape, the color of the oil sticks is very high-grade, although it is very laborious. I always love to paint purple flowers, and he loves the sea and mountains the most.

04

Exercise lessons

Father and son love cycling, riding by Taihu Lake, the scenery is super beautiful, sometimes riding a three-kilometer, going to a nearby town to eat a popsicle and then come back, when father and son ride in front, I look at their backs, I feel so happy.

In the country, he doesn't need almost any toys, and in the summer he likes to have water fights shirtless, go camping, fish fishing, and it is nice to nest at home with me on rainy days and do crafts.

The most important thing to raise a child

Pay attention to the ritual sense of each meal

Eating together as a family is precious

Three meals and four seasons are love and warmth

In my eyes, three meals and four seasons are the most important and happiest things in life. When I bought vegetables at the vegetable market, I all had a happy feeling, thinking about what they liked to eat, and as soon as they came back, they shouted "so hungry, so hungry", and I felt very happy.

01

Eat in the four seasons, and eat a variety of things every day

Food changes seasonally every day.

Eat wild vegetables in spring, and the fields are full of water celery, tender wormwood, motherwort, February orchid, purple flower, and soon a full basket will be harvested.

Lixia got up early and steamed the rice and made a sesame rice ball.

The autumn osmanthus turns into a sweet and fluffy chiffon cake;

Soft and fluffy rice bread wrapped in winter warmth.

02

Pay attention to the presentation and pay attention to the sense of ritual

I pay attention to the ritual sense of each meal, breakfast and dinner are very grand, different foods with different utensils, each bowl and plate are picked up by me one by one, put on the chopstick rack, each pair of chopsticks facing the same direction, with seasonal flowers, the atmosphere of the whole family eating is different.

Eating well together as a family is more important than a high score. Although he is my child, he does not belong to me, he is an independent individual, eating at the same table with him, listening to him talk about happy things in school, I think such moments are so precious, in a few years it will be gone, and eating together as a family is really precious.

Enjoy the slow life in the countryside

The mind gains quiet, the spirit gains strength

In the countryside, life slowed down.

In the village, there is still cash to buy vegetables, there is only one small store, and the family lacks salt and oil when cooking vegetables, and the children volunteer to buy them, and every time they come back, they carry melons, fruits and vegetables sent by others.

Although the village is inhabited by people over seventy years old, they are all interesting and warm.

There is a grandmother with inconvenient legs and feet, who loves to drink milk tea very much, and she has to go in a raincoat on rainy days.

Grandma who loves milk tea

There was a grandmother who sat on the steps all year round, looking out with confused eyes, and I asked her why she was sitting there? She said, look at the sky.

Once, I gave my grandmother a persimmon cake that I made to give her a taste, and she said that she would take it home and eat it with her old man, both of them with disabled eyes and one hunched back, always laughing and talking to each other, feeling that the world was too warm.

On a summer day in the morning sun, light and shadow shine on the grandmother who washes clothes by the river

Life here, do not look at the time to see the sun, every day sunrise, sunset, at seven o'clock at night, the countryside is very quiet, there is no one.

Our lives have also slowed down.

Dad is the child's playmate, accompanying him on rides, walking the dog, and running in the fields.

After the walk, the father and son watched the fish by the river, and it seemed that it was slowly getting a little autumn.

One day I was pulling weeds when my child suddenly called me to watch the sunset, and then I saw the gorgeous sunset by the countryside vegetable field with him.

People feel relaxed here, life is simple and fulfilling, and their hearts are calm and warm.

On Monday, I have to go back to the city to work, as if I have gone to a different life, and I am healed by the countryside on the weekend, my heart is recharged, and my spirit is full of strength.

Mom lived her life well

Children can live their lives well

Living in the yard in the countryside, I was reluctant to sleep, and I got up at four or five o'clock, just when the work was not hot, I went to the vegetable field or raised flowers in the yard, had breakfast, took a break to read a book, draw a picture, take pictures.

I spend all my time on my hobbies, and my mother can live my life well, and my children can live their own life well.

The clothes and fabrics worn in recent years are dyed by themselves, pick beautiful leaves, place them in suitable places, heat rub them on satin silk, and then boil water with wormwood or loquat leaves, dye them, get a unique fabric, and then ask the tailor to customize the skirt of your choice.

Picked up a few maple leaves and other leaves to go home, the plant rubbed a sheet, nature's gift is so magical.

I like reading very much, and I did an inch of reading club, an inch of time and an inch of gold, which means "life is short, I hope that readers will cherish time like gold".

Now two years ago, I have read and shared 24 books together, covering history, literature, medicine, philosophy, economics and other industries, and each book sharing in different fields is like a key to opening the door to a new world.

In the hospital, I am used to life and death, and I know the preciousness of life, and health has the happiness of time. When a person reads a lot of books, he will have the feeling of seeing the mountains and small mountains, the pattern of life seems to be much broader, and he will also relieve a lot of worries and troubles. If you are still alive, what is there to worry about and be afraid of.

Here I feel that my life has made a lot of money.

Children used to be more introverted and afraid to chat with adults, but now they like to have strangers visiting the most, and their social skills have become stronger.

This yard brought me a lot of like-minded friends, living here for two years, WeChat friends have at least tripled, and meeting people from all walks of life is the greatest asset for me.

The most important thing is that the family is very warm together, I have seen the most beautiful dew in the morning sun, the romantic sunset in the evening, three meals and four seasons to eat well, such precious days, really live one day less, look at life with cherished eyes, I really make a lot of money.

My husband said that among all my vigorous decisions, renting a yard is the most correct choice in life.

postscript

Chengyi's yard is a life gift she gave back to herself, without any vassal value, but more spiritual value. The family's 20-year life experience and fond memories are priceless.

Chengyi's yard is enviable, but the spiritual core of the yard, in fact, everyone can have, a family lives together, three meals and four seasons eat well, put down the mobile phone to chat more, leisure time to climb the mountain together, cycling, play, do a lot of interesting things together, the common memory of a family together, is a priceless treasure in the growth of children.

Life is an experience, don't feel like it's a long time, think about it and do it immediately.

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