How important is it to leave a little time for your child?

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Once, I saw a child's holiday study schedule online.

From 7 a.m. to 10 p.m., it's full.

The coverage is very comprehensive, there are various time arrangements for sports, eating, and studying, but there is no time to play...

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The 1-day period is divided into 25 small parts, the longest may be 1 hour of extracurricular reading, and the rest is tens of minutes of study.

It's really numb to watch.

Of course, the authenticity of this picture is not completely certain, and it is unknown whether it has been implemented according to this table.

But if the kid really runs according to this schedule, he really is a "robot."

Either the parents have a timer on them, and then follow the child, remind the child, and then supervise him to do it.

Since we talked about this today, I will also share some of my thoughts and practices.

Because many mothers also asked me if I made a holiday planner for Xiaoxiaoyu.

This summer, we did not make a paper plan, but we also made a combing arrangement for the entire holiday of life and study.

A month has passed since the summer vacation, and I think the arrangement is still good.

I remember that from before Xiaoyu went to kindergarten, I began to take him to make a study plan together.

But the premise is to respect the child's characteristics.

I think children need guidance from their parents, but they also have their own characteristics.

For example, breaking a day into dozens of time periods goes against the nature of their development.

Children's psychology makes us realize that children need some time to develop themselves, not all the time need to be arranged by adults.

And during this time, they complete their self-development in free play almost without adult interference.

For example, babies who are full of security and are well cared for, after they are full, they will play with their fingers in the cradle, or kick the small quilt, and observe everything around them.

At this time, he doesn't need his mother to tell him how you want to play with your fingers and what you need to observe.

What parents need is to watch quietly and watch from afar.

Just show up when they need you.

In kindergarten, children are eager to play around.

Cycling, walking, catching insects, observing plants for specimens.

You can listen to the wind and see the clouds, and be free.

Why am I talking about this.

Because throughout the child's entire childhood learning, it is inseparable from such free play time.

Therefore, parents must remember to leave a little blank space for their children's time.

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Some mothers may say, of course for small babies, but also for children who go to school?

Shouldn't you spend all your time studying in schoolwork?

Of course, time should not be spent in these places.

It's just about spending part of the time.

Too many of us parents carry anxious hearts.

I feel that in my city, education is running forward, and I can't do it without pulling my children to run.

It's like some training providers say, we're nurturing your child's competitors.

It seems that if you don't go, you are doomed.

So there are those kids who study all day and study all day long.

They hardly show up, but study at home.

If it is a sprint for the middle school entrance examination or college entrance examination, the study arrangement is a little tighter, which is understandable.

But is it really appropriate to be in kindergarten or elementary school, or during the holidays, and to be full of learning?

Every age group has something that should be done at this age, just like the tree's annual rings develop in a circle.

A circle of babies, representing love and enjoyment; A circle of children, representing creation and fantasy; The circle of teenagers is play and play; The circle of youth is love and exploration; The circle of adults symbolizes reality and responsibility.

Children should not prematurely understand the responsibilities and realities of the adult world and then carry that pressure.

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I've always been averse to "filling" my child's time.

So as soon as the holiday ended, when I discussed with Xiaoxiaoyu, I insisted on two principles, one is to relax a little during the summer vacation, so there must be time to play.

Hearing this, his eyes lit up, how to play, I want to play!

The second is to study every day during the summer vacation and stick to your usual schedule.

Well, that's not too much to ask for, after all, you're still a student!

So our arrangement is to study English for about an hour at home in the morning, because his English is weak.

I make time to speak a few times a week, and then Xiaoxiaoyu memorizes words, reads textbooks, and does some exercises.

The rest of the time is just playing and reading freely.

It was all arranged by him, and we hardly intervened.

All the summer homework was completed in the afternoon, and the reading comprehension, writing training, math practice, etc. added up to more than an hour.

Then read it yourself for the rest of the afternoon.

Go downstairs at night to jump rope and play.

On weekends, you can watch animation, and the rest of the time is to wash up and go to bed early and listen to stories.

So in general, the normal study time per day is about more than two hours.

Little fish's holiday looks really relaxed.

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Give your child a little time to relax and don't overfill the space of childhood.

This time, must be there.

Everyone needs their own time to do something they like to do and adjust their emotions and states.

This is the need for healthy psychological development.

Do not feel that the child is small, does not understand anything, and needs its own arrangement.

Parents must understand the arrangement, but also learn to exit, can't be like a helicopter, hovering overhead 24 hours a day, which is very scary.

Like I said above, free up some time.

Many, many things can be done.

Don't feel that not letting your child learn is wasting your child's childhood.

Don't be afraid that your children will have nothing to do at home, for fear that they will be idle and bored.

There's a lot that can be done.

Put away your phone and set the TV time.

Can read, can study regularly every day, can exercise every day.

You can also find a few good friends together, go downstairs to play football and play games.

These are very good growing times.

Why do you have to keep your child in schoolwork?

In the previous plan, which divided the child's day into 25 time periods, there were many more eye drops.

Really attentive and want to protect the child's eyes.

Indeed, in such an intensity study plan, the child's eyes will definitely not be able to eat without protection.

However, have you ever thought about your child's inner thoughts?

In fact, a little more free play time, a little more outdoor exercise, this eye drops do not drop, the child's eyes will be very good.

Sometimes, pinching your fingers, in fact, the child can not spend a lot of time with him.

If middle school is a boarding school, there are really only a few years of elementary school.

Cherish it.

Years later, if the child recalls his childhood.

My mind is full of training classes, interest classes, and various remedial assignments, and I lack the memories of childhood joy, freedom, and mischief.

What a shame!