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Every girl has such a boy in her life, who does not belong to love, nor is he her boyfriend, but within the closest distance to herself, there must be his place.
———— Guo Jingming
As we walked along the bustling streets, there was an indescribable taste in our hearts, and although this feeling made us dazed, it did not despair. The word "school bullying" allows us to see the despair of a weak person, in fact, what they are most afraid of is not to be thrown a different look, but to look at the back of a good friend, so they are not afraid of being bullied as they are afraid of betrayal.
"If I Were a Hero" is only an eight-minute short film, but it depicts the inner world of a bullied girl, because the girl who is ridiculed and bullied because of her appearance is sad, but she still has friends, a friend who has the same dream, a friend who will share comic books with her to take her to play electric, and the so-called friend who finally makes the girl pull out a gun. Being bullied is only physical pain, but there is still faith in the heart, and when this belief collapses, the girl's world will no longer have light. Most people have the dream of becoming heroes when they are young, fantasizing about their omnipotence, protecting their important people, and being thrown into the eyes of worship by everyone, but in fact, we are ordinary people, if we are not heroes, we should not easily give people a dawn, because once this last light is extinguished, that kind of harm is difficult to express in words.
First, the fist can be clenched, but do not swing at the weak
Don't act with evil, don't act with kindness, what we think of as trivial may bring about earth-shaking changes in other people's lives. In recent years, "school bullying" has received more people's attention, like "Sadness Against the River" revealed the story of the bullied girl Yi Yao jumping into the sea because of everyone's ridicule and bullying and the disappointment of her good friends, and the most interesting of them is that the abuser Tang Xiaomi was also the target of bullying before the transfer, she was just a weak person, from a bullied person to an abuser, she just wanted to cover up her inner weakness. Even if you think about it many years later, you just think that you are just joking, but you never consider the indelible shadow in the heart of the bullied, but many people here ignore a problem, jokes, isn't it only jokes that both sides of the joke find funny? One-sided so-called jokes are nothing more than a bright coat of clothing for bullying.
But in fact, whether it is the bullied people in "Sorrow Against the River" or "If I Am a Hero", what makes them most desperate is the betrayal of their good friends, Yi Yao did not despair when she was ridiculed by everyone, did not despair when she was bullied by the abuser, but when her good friend Gu Sensi was disappointed and left, she was desperate. The same is true in "If I Were a Hero", where the girl is not desperate even if she is ridiculed for being punched and kicked, except that the boy pulls out his gun when he shouts, "Who is your good friend?"
The boy always feels that he is a hero and can protect the girl, but he ignores that he is just an ordinary person, and he is still a child who has nothing, since he cannot protect from the beginning, why should he bring hope to the girl? Finally and cruelly leaving, this feeling is far more painful than being bullied.
Only cowardly people will throw their fists at the weak to imply that they are not weak, otherwise why are the perpetrators and the bullied only a small number of people? Why do most people choose to live their lives in peace? Strong people don't need to stretch out their fists to be in awe, and weak people who stretch out their fists can hardly get the kind of admiration that spreads from the bottom of their hearts. So what we really have to do is not to tell others how strong we are through our fists, but to make ourselves more excellent, even if we don't need to use our fists, we will be respected and strong. This kind of strength does not refer to the strength of force, but more to the spiritual, professional, and intellectual strength, which is why the leaders of all walks of life may not fight, but they are still admired. So what we have to do is to keep working hard to be a good version of ourselves and to keep ourselves away from bullying in the first place.
No matter what kind of crying experienced last night, the city is still busy when I wake up in the morning.
———— Anthony
Second, the perpetrator of violence is rarely directed at the sunny and confident person
There are not many movies and TV series on the theme of "school bullying", such as hearing-impaired girls in "The Shape of Sound", Orphan Li Enfei in "School 2015", Sick Girl Yi Yao in "Sadness Against the River", etc., we can find that they have a characteristic as victims of campus bullying, silence. They are more or less inferior because of their own inadequacies, and they are also ridiculed because of this inadequacy. The bullied girls in "If I Were a Hero" are no exception, being humiliated and bullied because of scars on their faces, and the dodging in the eyes of friends has become the last straw that crushes the camel.
However, everything is in case, and not all people with deficiencies will become the target of violence by the perpetrator, so we need to consider a question here, why is the perpetrator aimed at this person? Why doesn't he bully others? I believe that this is also the question of many people. How can a sunshine confident and excellent person be bullied? The girl in the story is covered with heavy bangs because of the scars on her face, she herself denies herself, how can others affirm her? In the end, we should still have confidence in ourselves, no matter what, I am me, the unique self, even if others look down on us, we can't help but recognize ourselves.
Most people are busy, whether it is study or work, there are always things to be busy with, will not always focus on the shortcomings of others, as long as we are good enough, we are not afraid of gossip. But this can not say that the perpetrator is right, their own things can not be perfect, but to focus on the inadequacies of others is also puzzling, to borrow a phrase from "School 2015" is that the use of violence against violence is the work of the weak.
"School violence" does exist in our real life, and it is difficult for us to change or even erase such a existence, but we can strive to make ourselves excellent, sunny and confident, and have several playmates, which is enough to avoid being bullied.
May the wind cut away every grain of dust, may the soul reach the end of memory, may all the vastness return to smallness, may every loneliness embrace resonance, may the clothes bring flowers, may the years be calm.
Third, since you have chosen to appear in the lives of others as a dawn, do not leave easily
We are just ordinary people, no superpowers, if not heroes do not easily give people a dawn, if you choose to appear as a dawn in the lives of others, do not easily leave. People who have been in the dark for a long time will only feel lonely, so when there is light in the dark, they will desperately keep this light, so once this light is extinguished, then the blow to her is far heavier than letting her remain in the dark all the time. The boy in the story has a hero dream from an early age, because the girl also likes comics and likes heroes, so she becomes a good friend with her, and in the face of the whispers and ridicule of the people around her, the girl can hold back or even not care, because she still has good friends, a boy who is willing to take her to play electric, buy her comics, and chat with her.
But the dream is a dream after all, the boy is not a hero, just an ordinary person, in the face of the threat of the abuser finally chose to withdraw, in fact, the boy knew from the beginning that the girl was bullied, but by giving gifts to the abuser and trying to protect the girl, but in the end it is not a long-term solution. The dream is shattered, the reality continues, in order to become the same target of bullying, the boy chose to withdraw, which forced the girl to a dead end. The light of life disappears and faces endless darkness. We don't feel anything when we never have it, but once we have it and then lose it, the pain is far more ferocious than if we never had it.
Since he chose to be friends with the girl, he was already mentally prepared to protect the girl, and quit halfway, which was even more cowardly. Some people may think that this is just the common sense of people, after all, because girls are bullied, boys will be bullied if they do not choose to quit. But in fact, these abusers will only extend their fists to the weak, and in the face of really strong people, they also know that there will be no good results, because the perpetrators often know that the weak do not dare to resist and continue to bully, just like you know that this person can't afford to provoke, how can you take the initiative to provoke? Cowardice is hard to pity, and only strength can be admired. In fact, whether it is a girl or a boy, the tough side that shows it at the beginning may be different in the future.
If we are just ordinary people and not heroes, we should not easily stand up to protect each other, otherwise when the protector chooses to leave because of cowardice, it will only make the protected person more painful and crazy. Since you have chosen to be the light that illuminates the girl's world, do not leave easily, clearly saying that you are a good friend, but in the face of the threat of the abuser, saying words such as "who is a good friend with you", the girl pulls out the gun not because she can't stand the bullying, but because she can't stand the betrayal. After all, what is generally more unacceptable to everyone than to be bullied is betrayal.
Living in the gutter, also remember to look up at the sky.
———— "Young You"
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"If I Were a Hero" is an eight-minute animated short film that shows the cruelty of school bullying and the helplessness of ordinary people. In the face of school bullying, it is difficult for ordinary people to change or erase the occurrence of this kind of thing, but we can try not to make ourselves a bully. But the deeper implication of this short film is that in the face of bullying, we are more afraid of betrayal, physical pain can be endured, and the gossip of the outside world can not be cared for, but they can't stand the betrayal of their best friends, which is why the girls in the story did not draw their guns when they were beaten, did not pull out their guns when they saw the abusers, but pulled out their guns when the boys betrayed their friendship.
Finally, I would like to say that since you are not a hero, you should not easily bring the light to the other party, since you choose to leave cowardly, it is better to refuse to be a friend at the beginning, and since you choose to protect the other party, you must insist on it, rather than giving up easily. In the face of bullying, although we do not have to fight violence with violence, but we can not easily compromise, the best way is to be confident, try to become excellent, and let yourself stay away from bullying from the beginning.