When girls do this, their husbands will be full of protection!

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hi~ Welcome to the new column - Weiwei Q&A.

As the name suggests, micro quiz is shorter and more concise than micro question and answer.

The establishment of this column aims to solve some small problems that are not easy to be selected into the public account. Now the public account questions are getting more and more difficult, more and more long, Xiaobai questions are getting less and less, I thought everyone understood, but after actual observation, I found that novices still have a lot of ignorance of theory in their hearts, or old fans also have a lot of problems in the control of emotional details.

Therefore, I opened this column to answer some small questions in a targeted manner, focusing on theory.

Every Saturday and Sunday, on my big planet, we will use the form of quick questions and answers, everyone will ask questions, I will answer, and at the same time invite some marriage system planners little fairies to answer.

*Title source: Question 2 of this issue

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Keywords: emotional black hole

The baby sister who combines beauty and wisdom is good, and the marriage master fairy is good. Help with problems with dad.

My father has a good character and is personally committed, and his salary has always been handed over to my mother, and he has also invested a lot in me and my brother. But always picky and irritable, dissatisfied with society, people and things, parents have a cloth nature, habitually make noise every day. After learning the underlying logic with my sister, I also understood my father more and more, and I got along more and more smoothly.

Recently, my father came to my city to run errands, stayed at my house for a few days, and as always, he was always looking for faults. As usual, I took my daughter to complete the question homework assigned by the teacher, but my daughter could not answer for a few seconds, and when she was still thinking about the answer, my father kept rushing to answer next to me, and kept chasing and criticizing us, and the child cried later. At first, I could still talk and do things normally, but then I couldn't help but reason with him loudly. Or when I am busy, he wants this and that from time to time, always pay attention, I have to be busy and always take care of his needs and emotions, I can't take care of it more times, and the tone of response to him is very bad. He was angry and I was angry with him, but fortunately when he is older now, he doesn't have the same emotional breakdown as before. This kind of thing has happened twice in the past few days. After he left my house, I felt exhausted and in need of relief. Being angry with my father, I will feel sorry for him when I calm down, but I feel that I have to be angry every time. I want to take care of everyone's feelings, but I can't do it, and I feel helpless.

Similar things will inevitably happen later. Ask the wise big fairies and little fairies, what is more appropriate to do in this situation.

Doll's answer

Some parents are really emotional black holes, we as children are here to repay the favor, what you need is: let them go when you feel that you can't bear it.

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Keyword: protectiveness

(Source of the title of this issue)

The doll fairy is good, and the marriage rulers are good. What I want to ask is how to make my husband think more about himself and his children. He was positive and I took care of him. But he still doesn't pay attention to the details of life, big grin, the water cup is placed indiscriminately, the room isolation does not close the door (say I forgot), things are placed indiscriminately, I think it is easy to infect children, it doesn't matter if it infects me, I hope that since he is positive, he will pay more attention to himself. I would like to ask my dear doll and marriage master, am I having a lot of things, or am I asking too much, how can I make him take the initiative to think more about me and the child?

Doll's answer

You have a high pu, I have an impression of you. "The Secret of a Perfect Relationship" talks about how to make her husband good to children, and the most important thing is pu. If you can't do it, you can't do it, and you can't solve it in a few words.

The marriage ruler's reply

Little Fairy (1):

I remember that you asked questions many times before, and your husband was also corpsed, and even on the verge of divorce, he made it clear that it was painful to be with you. It is difficult for corpse men to have any protective desire for you, and even children will be affected by your high PU. It's not easy for you to maintain this relationship that is on the verge of breakdown.

Now that he is sick, it is actually the best period for you to brush low PU to earn performance, and taking good care of him may give you PU➕ points and make him feel a little more favorable.

It is something trivial in itself, and people are sick, the state is already very bad, normal lovers should be very nervous about each other's physical state, the result is different, still have a lot of opinions about him, nitpicking. And he is not willing to do something to raise his hand, but also thinks that he should be conscious, how you should ask for emotional value, PU is not generally high, but also very greedy. If you continue like this, then you will basically come to an end.

Little Fairy (2):

It's that you ask too much, before your question record looks, you have the habit of asking for overdraft without knowing it, this feeling is reflected in the planet asking questions 11 times in a single question channel, and it is definitely more intensive in intimate relationships, the husband is the pillow person who gets along with you day and night, and then the person who cuts it will not provide much shearing, no money can not be swiped out in the bank, you have now swiped the credit card of the offspring, and if you do not brake, the offspring will lose their father's desire to protect.

3

Keyword: long-term selection

How should the phrase "women benefit more in long-term choices" be understood?

Doll's answer

It's literally

4

Keywords: cloth cutting man

Excuse me, do you think that fantasizing about girls (long-term choice of objects) and other men having intimate sex is very turning, is this sex cutting (the pleasure of stealing dolls)? Or is this alone not enough to judge the attribute? (Other than that, I think he is the core cloth, it should be a cut cloth)

Thank you sister and all the little fairies in advance!

The marriage ruler's answer

Little Fairy:

Most of the emperors were cloth, and most emperors did not have this hobby. You see that there are many rules in ancient royal palaces, for example, normal men are generally not allowed to enter the harem, there are many eunuchs in the harem, and harem women are restricted from leaving the palace ... It is clear to restrict the emperor's mate and potential partner and male contact. Therefore, nuclear cloth does not have this hobby.

The stone does not have this hobby, otherwise the stone pesters his wife all day long, just afraid that others will rob it. Combined with your saying that this person has strong cloth sex, it may be cloth cutting.

The subject replied

Thank you Fairy for such a detailed answer, but I think the possibility of him being a cloth cutter is almost zero: he is the eldest in the family, has a strong sense of responsibility, loves children super much, is pro-investment, is domineering, has a good career, and so on. Shearing sex is mainly in migration, has been in a foreign country when he is young, and also looks good, and likes to deal with people. So I'm also curious and confused about why such a person has such a preference

The marriage ruler's answer

Little Fairy:

I came to the above conclusion based on the premise you gave: the man's long-term choice.

If the woman is not a long-term choice, then...

Even if you get married, it is not necessarily a long-term choice.

If it is a long-term choice, the cloth man will not be like this.

Doll's answer

I just replied with a message, I don't know why it was swallowed by the system, combined with all the information you sent, it seems that the probability that this man is a cloth cutter is higher than 90%.

The other 10% may be the point that the fairy upstairs also mentioned, that is, the woman is probably not his long-term choice, and may only be a temporary transition object.

5

Keywords: Frustration of male competition

Please ask Sister Wa and all marriage masters for guidance.

My husband is a programmer, because of disagreement with the leader, he was laid off in the first wave, and he has been at home for more than half a year, and his job search in the last 2 months has not been smooth, and he wants to change to another direction, saying that he wants to learn and meet again.

At present, the baby is 13 months old, there is no old people to help, I take the baby full-time, my husband is the economic pillar, the child is learning to walk, I have bad blood, I have always been conditioned, it is also very difficult to bring up, I am very angry when I see my husband lazily playing with his mobile phone, my husband has a bad temper recently, and the air pressure is very low every day

My husband loves children very much, recognizes his dedication, and can understand him for being stressed, but when he is tired, he is very irritable and angry, and asks his sister and marriage master for guidance to get through the crisis smoothly.

The marriage master replied with praise

Little Fairy (1):

My husband was the economic pillar before, but when people's work always changes, my husband seems to be playing with his mobile phone, in fact, he may also be anxious and entangled, he is a boy, unlike girls who can cry, he can only relieve pressure by playing games and looking at mobile phones.

The child is more than one year old, and the fairy can also study the side business, show the attitude that she is also working hard to make money, tide over the difficulties, and transform the requirements for her husband into inward seeking, and the relationship will be better.

Little Fairy (2):

You are at home full-time, and your husband is the breadwinner, that is, your husband was laid off and you did not support your family, why is it not pleasing to watch your husband play with his mobile phone? I don't see that you are considerate of your husband, but I want to blackmail my husband because I am not feeling well.

Little Fairy (3):

When both men and women are not working, the female gender advantage is really too obvious. Men can't find a job, and when they play with their phones when they are stressed, women can justifiably get angry and can't get used to each other. If a woman can't find a job, she can use her children as an excuse to say that she can't work because she has children.

In fact, if you have a strong ability to work, you can make money to support your family and ask your sister-in-law to take a baby and let your husband rest for a while, right? You can't make money on your own and rest, and your husband will be instructed if he doesn't find a job for the time being.

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