Session 263 Micro-Lesson: How to Communicate Effectively with Children

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What is effective communication?

1. Parents who are too strong will easily raise children with inferiority.

For example, a 14-year-old boy in Henan Accidentally swallowed the compass needle in his mouth while playing with his classmates. Afraid of being scolded by his parents, he did not dare to tell his parents and spent 4 days in pain and fear.

Later, because of a small matter, the boy was criticized by his mother. In horror, the boy told himself about swallowing the compass needle by mistake. In the midst of his mother's scolding, he was rushed to the hospital, but fortunately the boy escaped after surgery. By then, the compass needle had rusted and stuck into the boy's lungs, just a few millimeters from the heart.

2. Without empathy and communication, the inner distance will only get farther and farther.

For example: Parent A: "You have to study hard, read more, play less on your mobile phone, and get into a good university in the future." ”

Parent B: "I spend all day with my child, accompany him to do homework, prepare school bags for him, prepare delicious meals, and enroll her in various interest classes. ”

3. Violent communication will only lead to a vicious circle, and even bring irreparable consequences.

For example, Zhang Mourui, a 14-year-old junior boy in the ninth grade of a junior high school in Jiangxia District, Wuhan City, Hubei Province, was found by the homeroom teacher after playing poker with two classmates in the class, and invited his parents to cooperate with the discipline.

After Zhang Mourui's mother came to the school, in the corridor, instead of asking about the specific situation of the child, she slapped Zhang Mourui twice in public, kept reprimanding in her mouth, and also forcefully strangled the child's neck and crashed into the wall. Subsequently, a teacher came forward to dissuade Zhang Mourui's mother and take her away.

At this time, there were many students and teachers in the corridor. Shortly after his mother left, Zhang Mourui was silent for a while, turned around and climbed over the railing, and jumped from the 5th floor without hesitation.

Good communication is a key to opening the child's heart. A good parent-child relationship can make children no longer have a rebellious mentality.

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How to communicate effectively in language

Effective Communication Skill One: Listen with kindness

1. Communicate sincerely and listen like a friend;

2. Communicate seriously and let go of the matter at hand;

3. Communicate on an equal footing and not have preconceptions.

Effective Communication Skills Two: Good Mood

1. Don't let impulsive emotions ruin your original intentions;

2. Don't let anxious emotions have negative effects;

3. Don't let impatient expression hurt your child's heart.

Effective Communication Skills Three: Accurate Expression

1. Enhance empathy and don't use overly adult language;

2. Express with positive encouragement and are often accepted by children;

3. Speak smartly and praise sincerely.

Effective communication skills four: take the initiative to ask questions and share actively

1. Are you as busy today as I am?

2. Isn't Mom's new dress beautiful today?

3. It is an exchange, not an interrogation.

Effective Communication Skills Five: Communication Solutions

1. What do you think? What are you going to do?

2. What else can be done?

3. Give it a try first.

Effective Communication Skills Six: Use body language

1. Sit down and not be condescending;

2. Touch your child's head and pat your child's shoulder;

Effective Communication Skills Seven: Increase Parent-Child Interaction

1. Learn together;

2. Exercise together;

3. Enjoyable meals and chats.