"In the midst of the fluff, it is straight, and the white sand is in nirvana, and it is black."
- Xunzi
Rhonda Byrne wrote in The Force:
"Everyone has a magnetic field around them, and no matter where you are, the magnetic field will follow you, and your magnetic field attracts people and things with the same magnetic field."
What kind of magnetic field you have, what kind of life you will live.
01
With great people
Really important
Lu Yao wrote in "The Ordinary World":
"When a person's mind is not strong enough to fully grasp himself, he needs to rely on another person who is stronger than himself mentally.
One day, students may become teachers of their own teachers (which is often the case), but at every stage of their growth, they need to seek instructions that are more intelligent than their own knowledge at that time. ”
The ten people closest to you are your circle.
No matter how many people a person knows, the most frequent interaction is only ten.
In addition to your closest friends and family, the people who can really help and influence each other are those who are closely related to you.
As Xunzi said:
"In the midst of the fluff, it is straight, and the white sand is in nirvana, and it is black."
People's instincts follow the actions of the people around you, so if you can't do self-discipline, it's best to find a circle that suits you.
To have a better circle, first become a better person.
There is a saying in "The Secret": Everything around a person is attracted by his inner thoughts and characteristics.
As the painter Yumeji Takehisa said:
"The life that always hangs on the mouth is your life, people are always easily hypnotized by the words they say, and I am afraid that many of the complaints you always hang on your mouth will become all your life." 」
02
Positive and negative emotions
Decide the number of lives for a lifetime
Daniel Goleman, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, said: Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage emotions.
A student at Lakeside University asked Tsai Chongxin, a permanent partner at Alibaba: "What is the saddest thing for you in the past so many years?" ”
His answer was to the effect of: "Are you asking about something sad, or is it difficult to deal with?" It seems that there is nothing sad about it, but I have experienced some difficult things..."
Ponder this sentence carefully: there is no sadness, no complaint, all things, if it happens, just calmly face it, at most it is difficult to deal with, there will not be too much emotional ups and downs.
Truly.
90% of communication problems are emotional problems.
And the emotions between people are really contagious.
With people with negative magnetic fields, the "emotional garbage" accumulated on their bodies will converge into an emotional black hole, get along for a long time, and even swallow up our positive energy.
And with people with positive magnetic fields, even if they encounter unsatisfactory things, they will be positive and optimistic, and after a long time together, we will become confident and sunny.
The magnetic field energy around us is affected by interpersonal interactions.
03
Send out love to attract love
Romain Rolland said: "The most beautiful music of the soul is kindness." ”
Throughout the countless beautiful worlds, only goodwill and love can not be disappointed.
Kindness, like a reincarnation, the kindness and love you have given in life will return in another way.
"Fanghua" has such a line: "Kindness is never for anything in return, but a choice from the heart." ”
As Liang Xiaosheng said:
"Kindness is not something that is deliberately done for others to see, it is a pleasant and natural thing.
Kindness has its own heart, people are good or not, can not see it for a while, a long time, the truth will come out. ”
Your kindness and kindness to others will ultimately be your own.
Everything in the world has its own attraction in the dark.
Just like the law of force and reaction, the kindness you give will also gather a magnetic field around you, attracting more love in life.
Kindness to others is blessed.
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