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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
After retirement, it means that most of life has passed, and in addition to enjoying the rest of your life, it is more important to prepare for your children in advance.
After all, what life really has to fight for is not money, but children, and only by letting children go further on the road in the future is real success.
What is the most important thing in a family? Not money, but hope, and much of that hope is pinned on children.
Although, when people are old, there is only a way back, but we must also do our last responsibility and let the hope of the family last, which is a person's true vision.
In reality, some elderly people always think wishfully that as long as they leave more money and wealth for their children, they are the best care for them. In fact, the idea is good, but the effect is not good.
Because, after many children get the gifts of their parents, they lose their motivation and become sitting on it, originally you had high hopes for your children, but in the end, you let the hope be dashed, and the gain was not worth the loss.
Therefore, the truly far-sighted old man will not blindly leave money and property for his children, but know how to leave these three things to his children: faith, values, and freedom, so that they have the ability to go through every stage of life.
First: Faith is the spiritual pillar that supports children's self-improvement
In a family, whether there is money or not, it is necessary to let the children have faith in their hearts, and only in this way can they cultivate their spirit of self-improvement.
No amount of material can be exchanged for a rich inner, only by enriching the mind and having the tenacity of the spiritual level can we walk calmly and calmly in the future wars and chaos.
Therefore, after retirement, the elderly are best not to leave too much money for their children, but to let them have faith, which is the key to determining their future.
As the old saying goes, "sit and eat the mountains and the sky", no matter how much wealth you leave to your children, it may not really help them, but more often, it will consume their self-motivation.
When you meet obedient and sensible children, you may not squander your wealth, once your children do not have a strong heart, they are easily affected by external factors, they may exhaust the wealth you leave behind, which is meaningless.
Therefore, the truly far-sighted old people will never leave too much money and wealth to their children, but teach them to work hard and use strong faith to fight their own lives.
When children have such support, even if you are gone, they can be fearless, and no matter how difficult the day is, they can face it calmly and push past it with force.
A person cannot choose his own birth, but he must be able to choose his own future, what kind of life his children want to live, they can completely choose for themselves.
The premise is that parents should give the right guidance, not let them squander their lives, but have faith, dare to go strong in the path they want.
As a retired husband, you may not have much time and energy to really help your children, but you can teach them to choose the future correctly.
So, you need to build faith in your children so that you can better prepare for the future.
Once this thing is truly rooted in the heart, it will grow into a towering tree, which will be used all his life, and is the spiritual pillar that supports the children's self-improvement, which is the best gift to the children.
Second: Values are the magic weapon to guide children to the right path
In the old age, the rest of life is already on the way home, in a limited time, how to let the children develop in the right direction, is the key to happiness.
Otherwise, even if you leave more wealth to your children, they will only covet pleasure, do not think of making progress, and even go astray, what is the meaning of life?
Truly far-sighted old people will certainly leave their children with correct values, so that they can have a correct view of the three aspects and not be humble or arrogant.
In this way, the children will naturally make greater achievements, and the hope of this family will continue forever.
Therefore, families with good family style, generally children are not bad, never go astray, they are upright, dare to fight, and eventually will usher in happiness.
Therefore, after retirement, whether there is money is secondary, the most important thing is to teach children the correct values, so that they can walk more openly on the road ahead.
The future development of children, ability is one aspect, and values are the key to determining the success or failure of the future.
Many times, parents are the beacons in the hearts of children, your light must shine on the right path, they can go to the right way, if the light is off, they will go astray.
When people are old and cannot accompany them to go further, then we must guide them in the right direction in a limited time, let them move forward firmly towards the brightest path.
Although money and status are important, they cannot become the real reliance of children, and if the road is wrong, no matter how glorious the blessing, it will eventually be destroyed.
Therefore, the old man with foresight will urge his children to be a person with the right values, whether he has money or not, to take the right path, which is the best advice for his children.
Three: Freedom, let the children lighten up and learn to choose
Nowadays, the pressure of life is getting bigger and bigger, and everyone is carrying more and more things, and it is inevitable that the soul will be bound.
Therefore, after retirement, you must teach your children to learn to let go, know how to make trade-offs, and let your heart be free.
Some things, should be put away, do not carry too much pressure, so as not to be physically and mentally exhausted, but it is difficult to live happily.
Whether you have money or not, you can't lose your spiritual freedom, even if you are tired and bitter, you must know how to rest and let yourself relax for a short time.
A string is too tight, it is likely to break, the same is true of the soul, if you are in a state of tension and fatigue for a long time, it is definitely not conducive to the development of your career.
Freedom is not to let children covet comfort, but to learn to live with trade-offs, to regulate themselves, and to have the ability to control life, which is the truth that the elderly should teach their children to understand.
Therefore, after retirement, parents should not put too much pressure on their children, you just need to teach them more principles of life and be their most powerful backing.
The best love for children is never money and wealth, but to make them understand the meaning of freedom, to give them full freedom and decency.
At this stage, the children may have become a family, and they are also working hard for their own small family, and there is no need to interfere too much as a parent.
In a limited time, you give them more decision-making power and more support in everything to make their hearts easier and not have to carry too many things.
Moreover, you have to tell them the ability to control life, know how to regulate their body and mind, and learn to make trade-offs in order to live better.
In their old age, instead of giving money to their children, it is better to guide them how to run themselves, run their families, and support their careers, but they can make their children useful for a lifetime.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
To sum up, in the old age, whether there is money is secondary, leaving these things to children is the vision.
Faith is the spiritual pillar that supports children's unremitting self-improvement; values are the magic weapon to guide children to the right path; freedom, so that children can pack lightly and learn to choose.
These three things, which truly teach children, are far more important than money and wealth, and this is also the best gift that parents can give to their children.
In this life, people will eventually grow old, and their children will eventually learn to face the future wars and chaos alone.
Therefore, it is advisable to leave their children with faith, values and freedom, so that they can have hope and always have firm faith. If you go on strongly, you will eventually reap the happiness you want.
This is the true vision of an old man.
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