The perpetrator always deceives the small with a big bully, insults or punches and kicks with words when he does not agree, and school violence will become a pain and shadow that children cannot erase in their lives, and some children may be autistic because of school violence, ruining their children's lives!
So, what should we do in the face of school bullying? Is it to swallow? Or tit-for-tat? None of them are right, the following Xiaorui will tell everyone how to correctly deal with "school bullying".
What is school bullying?
Campus bullying refers to the fact that inside and outside the school, one student always deliberately causes physical and psychological harm to the other party, and the injured party cannot avoid becoming the target of attack, and there has been bullying behavior between students on campus for a long time, including physical bullying, language bullying, and cyberbullying.
Parental mischief:
1, do not understand the child
Many parents listen to their children say that they are bullied by their classmates in school and do not think so, thinking that it is just a fight and play between classmates, there is no big deal, "bullying" and "fighting" is not a realm at all, bullying is long-term and gradual, and fighting is only a temporary conflict between the two parties.
If your child has been saying that he is unwell or that his classmates are always grabbing his things, isolating him, and scolding him, then parents should start to pay attention, this is not a simple conflict.
2. Let the child solve the problem on his own
In fact, school bullying is a very important thing, the perpetrator of bullying in school bullying, often not bullying you so simple, he will also let other classmates isolate you from playing with you, and match other classmates to insult you, this is a very serious thing, will make the child have psychological problems, for a long time the child's personality will become introverted, unwilling to communicate with others, including their parents.
Some parents will only let the child solve these problems on their own, and when the child asks the parents for help without results, the child's heart will be more hurt and fall into a more helpless and inferior situation.
3. Why are you the only one being bullied?
Some parents, when encountering school bullying incidents, parents will respond to their children: Why do others only bully you? Don't bully others? If you hadn't provoked them first, how could they have come to provoke you again? Parents only blame their own children.
When the child is bullied, he is wronged and uncomfortable, and the parents add another fire, and the child's self-esteem will be greatly affected, and may also hate his parents and leave a childhood shadow.
In the end, the child may also learn to fight violence with violence and for tat, and finally bully others with the abuser.
The right thing for parents to do is:
1. Learn to understand children
First of all, we must give the child enough love and security, so that the child understands that no matter what happens at any time, parents must first consider their children's feelings.
For children, parents are the only one to rely on, if they encounter school bullying, parents should understand and solve the problem with their children at the first time.
2. Exercise your child's courage
When the child is bullied, some parents will take the overall situation into account, each of them will take a step back, just simply let the abuser apologize to the victim or write a letter of guarantee, it will end the matter, but this is not right, this is just indulging the abuser, will make him worse.
This is not to say that a single apology can solve the problem, to recognize the seriousness of bullying in school, so parents should not easily end it hastily, must deal with it in person and warn the abuser.
But the purpose of the warning is not to scare the abuser, but to take certain actions, the biggest reason why your child is bullied is to behave too weakly, giving people a feeling of being easy to bully, as a parent to encourage the child, exercise the child's courage and self-confidence, so that your child will not become a weak person.
3. Do a good job of supporting children
School bullying is not a trivial matter, after the occurrence of things, parents should do a good job of psychological counseling for their children, and pay more attention to the psychological and emotional changes of their children in normal times.
In the face of school bullying incidents, parents should adjust their mentality, do not blame their children, communicate with their children in a timely manner, and give correct guidance, and then deal with school violence with their children and become a strong psychological pillar for children.
For children, the biggest source of courage and self-confidence is their parents, so as a parent, you must guide your children correctly and do not let your children leave a shadow of childhood!