Text/Good Pregnant Sister
Last Saturday, I made an appointment with a friend to walk my baby in a park near the community. After settling the two little ones, we sat down in the chairs next to us and began to have a pair of nagging.
Suddenly, she complained with great emotion, "People say that the girl is her mother's little cotton jacket, intimate and warm." But it was definitely leaky in my house, and only warmed her father.
Obviously, I brought up with hard work, but the result was to stick to her father all day, which was simply a small follower. Every time her father went to work or went out to run errands, it was like life and death.
My daughter cried and had to go, and her father hugged and coaxed her for half a day. It was hard to nod and obediently wait at home, but just got on the car, my girlfriend cried and chased out, her father had to get out of the car for half a day, I was tired and panicked for her father.
Usually, every time it was time to leave work, she would carry a small bench and sit in the doorway waiting for her father. Occasionally my husband would work overtime, and my daughter would urge her to call her father. ”
I said in passing, "Your husband must have spoiled her very much, and the little guy thinks that his father is her umbrella." ”
The friend nodded and sighed, "My husband is a proper daughter slave." Girlfriend is sometimes very naughty, when I was so angry that I wanted to get angry, the goods immediately destroyed me with their eyes, and then quickly comforted my girlfriend;
My girlfriend often took advantage of his game to run over and make trouble. He obviously broke down, but when he turned his head to see that it was his girlfriend, he immediately suppressed a smile..."
To be honest, this confusion of friends has also been mentioned by my mother before.
So the question is, why is it that the mother works hard to bring up the child, but the father is more clingy? Shouldn't it be that the longer the child is with the child, the closer the child is?
Through observation and analysis, it is not difficult to find that there are mainly several reasons:
When dads bring their babies, they are often more casual
In many families, mothers are the main force in raising children. In the process of taking the baby, they will be more cautious and often make various rules and plans.
Once the child doesn't follow the rules, or learns and does things as planned. Mom will not easily let the baby fool through.
And the father with the baby is more casual, rarely like the mothers anxious to go to the chicken baby. They would let their children play in the water at home, climb dirt slopes or catch bugs in the countryside.
Even if they get water everywhere and get dirty, they will feel that this is the nature of children. As long as it is within a safe range, you should not restrict your child too much.
Dad often plays the role of singing red faces in the family
Unlike the strict fathers and mothers in the past, in recent years, the family parenting style of tiger mothers and cat fathers has become more common.
In the family, mothers are often strict with their children and play the role of singing white faces.
If the child is disobedient or naughty, the mother will sometimes overreact, constantly nagging, and even criticize the child for nothing.
As a result, although the child still loves his mother in his heart, he will take a fierce confrontational approach, or selectively lose his hearing and pretend not to care for his mother.
Dad, on the other hand, basically plays the role of singing red faces. When children are criticized, they often go to the round field to take care of the child's emotions in a timely manner and make the child feel extremely warm.
In addition, the vast majority of dads will be more generous and bottomlessly spoil their babies. Every time I take my baby to the supermarket, as long as the child wants it, they don't even look at the price, they buy and buy.
Alas, the little children are monkey spirits, and they would certainly prefer to be closer to the person who is good at talking.
Finally, I would like to say that in the process of raising children, the mother "takes" a step back and makes herself calm and loving; the father "goes" a step forward to give the child high-quality companionship and a good example. Children's growth will be healthier and sunnier.
【Transferred from: Sohu Original - Good Pregnancy 】