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It has been said that the family is the source of all blessings.
The family is like a huge vessel, and the amount of blessing it can hold is completely determined by the volume of the vessel. At the same time, the blessing of the family also determines how much room for future generations can develop.
Individual effort is not a requirement for success. The well-being of the family and the great blessings can help others, and can even form a springboard for people to leap forward.
Families with great blessings will not be far off for future generations. Even if the family declines, there will be a comeback day. However, it is not good for a family without great blessings to believe in the results of future generations. Perhaps as soon as the elders leave, the whole family will "fall down and scatter".
There is a saying in the New Book of Tang: "If you think of its danger, you will be safe; if you think of its chaos, you will be cured; if you think of its death, you will survive." ”
For the family, if its members do not have the spirit of being prepared for danger, it is easy to get carried away, and it will only cause great chaos in the family at the moment when the risk comes.
As a member of the family, we must not have the psychology of luck, but we must "tremble and tremble" and prepare for the worst.
The appearance of these signals is the source of disaster for the family, and we must be prepared.
02
The family's hearts are scattered, which is the source of the disaster.
Lu Mengzheng said: "Father and son are harmonious, and the family is good." Husband and wife, and righteousness are not divided. ”
If the relationship between father and son is more harmonious, then the family will settle down; if the relationship between husband and wife is particularly good, then the family will not have the risk of dispersion. Harmonious family relations are the key to the stability of the family foundation.
However, if you want to have a harmonious relationship, it is still too difficult after all. Because of the "human heart" thing, the variables are too big. In good times, people's hearts are united. And when things are bad, people's hearts are scattered. It will eventually lead to big problems.
We might as well think about the question, in the face of a huge fortress, if we want to break through it, then what should we do?
The people of this fortress are united and are basically not provoked by outsiders, and the external enemy cannot break through this fortress no matter how much it attacks. This is the enthusiasm of people's hearts.
Of course, once the people of this fortress are not united and do not have a heart at all, there will be people who are "infighting and trouble". In the end, without the enemy to attack, the fortress will be "self-defeating". This is the harm of the dispersion of people's hearts.
Therefore, the dispersion of family hearts is ultimately the source of disaster.
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The internal friction of the family is the source of the disaster.
On the Internet, there are two hot words - inner volume and internal friction.
Inner volume, generally for outsiders. Internal friction is generally for individuals or those around them. Compared with the inner volume, in fact, the internal friction is particularly terrible.
A person, his mentality has a problem, all day long entangled, with negative emotions, then he is in the "internal friction", the more he lives, the more painful.
In the same way, the family is also like "people", what problems have occurred within the body, and the contradictions are prominent, the disputes are continuous, and it is believed that the family will also be consumed by "internal friction" and become more and more declining.
Just like a couple, the wife always feels that the husband does not make enough money, so she sneers at the husband. And the husband feels that the wife is not virtuous enough, always extravagant, and often accuses the wife. At this time, family conflicts appear.
And other contradictions, what mother-in-law contradictions, father-son contradictions, mother-daughter contradictions are also similar, are the source of misfortune for the family. If it can't be avoided, the whole family will suffer.
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The family atmosphere is not good, which is the source of the disaster.
The ethos of the family is the soul of a family. Most families with a strong atmosphere can carry many blessings. And the family with the general atmosphere has done nothing, and even terrible.
There are some upstarts who have made a lot of money through the industry's outlet and become rich overnight. Do you think these so-called upstarts can really keep the money and blessings of the moment?
Unfortunately, 99.9% of the upstarts in this world cannot keep the blessings of the moment, but only let it pass gradually. In a few years, the family will still return to the past, or even poorer.
Why is this happening? Because the family's foundation is not enough, parents and children make a little money is particularly arrogant, there is no clear cognition, do not know how to be diligent and thrifty, open source and throttling, then they are not in the "luxury" of decline?
Even upstarts will die because of the bad family atmosphere, let alone ordinary people who have no money?
The blessing of the family begins with the cultivation of a good atmosphere.
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The family's education is not good, which is the source of the disaster.
We need to think about the question, what is the difference between family education and school education?
The education of the family is the key to teaching the children and future generations how to behave. School education, on the other hand, only teaches students how to take the exam and how to get a degree. The former has a soul, while the latter is a machine-based process.
Comparing the two of being a person and an exam, there is no doubt that it is more important to "be a person" after all.
Only by knowing how to be a person can we know how to do things. What's more, talent and no morality are dangerous goods of society. Talented and virtuous, it is the pillar of the family and society.
Who has not received a good family education among the famous magis since ancient times?
If family education is good, children and grandchildren will have a correct concept of life. On the contrary, family education is general, so that children and descendants are contaminated with bad three views, that is the tragedy that affects three generations.
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