Accustomed to looking for yourself in the eyes of others, the result is dazed, magnifying yourself from the praise of others, the result is fluttering, distorting yourself in the discussion of others, and the result is faint.
At present, many people believe in "planting more flowers and less thorns", and dare not or are unwilling to pick faults for others, so it is often futile to expect outsiders to "see a doctor" for themselves.
To discover your own problems, you also need to look inward and learn to "see a doctor" for yourself.
First, people should be good at finding their own "problems"
Gold has no feet, no one is perfect. Everyone has their own flaws and faults, and the important thing is not this, but your attitude towards them. Whether it is often introspective and good at discovering and correcting, or choosing to turn a blind eye and put all the responsibility on others.
Someone said: "Knowing one's own ignorance, judging one's own ignorance, condemning one's own ignorance, is not complete ignorance; total ignorance is ignorance that is not knowing one's ignorance." In the same way, a person's greatest sorrow is not that he has a problem, but that he does not know that there is something wrong with him.
Only when a person is good at self-examination, discovering faults in time, and working hard to change, can life be stable and far-reaching.
Second, learn to see your emotional illness
In the adult world, whatever emotion is fatal. If a person can't see his emotional illness and can't consciously control his emotions, he will only let himself plant his head, touch the mold, and suffer. People who cannot recognize and control emotions are "emotionally incompetent".
Emotions are not the whole of our lives, but they can affect our life direction, quality of life and happiness index. What is most important in a lifetime? There is nothing but career, family, health, and bad emotions can easily destroy these important things and destroy the whole life. As the saying goes, "If you control your emotions, you control your behavior; if you control your behavior, you control your life." Stable emotions are not only the standard for an adult, but also the pattern of great things.
Third, being able to see the "disease" in one's own body is a kind of cultivation
"A person needs a window to see the outside world, a mirror to see his own heart. The window sees the brightness outside, and the mirror sees its own inadequacy. ”
With the mirror of "self-examination", a person can improve his realm, achieve a clear mind, and continue to achieve a better self.
Knowing how to find the reason from oneself is not only a kind of wisdom for people to deal with the world, but also a top cultivation. "If you have shortcomings, others will laugh at you, instead of worrying all day long to prevent others from laughing at you, it is better to work hard to improve yourself." 」 Truly cultivated people never blame others. They do not complain about the sky, they do not distinguish themselves, they bow down to introspect, and constantly correct themselves.
Why do others have a good life and look down on me? I was already fine, so why am I sick? The conditions are similar, why can others be promoted, I stand still? These people look outward, only complain, blame, and resentment in their hearts, and they certainly cannot experience success and happiness. Why is this happening, and what's the problem? Is it a subjective cause, or an objective reason? If it is a subjective reason, is it that their IQ is not good, or that their emotional intelligence and reverse quotient are not good... These people have their eyes turned inward, more than reflection, analysis, adjustment, improvement, they will try to overcome difficulties, get out of the haze, and finally embrace happiness and happiness. Being able to see the "faults" in yourself is the beginning of going to excellence.
Fourth, the best "doctor" of a person is always himself
One's own suffering is nothing more than a senseless attachment of oneself, and one's only way to demand liberation is ultimately one's own. It is better to rely on heaven and earth than on yourself. There is a saying that a doctor may be able to help us cure diseases, but it cannot help us strengthen our physique; doctors can guide us out of the shadows, but they cannot keep us away from pain. Whether physical or psychological, the best doctor will always be yourself, and the person who really understands you will always be yourself.
Only those who learn to "see a doctor" for themselves will not be vain and beautiful, not hidden evil, and have a sober and accurate understanding of themselves. The growth of life is a process of constantly "seeing a doctor" for yourself, and no one has replaced it.
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