Some good news about love always comes very suddenly, and Heaven will always create all kinds of surprises for us. The news came unexpectedly, but for you, life will also usher in a huge change.
For a couple, the most anticipated thing may be the arrival of a new life. He will be the crystallization of your love, the testimony of the next few decades, and the person who loves him to conceive a child together, watch him grow up, and then watch him leave, and form a new family, not only the inheritance of life, but also has a different meaning for you.
But putting this in the context of real society will also give rise to many other problems. Xiaobian has many friends around him, because he is busy with work or economic problems, and he does not consider having children for the time being.
They all agree that since they plan to have children, they must be sure that they can give their children a stable and beautiful life, and if they let the children be born and suffer with themselves, or even if they do not have enough to eat and wear, it is better not to give birth.
Today, when the three-child policy is open, there are also many elderly mothers who risk their lives and must give birth to a child to meet their wishes. It sounds very warm and great, but think about it from the other side, have you ever stood in the shoes of children and considered them?
I remember when I was in elementary school, there was a male classmate in the class, and our parents were in their early 30s, but his parents were already 50 years old. Some naughty classmates in the class would make fun of him, saying that he had no parents and only grandparents. Every time the teacher gave notice to a parent-teacher meeting, he always dodged and acted very resistant.
"If I am pregnant with your mother at the same time, is that not the same as giving birth to a second child?"
Xiaowei has also recently encountered this problem, she and her husband have just been married for more than three months, and they are still in the happiness and sweetness of the new marriage, and soon there is good news that Xiaowei is pregnant.
When she got the test results, she was naturally overjoyed, and before she left the hospital, she called and shared the news with her husband, who thought that her husband would be as happy as she was, after all, the couple liked the children very much. After hearing about it, her husband was silent for a while, and then told her: "Honey, I tell you something, don't be surprised, don't be angry." ”
Xiao Wei said, what is the matter, I am still afraid that I will be angry, you say.
My husband said that my mother called me two days ago and said that she was also pregnant.
Xiao Wei listened, the mobile phone almost fell to the ground, she narrowed her eyes and said, "What are you talking about?" Not kidding, right? You repeat. ”
After listening to her husband's affirmation, Xiao Wei was silent and did not know what to say. Her husband told her that her mother had actually conceived once shortly after giving birth to him that year, but accidentally miscarried when she was more than three months old. Since then, my mother has had a knot in her heart and has always wanted to have another child to make up for the pain of losing her child.
Listening to her husband say this, Xiao Wei said: "But even if there are regrets, the mother-in-law is very old." She is in her 50s this year, and if she has children, can her body bear it? You talk to her and let her beat it off. ”
My husband said that I had persuaded her, but my mother did not listen to me at all, and my father was very happy, saying that this child was given to them by God and must stay. Born, what can I do?
Hearing her husband say this irresponsibly, XiaoWei suddenly got a little out of control, and she shouted at him: "What can you do?" Don't you care about anything and watch your mom get pregnant with me? It's ridiculous. Tell you, I disagree, a hundred disagree, ten thousand disagree. ”
Being so fierce by Xiao Wei, the husband is also a little unhappy, he said not to get pregnant, that is their child, and we don't need to manage, are you so hot?
2. "Either your mother beats the fetus, or we divorce"
Xiao Wei sneered and asked him, "Do you think it is possible?" Don't be so naïve. Think about your mother is in her 50s this year, not to mention whether her body can withstand such a big consumption of having a child. Do you think she really has so much energy to take care of a newborn after childbirth? There is a great possibility that the responsibility of taking care of the children will fall on my head, and it just so happens that I also have my own children to take care of at that time.
"This is only now, after this, how much energy and how much money it takes to raise a child, do you understand?" Your parents have no savings, no pension, in the future their pension will be borne by us, and now add a child, this child grows up, all the costs are likely to be responsible for us. Your parents didn't so much give birth to a child for themselves as they did a second child. ”
Hearing this, the husband interrupted her with some annoyance and anger, can you talk not so ugly, what is our second child? My parents and I promised that they would be responsible for this child and would not need us to raise it.
Xiao Wei sneered and said: Everything will say, if one day in the future, they really seek our help, can we really see this child die and not save it? If it is a boy, when he gets married in the future, your parents will be a problem in the absence of people, and after a hundred years of old age, are we not his parents?
Not only in terms of money, but I am also afraid of being fearful. If you think about it, if the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are pregnant together, how much cynicism awaits us behind it. I'm still young in my 20s and don't want to be a mom to two children, not to mention that the child has nothing to do with me.
Finally, Xiao Wei gave him an ultimatum: "I have made it very clear that I have made this matter clear, and my opinion is that I do not agree and resolutely disagree." Either your mother beats up the child, and if she insists on keeping the child, then I will beat up our child, and then we will divorce. You go to find a wife who can accept that the 50-year-old mother-in-law is pregnant with the second child, and you can also accept that the wife who can be raised as your own child after the birth of the second child, anyway, the woman will not be me. ”
Third, at what age, do what should be done at this age
The mood of the little micro mother-in-law can actually be understood, she was pregnant with the second child when she was young, but she could not keep it because of the accident, and since then this matter has been hanging in her heart and has become a regret.
At today's age, but unexpectedly pregnant again, I believe that the mother-in-law's mood is also very excited, thinking that this child is the heavens' compensation for her, so it must stay.
But we should take into account the reality around her, like she is now more than 50 years old, and all aspects of her body have begun to decline. Childbirth is extremely harmful to a woman, and at such an age, pregnancy and childbirth are very dangerous for both children and adults.
The son had already started a family, and the daughter-in-law was already pregnant, and it was supposed to be a peaceful and happy time to be a grandmother. There is really no need to suffer the pain of pregnancy and childbirth again.
Most importantly, after a child is born, it is the bigger problem to raise him. Whether the elderly in their 50s can see their children on the day of their marriage is a problem, not to mention all the money and energy spent on the road of children's growth.
Raising a child is not only to give birth to him and let him come into this world, the most important thing is that we must also pave the way for his growth, guide him to a brighter direction in life, and strive to give him a good life and let him grow up healthy and happy.
At what age, do what you should do at that age, so that life will be more smooth. If you have to insist on moving forward and doing things that you shouldn't do at this age, it means that there will be more wind and rain ahead, and how to deal with it then depends on yourself.