Some children who like to go to extremes are often caused by not being able to bear their own failures, or have not experienced the setbacks of failure. Such a child may look very well-behaved, have very strong self-esteem, and when other people's children combine work and leisure or simply play, he may have been studying seriously and always setting a very high goal for himself to work hard. But because they have strong self-esteem, basically successful experiences, and rarely experience the setbacks of failure, so they suddenly fail once, may be greater than others to receive failure setbacks, psychological pressure is also greater, and it is easy to hit self-confidence.
If the child attaches too much importance to winning and losing, as a parent, you must carefully consider the problem of educational methods. Is it not unconscious to always emphasize the spirit of children to win the first and never lag behind. Children should read more celebrity biographies, inspirational works, etc. Let the child understand the protagonist's life experience, because the life without the celebrity is smooth. This is also a good way to teach children to overcome failure and overcome self-esteem.
Failure cannot be seen simply. Failure gives us a very rare opportunity to educate our children. Children who have not failed simply cannot understand the frustration and despair of the loser, and instead of sympathizing with the loser, they will fall into the well, ignore and criticize the loser, and do not know how to tolerate and understand.
There is no one in the world who has not experienced failure or mistakes, a person will always encounter failure, and children who have not experienced failure will have a great sense of frustration because of a failure, lose the courage to start again, and finally can only choose an extreme way of coping. Only those who have experienced many small failures can withstand the greater test and learn not to give up lightly.
It is also a good way to often give children some difficult problems, set some difficulties, let children experience, go on a rampage, let children contact failure in experience, and cultivate their psychological endurance.
Success in this world is not set to death, and your child can become a different type of successful person. Don't count down your child because of your child's failures, don't show despair, and let your child have the courage to start over. Even if the child cannot achieve your so-called success, you also need to understand and comfort the child, there will always be a chance of success in the effort, and the inability is that this success does not exist. Such a child can only grow up in a mixture of failure and success, and eventually grow into a towering tree.