Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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The more realistic the present, the more likely people are to have negative anxiety, irritability and other emotions. And these emotions, once exposed, are the most unpleasant states.
Anyone wants to get a message from the outside world that makes them happy. But too many people are doing things to embarrass themselves when they bring joy to others.
We have to admit that many times, some unpleasant emotions are the normal reactions of everyone!
In real life, the more people who use "managing emotions" to teach others, the more they are a selfish person who does not know how to think differently.
There is a saying that "without the suffering of others, do not persuade others to be good", this is the truth!
They are ordinary people, because some factors lead to emotional instability, and it is not a very "unbearable" thing.
If, someone indiscriminately advises you to be generous, open, don't worry, be kind... You must stay away from such people!
It is true that there is no empathy in the world, but not preaching to others as a "teacher" is a person's minimum quality.
You know, as long as it is not against conscience and morality, as long as it is not malicious harm to others, then all the emotions that are managed are never simple emotions, but unwilling under grievances!
In real life, you will find that the more emotionally stable the "honest person", the easier it is to be "bullied". Why? Because, honest people are "morally kidnapped" by themselves.
Many people, afraid of losing their own prestige and face, deliberately pretend to be patterned, personable, and cultivated, and get the evaluation of others, but they consume themselves for no reason.
When your ideological realm or your life status reaches a certain height, you will naturally have no waves about some people or things that are lower than yourself.
However, in the reality of the present, too many people blindly believe in "managing emotions", thus overloading themselves.
The 4 words of "managing emotions" are the most poisonous chicken soup for too many people! Don't believe it blindly, that's right!
Emotional self-control, are smart people? Stop it! If your emotional self-control needs to be done with your own extremely sad suppression, then your "emotional self-control" is just self-consumption!
Truly intelligent people, with self-control over their emotions, are never deliberate because they pay attention to other people's opinions. It is because, when facing your own life, you know better what the focus of your life is.
What is worthwhile, there must be emotions. What is not worth it, it does not matter.
So, how should people distinguish between the worthiness of emotional bursts, so as to be a truly intelligent person? Here are a few ways to benefit:
First: recognize yourself and identify the source of emotions
Many times, people's so-called "emotional incontinence" moments are derived from previous experiences, laying hidden and conditioned "sequelae" for the present.
In any case, you must believe that no one is born a master of emotional management. However, the outstanding features of smart people are:
Good at accumulating lessons and summarizing experience. From past experiences, weigh what is good for running your own life.
When facing reality, the more people who know how to manage their own lives, the more they are a person with "clear goals and a strong sense of purpose". Therefore, these talents can become the masters of emotions because the goals and purposes are deeply planted in the heart and mind.
Some people will only complain and accuse in front of experiences and encounters, and will not summarize their "deficiencies".
Therefore, in the face of emotions, we have repeatedly lost battles. A few times I "managed" my emotions, but I made myself miserable.
There are two types of emotions that can be managed:
In the face of pros and cons, weigh the negative effects of emotions.
Trivial things and people who are inferior to themselves, there is no need to burst out of emotion.
Uncontrollable emotions are also divided into two types:
When faced with "inching forward", there is no need to do emotional control.
All along, I have not recognized myself and identified the source of emotions.
As a person, the most feared thing is not to be recognized by the outside world, but to influence the present with the misfortunes of the past!
Second: Don't expect too much from others
In the hearts of truly cultivated people, most of them will usher in their light and breezy attitude towards life because they have very few expectations of others.
Where does man's cultivation come from? Two words: experience!
Experiences may be seen and heard, but more than that, they are felt by oneself!
Everyone has seven passions and six desires. If you don't really extract the essence of the "ordinary mind" from experience, cultivation will never be achieved!
It is always difficult for people to live! However, most people's difficulties stem from expecting too much from the outside world and responding too little to themselves.
The unwilling imbalance is an important factor in the outbreak of negative emotions in people.
If you are down-to-earth in your opinion about who should do what you should do, but the other party does not meet your expectations, you will be disappointed and disappointed.
If, if you are sure that some effort will be rewarded, but you fail to do so, you will collapse in an instant.
Why? There is only one answer: expect too much from people or things other than yourself!
People who expect too much from the outside world will forget to use their internal strength to care for themselves, redeem themselves, achieve themselves, and complete themselves.
Why are we so addicted to the words "strong self"? It is because people who really know how to strengthen themselves will hardly put more expectations on people or things in the outside world.
When you expect less from the outside world, you are bound to be less disappointed, less disappointed, and all your negative emotions will be replaced by self-sufficient joy!
Life is a practice! Going all out, doing what you can, and having fewer expectations are the three "weapons" that are indispensable for people's cultivation.
Negative emotions are not pleasing, but not necessarily all the ways in which emotions are forcibly managed are right!
If your emotional burst can bring you a real perceived "benefit", then the burst is not inevitable! As for the evaluation and vision of others, it is not important at all compared to the "benefits" you feel.
Survive in the world and can have emotional outbursts if necessary. But I want to remind you:
If you are not sure what kind of negative impact your emotions will bring to yourself after the outbreak, you can definitely use a sudden laugh to change emotions!
In the process, you will give your brain a space to think in a short emotional buffer.
Using actual behavior to temporarily alleviate the outbreak of emotions is an essential survival ability for a person.
Did you find that? The reason why a really powerful person can make people feel that they can "manage emotions" is because they have found the direction and method for improving themselves.
A person who is intoxicated by his own growth and achievements has no time to have expectations in objective people or things.
When you recognize yourself, recognize your emotional source, and know how to improve yourself, this person must be a self-illuminating sun. As for the negative emotions, they gradually subside.
There are never people who are born perfect, and there are no people who are born to be liked and bring positive infections to others!
In this realistic human world, there are only people who are familiar with their own strengths and weaknesses, understand the source of their own willingness, effectively improve themselves, digest negative emotions, and constantly shine on themselves!
Beautiful people will not deliberately suppress their emotions, nor will they deliberately let their emotions go unchecked, but will only use the right way to obtain self-contentment, so as to:
It is a positive infection for others, and a solid and fulfilling satisfaction for oneself. There is nothing better than this!
So, are you a person who is good at improving yourself, ignoring objective people or things and focusing on personal growth and achievement, thus dissolving negative emotions?
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