Not long ago, a video of a "6-year-old boy drilling the bottom of a girl's skirt" on the Internet caused controversy among many netizens, and what caused netizens to talk about was not only the boy's "drilling the bottom of the girl's skirt", but also the attitude of the boy's parents after the incident.
From the video shared online, we can see that the incident should have happened when the nucleic acid test was queued. In this long line, a little boy's demeanor is particularly conspicuous, only to see that this little boy in line with the crowd, from time to time with his hands to grasp the front of the girl's skirt to play, the girl in the front row obviously found this, but because the boy is still young, the girl does not think much.
But who knew that this little boy saw that the little sister was not angry, but he intensified, squatted down and drilled his head into the bottom of the skirt of the girl in front. This frightened the lady in front of her, who hurriedly covered the bottom of her skirt in a panic and tried to push the little boy out of her skirt.
When the surrounding masses saw the situation, they also called on the parents of their children to take good care of their children, how can they let children do such a thing?
But what people did not expect was that the child's mother not only had no intention of repentance, but also did not say anything surprisingly deadly, and seemed to be very aggrieved to cry out for the child: "He is still a child, what do you want me to do?" He's just a 6-year-old, can't you forgive him? What do children know? ”
In the end, seeing that the girl did not want to pursue it, the parents of the little boy did not let the child apologize in the end.
Perhaps for a 6-year-old, he may not really understand whether such behavior is good or bad and what it means. But parents can't always say they don't understand, right? Since you know that your child is wrong, there is not only no punishment, no education, not even a basic apology. Some just keep protecting the short, constantly saying things in terms of the child's young age and ignorance, and even accusing others of being more truthful in turn, so that "connivance" is taken as "pampering" and "protection" as "protection", is it really good?
I believe that many children have done some "bad things" more or less when they are young, which is actually a good time and a good time for parents to educate their children to learn to distinguish between right and wrong, but there are always some parents who spoil their children excessively, and even spoil them to the point of distinguishing between right and wrong.
The child's behavior is precisely a reflection of the daily behavior of parents, and we can actually see how the quality of the parents is from the child's behavior and education. Although we can say that children are still young and do wrong things and do not understand things, as parents of children, educating children is our responsibility, can we also be as ignorant as children?
As a parent, when you encounter a child who makes a "bear" and does something wrong, what should be the correct way to cope?
1. Lead by example
As the closest person to the child, the influence of parents on the child is also unquestionable.
However, many parents say that when educating their children, they are the first to say the Tao, and it is another set of standards on themselves, which will undoubtedly make children wonder, what is right in the end? Even when the child questions, he or she is accused by his parents of "loving to resist" and "disobedient".
Under such a double standard, it is not only unfair to the child, but also easy for the child to feel that "since you can't do it, why should I listen to you?" ”
Therefore, before educating their children, parents should first set an example for their children in some things that they can do, lead by example, and subtly influence their children.
2. Find out the mistakes and guide them in time
We all know that people will inevitably make mistakes, blindly scolding can not solve the problem, the key is to find out the problem that leads to the mistake with the child, and guide the child to solve the problem smoothly in time.
The most taboo thing in this process is that parents have been clinging to their children's mistakes, blindly criticizing children is not only easy to deepen the psychological pressure of children, but also may lead to children being more prone to rebellion, thus deliberately making mistakes.
3, no one is perfect, know the mistake and change
The purpose of education is not to punish the child, if the child has recognized the mistake and actively corrected it, then as a parent, naturally should also forgive the child in a timely manner, as long as the child can learn the lesson and grow up in the mistake.
4. Pay for your mistakes
In order to prevent children from remembering and repeating mistakes in one thing, parents should take the right approach to make children realize the mistakes they have made and take responsibility for the mistakes they have made. Among them, it is also a good choice for children to pay some "price" such as pocket money.
For example, if the child damages other people's belongings, parents can let the child use his pocket money to bear part of the compensation, let the child learn to take responsibility, and then have some awe in his heart, and then when he encounters similar things, he can be more cautious and not repeat mistakes.
5. Cultivate empathy and learn to think differently
Children are naturally playful, and many times they make mistakes because they are fun, and they don't know what kind of consequences these seemingly fun things will bring to others.
This requires parents to pay more attention to cultivating their children's empathy and guiding their children to learn to think differently from each other's point of view. You can also do game simulations to let your child know what it feels like to be bullied by others or your beloved toy is snatched.
If the child has this kind of empathy and knows how to think differently, he will naturally slowly reduce the chance of making mistakes.