Text/Moran
In this world, many things can be rewarded by your hard work, but the matter of feelings requires the efforts and efforts of both parties.
One person cannot support the feelings of two people, and love needs to go in both directions in order to go on.
Such a beautiful feeling, in fact, is not that there is no quarrel and contradiction between each other, but they know how to cherish it more than others.
If you want to manage a relationship well, you need to spend more thought and energy, not only love is enough, but also understand the psychology of the other party.
Good feelings, everyone wants to have, but not everyone will have. Therefore, if you understand these three points, you will have better feelings for each other and live happier.
Know how to give in
For feelings, there is no real perfect love, there are two people who are inclusive of both parties.
Even if the best feelings are, there will be contradictions and quarrels, but some people will make concessions and know how to tolerate, so that they can't argue with each other.
If both sides are calculating and insisting on themselves, naturally there is no way to go on.
After all, real life will not be as beautiful as the ideal, more is the triviality of life, at this time it is more necessary for both sides to make concessions.
You know, even if you win in a relationship, but if you lose each other, you will not be worth the loss.
In feelings, face is not so important, and it is not shameful to compromise and make concessions for the people you love.
The terrible thing is that you have been living in your own world and don't know how to consider each other's feelings. Good feelings are the ones that require you to go in and out, and to fit each other in order to maintain harmony.
Know how to cherish
No matter how good the feelings, if you don't know how to cherish them, you can't go on.
Some people, accustomed to getting it, forget to give, and even feel that the efforts of others are taken for granted, so that two people cannot go on.
Only when both parties cherish and maintain with their hearts, will the feelings get better and better.
If a person fights for the other party's goodness to himself, acts for wrongdoing, and consumes the other party's good, then even the best feelings will be consumed.
A person who has paid for a long time will also be tired, love needs to respond to each other, cherish each other, and get the response to love in order to persist.
A person who gets it doesn't care, doesn't put you in his heart, and snubs you, so that the feelings will slowly fade.
Any good relationship takes time and energy to maintain, there is no constant love, and some are two people who cherish each other.
Know how to pretend to be stupid
I once heard such a sentence, open your eyes before marriage, turn a blind eye after marriage, good feelings, in fact, you have to learn to pretend to be stupid. After all, there are no perfect people in this world.
Since people may have bad places, if you can not worry, try not to calculate.
No matter how good the feelings, you also need a little space of your own, you manage everything too much, it will put pressure on the other party.
Smart people will not take care of everything, ask everything, and will not worry about everything, in fact, as long as a person's heart is in you, those small problems are nothing worth preaching.
Feelings are such a thing that you care too much about, and you will only let yourself fall into anxiety.
If you want to go on for a long time, some things are broken and not broken, give the other party enough face, then the other party will also be aware of their behavior.
Therefore, feelings need the understanding and trust of both parties, when it is time to pretend to be stupid, we must learn to pretend to be stupid, too smart will only make themselves sad.
summary:
Good feelings need to be maintained by both parties. Feelings have never been a one-man show, which requires both parties to pay, need to cherish each other, understand each other, and give in to each other.
Therefore, good feelings are more about supporting each other, making progress together, and achieving each other.