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Some people say: Men, you should be generous.
It is also said: generous, scorers.
Actually, it all makes sense. In love, especially when it comes to blind dates, things that involve blind date consumption may require specific analysis of specific problems.
Most people's view is that men should be generous in order to reflect the pattern of men.
But this view is only this time and another time. Many times, it is not possible to generalize.
I believe that many men who have gone on blind dates have a deep understanding of this. I have my own principles.
Whatever the point of view, everything needs to respect the most basic objective reality. If it is divorced from reality, there is no way to talk about it.
Ask everyone a question: If the blind date does not look at each other, how should the blind date consumption be apportioned?
I believe that many people have their own opinions. Before answering this question, take a look at the experience of the man below. Maybe it will inspire you.
Hello Teacher:
I want to complain to you about an unhappy thing.
That's what happened last month. That's roughly how things go.
I went on a blind date, and the woman was from the same city as us, and it was arranged by her parents. In fact, in the strict sense, it is not arranged by parents. They are only a face-saving obstacle, and it is not easy to refuse.
The blind date was actually arranged by a colleague of mine who my father had worked with in the early years. In fact, the relationship between them is not very good. Only occasionally met, two people chatting and chatting, and talked about this topic.
Therefore, the other party told my father to introduce me to an object.
So, there was this blind date.
The general situation of the woman is: working in a company, working as a personnel commissioner, with a general income, a general family situation, and a general appearance. He is 28 years old.
My general situation is: I started a small company with a friend and earned more than 150,000 yuan a year. I am 29 years old and have been in my last relationship for 3 years.
In fact, I don't care much about the woman's specific income. As long as I can see it and the other party can see me, I can try to communicate.
In the past few years, I have started my own business, so my time and energy are limited.
Now my parents feel that I should also think about my own personal feelings.
In fact, I have participated in several blind dates before, and they have not been very smooth. This time, I went on a blind date, and I also went with the attitude of trying it out.
We met at a Chinese restaurant. It didn't take long for me to talk about her, and I didn't feel very good about her. How to say it? I felt that her requirements were too high and unrealistic.
She herself was average, but it turned out that I was in such a bad situation. I think she's more materialistic.
Later, out of courtesy, I didn't say much. In the end, the blind date consumption was almost 300.
I chose AA. As a result, the woman was very unhappy. She said: Turns out, that's why you can't find a girlfriend.
I replied: I didn't look at you, why do I have to give it all?
After that, she said something ugly. I didn't argue with her or talk anymore. Gave the money and left.
When I got home, I was still struggling with this matter. Could it be that I'm too small? Am I doing it wrong?
In fact, the reason why I did this at that time was not that I was unwilling to give. It was when chatting, feeling her substance everywhere. So, I was very uncomfortable.
Such a girl, even if the consumption is small, I have to do this.
I don't think it's my problem. It's that the other party takes it too seriously. I can't get used to her.
In fact, before I participated in the blind date, the consumption was paid by me. Although it did not succeed, at least the woman gave the impression that it was good.
Although I did this, I did feel a little uncomfortable in my heart.
The above is my blind date experience, is it really inappropriate for me to do this?
Emotional analysis:
For the apportionment of blind date consumption, there is actually no specific requirement. Judging from your description, it is not a matter of your pattern that you do. It's just that you think the woman is too materialistic, and you don't look at the woman.
So, you think AA is more appropriate.
From your point of view, nothing is a problem. Some girls are like this, their own conditions are average, but also require men to be completely obedient to themselves, requiring men to have very good conditions.
On the other hand, think about it, a man with really good conditions will not look at such a woman.
Women who are too material are really not worth your efforts. And since you've chosen to do that, don't dwell on it.
Naturally, the woman will blame you. But that was her business.
In fact, privately think that no matter under what circumstances, blind date consumption, if there are too many, it is best to AA. If not much, men can be generous. But it also depends on the specific situation.
In a word: no matter how you choose, there is no problem. Of course, don't let women pay for it all. That's not right.
In handling this matter, we must respect the specific objective reality.
Therefore, whether it is a man or a woman, when going on a blind date, in fact, do not have too much blind date consumption. Especially the first meeting. This in itself is a process of understanding, just talk about it.
Remember, you're going on a blind date, not consuming.
Topic: What do you think the men in the text do, right? Welcome to discuss!
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