Write the warmest words, heal the lonely heart, pay attention to me, and warm you.
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Sanmao once said: "No matter how close a friend is, the measure cannot be lost, and he thinks he is familiar with it, and the result is that he is isolated." ”
Interpersonal communication is a college question, and good interpersonal relationships will not only make you more and more excellent, but also make your life more and more smooth.
Truly interpersonal, such as fish in the water, left and right. It will not be interpersonal like walking on thin ice, offending people without knowing it.
"No rules, no squares." If you want to mix well in society and maintain good interpersonal relationships with others, you need to follow some principles. And a way of doing things without a sense of proportion will not only ruin a harmonious relationship, but also often bring pressure to people.
Some words are secret and private, and they are never spoken for a lifetime. For example, when interacting with people, these taboos should not be touched to avoid eating big losses. If you want to have a reliable network of relationships, you must abide by these principles and let you get good popularity.
[1] Do not touch the weakness of others.
The ancients said: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June." ”
People who can talk, the words they say make people feel very comfortable, and those who do not know how to speak hurt people's hearts when they speak. Therefore, we must pay attention to what should be said and what should not be said, and do not expose the weaknesses and pains of others at will.
"Don't know people thoroughly, and don't tell people everything", leave room for words. This is not only the cultivation of being a person, but also the respect for people, but also saves themselves a lot of troubles and problems.
Speaking has a ruler, doing things accurately, and being a person has rules, which is the way to measure. And a person who does not have a "sense of proportion" will often be respected and far away, but he does not know it.
Don't say some aggressive words, and don't chase after others after the incident. No matter how good the relationship with others is, don't listen to each other's privacy.
[2] Do not disclose your privacy.
It is difficult to draw a dragon and a tiger, it is difficult to draw bones, people know their faces but do not know their hearts, people's hearts are unpredictable, and they should keep a little heart and eyes when interacting with people.
When dealing with others, do not easily "dig out your heart and lungs" to people, and do not shake your own bottom line.
"The heart of harming people must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without", when interacting with people, the taboo of privacy should not be touched, so as to avoid eating big losses and being hurt by others.
People with high emotional intelligence always give people a sense of mystery when dealing with people, and others dare not casually provoke you and dare not bully you.
[3] Don't show off yourself.
Maugham said that what you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off; what you have to deal with is your cleverness that always wants to rush out, wants to make a splash.
If the heavens make him die, he will first make him mad. Arrogance is the beginning of the fall. Everyone needs a good life, but the premise is that you have to learn to live a low profile.
Some people say: "The rich do not return to their hometowns, such as the night of clothing." "The weakness of human nature, most people don't want you to live better than him, so don't show off yourself."
"Wood shows in the forest, and the wind will destroy it." Life should be moderate, avoid showing off yourself, in order to avoid attracting the jealousy of others. After all, even if you are a deeply affectionate relative and friend, they will also want you to have a good life, but don't be much better than them.
Ripe valley often stooped, wise people are always mild. People who like to expose their sharp edges cannot last long. Really smart people put their posture down, not strong, is to protect themselves.
Wheat message: To interact with people, we must have a sense of proportion.
People are mixed in society, and they have a good grasp of the measure of interaction with people, in order to go smoothly. Interacting with people, smart people will not do these "stupid things", is a kind of self-preservation wisdom.
If you interact with people and maintain the courtesy, caution, and sense of proportion that you first met, this relationship can be harmonious and long-lasting. Don't ask about other people's sensitive private matters in public; be measured, speak with weight, and don't gossip behind your back.
In daily life, interacting with people, talking and doing things, the most test is a person's sense of proportion. Don't touch the privacy of others or confide in your own secrets because of the so-called friendship, even if the relationship is good, you should always pay attention to the sense of boundaries.
Zhou Guoping once said: "The sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, which knows how to abide by the necessary distance between people." ”
No matter how good the relationship, there is no sense of proportion, it will only push the other party farther away and create a greater estrangement. I hope you and I can maintain a proper sense of boundaries and have comfortable relationships.
A girl who likes words, I am glad to meet you in my words, and I am willing to use the warmest brushstrokes to accompany you to live your life into poetry.