A few days ago, a netizen complained to me, saying that my husband made a bunch of fox friends, drank all day until two or three o'clock before going home, and he didn't listen to all the good words.
Two days ago he was drunk unconscious, when his friend sent him back, he was already confused, some semi-comatose state, she was afraid of an accident, so she let this friend send him directly to the hospital, but this friend said that people who drank a lot were like this, just go home and sleep. After saying that, he fled and left, afraid that she would be embarrassed again.
The wife was not at ease in the end, and the family sent him to the hospital overnight, the doctor's diagnosis was stomach bleeding, fortunately sent to the doctor in time, otherwise the consequences were unimaginable.
During the husband's hospitalization, the people who drank with him did not show their faces, not even a greeting, and the wife could not help but nag again, "Look at the friends you made, knowing that you have vomited blood a few times outside, and when you come back, you will not tell me, and you will not let me send me to the hospital, for fear that something will happen to him, this is your buddy who mixes together every day." ”
This time, the husband surprisingly did not argue with her, after being discharged from the hospital, he seemed to have changed a person, every day when he arrived at the point, his friends called him out again, he refused one by one, and even blacked out several friends who had been called brothers and brothers before.
As the saying goes, those who are close to Zhu are red, those who are close to ink are black, and what kind of people they make friends with will become what kind of people they will become.
Therefore, for the comfort of the second half of life, after people reach middle age, when they meet these kinds of people, they should break off diplomatic relations as soon as possible, otherwise it is you who suffer losses.
01 Wine and meat friends
The kind of friends I mentioned above may have been met by many people in my life, including many similar people around me.
In "Hello, Mother", Fu Qiang has a bunch of wine and meat friends, when they eat and drink, they call brothers and brothers, brotherhood shouts louder than anyone, all day under the pretext of taking care of brothers' business, eating and drinking in Fu Qiang's restaurant, but never checkout.
Seeing that Fu Qiang's business was cold and the hotel was going to close, not only did they not help, but they immediately blackened their faces when Biyun paid for their meals with them, and even sneered at Fu Qiang, "Your wife can't marry, don't save you a little face in front of your brothers." ”
The originally perfect home, under the mixing of "brothers", the wife also left, the son was scattered, the home was gone, the hotel was also down, and many years later, when Fu Qiang walked lonely on the deserted street, recalling the past, he regretted not being at the beginning, but there was no regret medicine to eat in this world.
Wine and meat friends will always appear only when you are eating, drinking and having fun, when you have difficulties, they will always run faster than rabbits, when you are young, you can't recognize people, thinking that these people hold you to compliment you and coax you, is your life confidant.
When you reach middle age, you should have the minimum ability to distinguish, those who do not go home all day, pull you not drunk and do not return, while complaining about the family chaff yellow face, it is best to contact less, as soon as away from them as soon as possible.
02 People who are jealous and can't look at you well
Keigo Higashino once said, "There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart."
Human nature is the most complicated thing in the world, and even if you get along day and night, sometimes you may not be able to see through a person.
A few days ago, there was a news that a girl's examination and research volunteers were frequently maliciously modified by others, helplessly, girls can only call the police to deal with, girls feel that they never have bad friends with people, there is no competition between themselves and classmates, she can't figure out who will have so much malice towards her.
There is a high praise comment that "it must be an acquaintance who commits the crime, there is no reason, it may be jealous of you".
There is a saying in the Analects that "man does not suffer from widowhood but from inequality." ”
This means that people are afraid of not nothing, but afraid that the people around them have more than themselves, and the people who originally ran together will one day far surpass themselves, which will inevitably make people jealous.
They don't want to catch up with you through their own efforts, but use some shady means to suppress you and exclude you.
Time is the best way to test human nature, always a day, you can see the true face of these people from each other's words and deeds, then keep a distance from them in time, and slowly alienate such people.
03 People who know that you are difficult, but also difficult for you
In "Beijing Love Story", Shi Xiaomeng knew that Cheng Feng had a bad relationship with his father, and for his own interests, he repeatedly forced Cheng Feng to consult with his father and entrusted Dade's advertisement to their company.
To this end, Cheng Feng did not hesitate to argue with his father Cheng Sheng'en many times, and even sent Cheng Sheng'en to the hospital, Shi Xiaomeng knew that after the two fathers and sons were hospitalized because of the advertisement, they still threatened Cheng Feng with brotherly feelings and threatened him step by step.
Those who threaten each other with affection and righteousness, know that you are embarrassed, and have been kidnapping you with friendship, to put it bluntly, they are just using you, they never know gratitude, they will not see your embarrassment, they will only feel that everything you do is taken for granted.
For such a person, it is better to stay away early, otherwise he will only use you again and again, squeeze you dry, and even one day when you are worthless, you may be counted with others.
04 People who love to stir up trouble and manipulate right and wrong
Friends Wen Ye and girlfriends often meet to eat and drink together before they get married, and then Wen Ye and another friend Xiao Meng have married and have children, and their time to go out is less and less, especially with the unmarried early summer almost twice a year.
Early summer often said, why women can't go out to play after marriage, why men want to go out, can't women even have a circle of friends after marriage?
Xiao Meng was deeply affected, often left the child of more than one year old to go out with her to drink until midnight home, every time she came home, her husband would have to have a cold war with her for several days, one day her daughter cried to drink milk (when the child was not yet one year old in breast milk), Xiao Meng drank until more than 12 o'clock and did not return, so her husband divorced her, saying that she had no sense of family responsibility and did not care about her daughter at all.
Early Summer listened and fanned the flames on the side and said:
Leave on the way, and not away can not find, you see after you have given birth to a child have become a nanny, come out once to argue with you once, this kind of man to do what, single is not fragrant?
Wen Ye privately advised Xiao Meng:
There is a big gap between marriage and unmarried, especially after a woman has a child, don't say that being a nanny, both husband and wife are making corresponding changes, you are still breastfeeding to drink is really inappropriate, marriage and children, men and women in life should give up some things appropriately, put more time on running the family, responsibility, this is the meaning of marriage!
People to middle age, the pressure of life is getting bigger and bigger, the communication between husband and wife is getting less and less, there are always some troubles, so that you can't help but complain with friends around you, good friends will be relieved to explain you, bad friends will incite the wind on the side, let you be annoyed and annoying, meet such people, or try to communicate less, ear wind this thing, listen to more inevitable affected.
When people reach a certain age, most people seek a stable, family harmony, parental health, stable work, three or two confidants and friends, which is the greatest success of middle-aged people.
People in middle age tend to be stable in all aspects, if you are still surrounded by a bunch of friends, then your family and career may be deeply affected.
Therefore, we must be "close to the gentleman, far from the small person", when making friends, we must be cautious and cautious, and for those friends whose motives are not pure and have a wrong heart, we should break off friendship as soon as possible and stop coming and going.