The ultimate self-discipline: renunciation

I have seen a question on the Internet: what kind of life state is the most satisfactory?

One of the comments had the highest number of likes: Break away.

Life is indeed like this, filtering should be filtered, the more simplified the more efficient, focus on the things that can promote our growth.

Renunciation should be our lifelong pursuit.

1. Inappropriate love, immediately broken

I saw such a story in Tianya:

There was a girl who fell in love with her boss at work.

The boss is a handsome man with a successful career and a humorous conversation.

As they got along, the girl became more and more impressed by her boss's charm, and she learned that her boss was still single.

At every time of interaction, the boss is kind to the girl and often patiently guides her at work, which makes the girl feel that the boss also likes her, so the girl behaves more positively in front of the boss and works harder than before.

When the girl is contemplating to tell her love to her boss, she learns that her boss has a new girlfriend.

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The girl would see her boss's girlfriend coming downstairs to wait for her boss to leave work, and the girl would smile and run into her boss's arms every time.

Every time the girl saw that sweet and happy scene, she would feel lost, and she knew that she didn't need to be infatuated with her boss anymore, so she stopped thinking of continuing to like her boss.

In this world, there are many things that do not need to be attached to, and inappropriate love is one of them.

Some things can be achieved through hard work, but feelings are exceptional, no matter how hard you try, what does not belong to you has nothing to do with you.

In life, there will inevitably be some things, no matter how hard we try, can not change, some people, no matter how much we like, will also leave us.

People who don't like you, it's useless for you to like it, and what we have to do is stop loss in time.

For inappropriate love, the best way to fix it is to let go and give yourself the opportunity to start over.

In the past, if you don't fall in love, you can not lose the present.

2. Inappropriate friendship, immediately give up

When I was in school, a new classmate came to the class.

Her academic performance was very good, and I envied her, so I took the initiative to approach her.

In the beginning, she was very friendly to me and I thought we would be good friends.

But, gradually, her attitude towards me began to cool down, and when I looked for her, she responded politely, but she never took the initiative to find me.

In this so-called friendship, it has always been me who has paid unilaterally, and over time, I feel a little tired.

When I decided to give up and stop obsessing over making this friend, my mood suddenly became easier.

Any relationship is mutual, so is friendship, you come and go, mutual recognition and friendship, such friendship will last.

If the two people do not match, no matter how deliberately one party tries to please, it is doing useless work.

If a relationship, we need to spend a lot of time to maintain, but in the end there is still no improvement, but to torture themselves to gain and lose, then such a relationship must be wrong, give up will not be wrong again and again.

If a person is always living in an uncertain relationship, it is a kind of self-internal friction and will also weaken confidence in life.

A good relationship will make each other grow into a better version of themselves.

3. Inappropriate pursuit, immediate departure

A friend, after graduating from college that year, was not from a science class, and her English level was average, and she decided to devote herself to a very popular foreign trade work.

When she repeatedly hit a wall in the process of job hunting, and even was ridiculed by the interviewer for not measuring her own strength, she suddenly realized that she was in the wrong direction from the beginning.

So she reoriented her career and looked for a job in a field she was familiar with. Originally, I took a professional course

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She was very solid, and she found a very good job without much effort.

If the direction is wrong, no matter how hard we try, it will be in vain.

Unrealistic ideas, coupled with wishful thinking, are not exchanged for wishful thinking, but for heartbreak and heartbreak.

Good things, everyone likes, and suitable for themselves, whether they can control it, is the key to whether to choose.

Really powerful people will not blindly make choices, but first correctly recognize themselves, for the pursuit of inappropriate self, should be separated, rather than wasting time and energy in the wrong direction.

4. The most extreme self-discipline of a person is to learn to give up

Someone once said, "The task of renouncing is to retrieve everything that has been wasted in the past." ”

People's desires are endless, the more they have, they still want more, and those people and things that should be let go have always remained in their hearts and become burdens.

However, life is actually a journey of simplification.

Inappropriate love, immediately broken.

Inappropriate friendship, immediately give up.

Inappropriate pursuit, immediate departure.

The most extreme self-discipline of a person is to learn to give up.

For the rest of our lives, may we all learn to give up and have a simplified and happy life.