A long time ago, honesty was actually the advantage of a boy, and many matchmakers could not at least introduce this man to be honest when they were matchmaking. Honest men are no longer so popular with girls. Even if you are in good condition and good looking, if you are too honest, you can't catch up with the girl you like. Why does honesty go from a boy's bit to a flaw that is not liked by a girl?
First, the reason why girls don't like honest people
The reason why honest people are not liked by girls is that those honest people always have similar traits and performances when chasing girls:
1, too much care about the idea of girls
They often have less emotional experience, and the education they have received from childhood is to be good to girls, and let girls everywhere, but unfortunately, many people have been educated without saying that things must be reversed, and these boys have not thought clearly about being good to girls and what the boundaries of girls are, so this scene often occurs:
Blindly pandering to the girl's ideas, no matter what the girl says without any objection, it seems that you are more like her in order to cater and pander, not an independent individual.
There is also a situation that no matter what the girl asks for, she unconditionally agrees, and even when the girl has nothing to do, she must take the initiative to mention:
"If you need it, you must find me."
"As long as you have something, you can always come to me"
"I'll help you with this"
When you pay frequently and cheaply, and getting you becomes a breeze, what value do you have that you deserve?
2, over-paying
Most honest people have some of these characteristics when chasing girls:
There is nothing to send girls to things; Often the relationship between girls has no need to help, even if the girl has made it clear that she does not need it, she still wants to try to pay.
Such excessive giving can often only bring pressure to girls, because she knows that your efforts are only increasing her chips to choose your chips.
3, confess too early
Honest people are often relatively straight, and many times they rush to confess when girls have not yet shown good feelings for themselves, for fear that girls do not know that they like her.
In fact, girls are very sensitive and intelligent, she can completely see your thoughts from your behavior language, not to break just to give you a chance, but also hope to keep you as a friend. But how should she get along with you after you confess?
And every minute and every second of you becomes an examination of "whether he is suitable to be my lover", and the original relaxed and pleasant environment is gone.
If you are not 100% sure, the confession is more likely to be a "suicide attack" than the "clarion call of the charge" imagined by many honest people.
Is it true that as an honest person is doomed to a lonely life?
Of course not, in fact, an honest person is still attracted by a lot of advantages of girls, as long as we know how to use, we can also catch up with the girls we like.
Second, how honest people chase after the girl they like
Although some of the behaviors of honest people are easily disliked by girls, it has to be said that they also have many advantages that "bad boys" do not have: single-mindedness, long-term affection, and respect for girls...
But I don't know if you found it, these good traits need to be shown after the success of girls, but in the process of pursuing girls, it seems that there is no help, and even played a counterproductive effect:
"Single-mindedness" becomes worthless, "affection" is seen as entangled, "respect" is seen as uninteresting...
Why do the advantages of good boys become disadvantages in the eyes of girls?
The most fundamental reason is that there is no attraction
So, as an honest person who wants to chase after a girl you like, you need to:
1. Guide girls to pay
Why do we like the girl more and more we chase her, and the more I think she is more precious to me?
There is a saying that "the time and emotion I put into you makes you precious to me", the roses in the world are the same, but because this one is raised by you, it becomes different, no longer like those roses, but a rose that belongs only to you.
The same is true for girls, if she pays the cost of time and emotion on you, the more she will care about you, the more she pays attention to you, the more likely you are to be with her.
For example, when you do her a favor, don't say "It's all right, it's all I should", so that she won't remember what you gave, because she didn't give anything, and people will always pay no attention to what you get for free.
Try a different method - "help you, meet me to invite me to dinner", with a similar equivalent to show your value, but also do not go too far, ask for something far more valuable than the value you pay, so as not to backfire.
In this way, you not only deepen the impression in the hearts of the girls, but also have a dinner with the girls you like, why not enjoy it?
Another example is to guide girls to invest emotionally when chatting
"I can send you my picture, but you have to call the little brother."
The main point of guiding emotional investment is that you must be valuable, can not empty gloves white wolf, there must be points that can attract girls, such as she plays your instrument, your photos, your dance, singing, you can use this as an opportunity,
Guide the girl to invest in your emotions, when she finds that she spends more and more emotions on you, and even usually thinks of you, you are not far from being together.
2. Keep the mystery going
Girls are a particularly curious animal, they are always curious about things and want to explore.
If a man wants to arouse the interest of girls, he must occasionally be immodest, bring her curiosity, make her wonder what you are thinking, and let her always think of "Eh, why is this person like this?"
Here's a big drawback of those "good boys":
Always have no reservations about girls, girls ask everything they know, and even always fear that girls will not understand the supplement over and over again. Think about it, when you know all about a person, do you still want to upgrade your relationship with him?
Everything about ta is known to you, so would you still want ta?
We want to be with someone in large part because I want to get to know her, want to get to know her past, her future, her personality, her relationships.
This is especially true for girls, keeping the mystery, making her want to understand, wanting to pursue is the best law of attraction.
For example:
"Little sister, 521 Who did you live with?"
"I don't know"
At this time, don't echo, comfort, "that's so pitiful", "let me accompany you", this will only cause disgust to girls.
Change the strategy slightly, "How do you know that my name is not knowing?"
When you ask the previous sentence, the girl has already felt that you are trying to please her, but suddenly the role reverses, and begins to flirt with her, so that she can't guess what you are thinking, so that the mystery brought by the contrast is enough to arouse the interest of the girl.
In the serious time of the skin, in the unorthodox time of the serious, many boys are not liked by girls because they are too rigid, even a joke does not dare to open, can not mobilize the emotions of girls.
Why are so many "bad boys" always sought after?
It's because they "break the rules" – being naughty when it's time to be serious, being serious when it's being naughty, and making people wonder what he's thinking.
I don't know if you've ever seen a TV series like this:
When a girl keeps thinking about the same boy, she is probably about to fall in love with him.