Recently, I saw a mother on the Internet complaining, her daughter is usually very well-behaved, but her temperament is soft, even a little inferior and cowardly, she is isolated and bullied by her roommates, until she is found to be mildly depressed, this mother does not believe at all, saying that how can the housemates find trouble with their daughters for no reason, it must be the reason for the daughter.
The daughter does not understand the mother's statement, and thinks that this communication itself is a secondary harm to her, directly collapsed, and does not know what to do, so this mother is doing the right thing, because this phenomenon may be happening to you and my children.
First of all, the conclusion is that it must be the mother who is wrong, not the child.
For the child, if even her own parents are talking to others, then what warmth does she have to speak of, the child is already depressed, the parents do not believe, still looking for problems in the child, is it really waiting for the child to jump off the building before believing?
And from the child's point of view, as long as the parents have always been a solid arm behind them, even if they have suffered great grievances in school, as long as the parents are willing to understand themselves, they will feel that it does not matter, everything can survive.
Second, sincerely apologize to the child. Only after sincerely apologizing and obtaining the child's forgiveness can we regain the child's trust and improve our status in the child's mind.
Finally, learn to listen to the child's true voice, like the above situation, it may be a little difficult for the child to open his heart again, but after doing the first two points, insist on patiently listening to the child's voice, remember, first be a good listener, in order to be a good parent.
Finally, I hope that all parents can help their children out of the predicament, grades are important, but more important than children are emotional and mental health, we must not put the cart before the horse.