What do you do when your family has bipolar disorder?

What should I do when my family has bipolar disorder?

In fact, in psychological counseling, the vast majority of clients start out more because of other real-world problems such as family relationship problems, emotional problems, and behavioral problems.

◆ Due to the principle of confidentiality of psychological counseling, the personal information related to the visitor has been processed.

Visitor one

Impulse consumption + extramarital affair problems

Mr. Zhong, aged 35. Married to his wife for three years and has a two-year-old daughter.

When in love, he is very smart and inspired, and the surprises and romances he creates make his wife very touched and happy. After marriage, his wife was at home full-time, and his ordinary days were broken by Mr. Zhong's sudden resignation one day.

At that time, the husband and wife had a total of 300,000 savings in hand, and on the night of resignation, Mr. Zhong woke his wife up from sleep, proposed to buy a house, and the next day he took his wife to see the house to force her to make a decision, and his wife did not agree. After a while, I began to buy half a million Mercedes-Benz, and my wife felt that this was far beyond the burden of the family, but it was useless to persuade her.

After Mr. Zhong and his wife got into a stalemate, he bought a car.

At this time, he spent money like water, his emotions were intense, he had many ideas, and even exaggerated.

Two months later, the stock market crashed, and Mr. Zhong's source of funds went wrong. He began to regret what he had done before, and at the same time felt that his brain had become stupid, very inferior, felt that he was useless, very decadent, had no confidence in doing anything, and was always hesitant and thinking repeatedly in the face of problems.

With his wife's encouragement, he got a job and went through it plainly.

However, a few months later, his gloomy mood was swept away, he was emotionally excited, he did things in a high profile, and in the case of foreign debt of 100,000 yuan, he borrowed money to run a company, opened a factory, bought a sports car, and borrowed more than 700,000 yuan in debt within a month. Every night I went home in the early hours of the morning and went out energetically the next day.

At the same time, he is irritable and irritable, he can't be reasonable at all, his emotions are a little bit, he doesn't allow any opposition, so that his wife is very miserable and doesn't know how to get along with him. During this time, he fell in love with a schoolgirl and pursued it intensely, determined to divorce his wife.

The wife was miserable and broke down, but considering the children were still so young, she didn't want a divorce. She endured the pain in her heart and took great pains to bring Mr. Zhong over, hoping to save the marriage through counseling.

Visitor Two

Shopping spree + gambling addiction

Mr. Chen, male, 30 years old, is easy to get angry and impatient with people and things, which makes people feel very difficult to get along with.

Always alone, a lot of ideas, often do some strange things, such as raising crocodile turtles and snakes and other strange animals, such as buying a book of 1,000 yuan has not been turned over; buying a computer for 7800 yuan without blinking an eye; handling a 7,000 yuan quarter fitness card, going twice and not going; buying a cat more than ten thousand, throwing it there no matter what... Behaviors like this are constant. Many times the package will not be opened after purchasing the item.

All this shopping spree money is taken from his parents, and the 30-year-old still can't pay for himself. Because in each job, although at the beginning of every day full of morale, high self-discipline, in a very happy and very high state, but not more than two months.

In the end, either he was fired in conflict with his boss or colleagues, or he suddenly had low pressure, depressed, did not want to do anything, did not feel for work, felt that life was particularly boring, and even had the idea of taking his own life.

What's worse is that recently, like a convulsion, I am also obsessed with gambling, gambling can't stop, and my family is in debt. When he is with his parents, he loses his temper uncontrollably.

The parents were helpless and took them to psychological counseling.

▓ The above 2 clients came because of different needs and goals, but through psychological counseling, they found that the parties had one thing in common - they had bipolar disorder.

Bipolar disorder, also known as bipolar disorder, is a mood disorder in which both manic or hypomanic episodes and depressive episodes have occurred since the onset of the disease.

When depressed, patients have depressed mood, self-blame anxiety, negative and light emotions, and when they are manic, they will be manifested as impulsive, irritable, energetic, and conceited. This alternating and depressive form, but also in a mixed fashion, can directly impair the patient's ability to work, study, live, and communicate.

There is not much difference between depression and depression, and the patient gives up the struggle in the mud like a dead fish that has lost its vitality, and almost loses all vitality.

The mood in the manic state is extremely high and confident, but behind this also hides the essence of irritability and irritability. Hypomanic emotions, although happy and exciting, are often ups and downs and capricious. Manic mood is characterized by elation and exaggeration, as if it is never defeated by depression, fear and anger.

In a mild manic state, the connection between the various ideas is usually relatively clear.

Many people will be very nostalgic for the state of hypomania, creativity and work efficiency is extremely high, simply too attractive.

This strange illness has plagued many celebrities such as Van Gogh, Beethoven, Vivien Leigh and many others. Hemingway is the most typical bipolar disorder, and it is said that when he was depressed, he could not write a novel in three years, while in a manic state, he could write three novels a year.

Some people are in a state of hypomania, interpersonal relationships are very active, can establish a familiar relationship with people at once, but it is difficult to maintain a long time, especially with intimate people prone to conflict.

Some patients will have some bizarre and even very funny purchase behavior, and many times the purchased things will not even be opened to look at, because they want the excitement and excitement of the purchase process.

Some patients will be crazy to drink, some will gamble or unwise investment behavior, some are addicted to the Internet, black and white are reversed, and some people have frequent extramarital sex and extramarital affairs emotionally.

For people with bipolar disorder, if the depressive period is hell, then the manic period is heaven. In reality, he enjoys the state of the manic period, is afraid of the arrival of depression, and is unwilling to stay in the depression period, so he will avoid the depression period through some of the above behaviors and let him stay more in the manic period.

Whether it is food, beauty, shopping, or cigarettes, alcohol, gambling, or frequent extramarital sex, extramarital affairs, as long as it can make TA excited and exciting, it can become a "life-saving straw" in TA's mind.

Another characteristic of the manic period is that it is tireless, the need for sleep is decreasing, and there is an extreme desire to be in contact with people. The emotional consequences of these actions can be extremely destructive.

▓ As the symptoms of mania become more serious, the mind will become fragmented and divided, and even often insanity will occur.

Of all the clinical symptoms of severe mania, the most extreme and striking are those that are crazy and violent and seemingly aimless.

In manic patients, there are similar eccentric, paranoid, and impulsive patterns of behavior, such as alcohol and substance abuse, pathological gambling, severe and repetitive fiscal deficits, and chaotic interpersonal relationships and suicide.

Whether it is alcohol, shopping, gambling, or extramarital affairs, once infected with bipolar disorder, it is difficult to quit, and it will be repeated. Because of this characteristic, patients are prone to problems in interpersonal relationships and marriages.

During the manic period, the ta may be the most selfish and arrogant, and the concern for the people around him may turn his face at any time. He blames his partner for no reason, even torture, and any small thing in life can be the fuse of a sensitive theater. Sometimes the sensitive mentality coupled with the explicit performance of the bipolar period, the tendency to domestic violence will be higher than that of ordinary people.

Bipolar patients will always be in a state of alternating mania and depression, which is a heartbreaking and headache for family, partners and friends, and their undulating state, "incomprehensible", will consume the care and patience of those around them.

But bipolar disorder is not easily recognized and can easily be missed. Generally speaking, when some patients are in a depressed state, they will have a certain degree of self-awareness, will take the initiative to seek medical treatment, and it is easy to be misdiagnosed as depression at this time; if they are in a hypomanic state, they will feel that they are normal and very enjoyable; and when they are in a state of severe mania, although they realize that they have abnormalities, they still do not think that this is a disease, and even strongly refuse treatment.

Therefore, as a friend, family member or partner, if you find that the people around you are abnormal, emotional ups and downs, impulsive behaviors such as alcohol dependence, shopping spree, gambling addiction, game addiction, frequent extramarital sex affairs, you must have a certain awareness, consider whether he is bipolar.

If the diagnosis is confirmed, first of all, through psychological counseling and drug treatment, if the pathology can be improved, these floating phenomena can really be changed.