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You who eat melons, do you remember that on January 18, 2019, Deng Jiajia's studio suddenly posted an article announcing the news that Deng Jiajia and her husband outside the circle divorced. The official propaganda copy is extremely concise: Deng Jiajia has peacefully broken up with his husband and ended the marriage relationship. Although the ending is regrettable, it is thankful to have been with you.
As soon as this divorce copy came out, it shocked everyone: When did Deng Jiajia get married? In fact, on November 19, 2014, Deng Jiajia ended a ten-year love run with her boyfriend and entered the palace of marriage.
At the wedding scene, also because of the popular actress Lou Yixiao of "Love Apartment", as a bridesmaid, the groom's vows are true, Deng Jiajia was moved to tears several times, making people believe in the purity and sweetness of that relationship.
However, the sweetness after marriage did not last long, but in 4 years, a relationship of more than ten years was pronounced dead in the wear and tear of marriage, how can it not be lamented?
It is said that the reason for the divorce is that Deng Jiajia often goes out to shoot dramas, she and her husband Yu Yan, the couple of them get together less and more, gradually there are differences and misunderstandings, and in the end, it is out of control, one shot and two scattered. I have to say that many feelings can survive a long period of love, but they cannot withstand the trial of marriage. 10 years of love can be discussed, but 4 years of marriage can not stand a minute.
In fact, not only Deng Jiajia's marriage, Chen He and his ex-wife Xu Jing are the same. His relationship with Xu Jing, which began in junior high school, also lasted for 10 years, but after only more than 1 year of marriage, the relationship came to an abrupt end.
Whether the passion in love cannot withstand the trust and test of marriage, or the reality and triviality of marriage consume each other's naïve imagination during the love period, we do not know. The emotional experience of Deng Jiajia and Chen He reminds people of a classic saying: marriage is the graveyard of love.
But there is also a truth that says: the greatest sincerity in loving a woman is to marry her.
I think that the combination of two sentences is the truth of marriage and love. That is to say: we have given each other the promise of marriage, then the sincerity of our love for each other has arrived, and if marriage does not become a graveyard of love, let us run it together.
Entering marriage does not mean that the relationship is stable and waveless. On the contrary, when entering marriage, feelings need to be managed and preserved.
Marriage is the starting point of a relationship. Even if the object of love and the object of marriage are the same person, the responsibilities and obligations of marriage will make this relationship go to a new journey. When we set off on the road, we must be prepared to overcome all kinds of difficulties and dangers and reach the end.
Of course, the difficulties on this road are obvious. That's why we need to bother to operate. Having children, teaching children, honoring in-laws, handling family relations, and every superficial matter tests our wisdom. What's more, there are also hidden reefs under those surging undercurrents, and if you are not careful, the marriage boat will hit the reef and run aground, and it will be difficult to move forward.
Therefore, to run a marriage and go white, what is needed is the concerted efforts of both parties, consensus, and sufficient wisdom and a strong heart. If either party drops the chain, the marriage will be unsustainable. This may be the truth of Deng Jiajia's divorce!
It is said that Deng Jiajia, who was in the rising stage of her career after marriage, still put her work first and often stayed in the crew for several months. In this case, she did neglect to pay for her family.
But Deng Jiajia is a public figure who has attracted much attention, and the wind and grass are in the eyes of the media. And his ex-husband is an outsider, and we have no way of knowing his actions.
Therefore, people can only speculate about the possible reasons for their divorce from the limited asymmetrical information. This is also a little unfair to Deng Jiajia, but it can only be so. Because, the final outcome is in front of us, no matter what the truth is, it is no longer important.
It is important that we learn from our failures and learn from them. It is that sentence: read other people's stories and be alert to your own life.
Therefore, marriage is not the graveyard of love; marriage that does not operate is.
The greatest sincerity of loving a woman is not just marriage; but, after marriage, willing to go through the storms of marriage with her, consume the trivialities of marriage, and put them to rest, never give up easily!
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