"14 years of relationship is not easy, it is really not easy. It's beautiful, it's precious, it's important. ”
"But nothing in this world can be so perfect."
On January 22, 2015, Chen He wrote a thousand-word article on Weibo, revealing the news of his divorce from Xu Jing.
Chen He and Xu Jing's divorce made many netizens unexpected, before the divorce, everyone's impression of Chen He was a deep and funny artist.
Chen He and Xu Jing met in junior high school, and the two walked through the student era.
Chen He once talked about his love affair with Xu Jing, and in the third year of junior high school, he fell in love with Xu Jing at first sight, and then began to pursue.
Chen He's family is prominent, although he is not very handsome, but he comes from an acting family, his mother is a national first-class actor, and Chen Kaige is still his cousin.
Born in such a family, Chen He had little interest in acting.
Until his junior year of high school, he had always dreamed of being a cook when he grew up, but he didn't tell his parents.
Therefore, In the eyes of others, Chen He is a rich second generation with average academic performance and no great ambitions.
Xu Jing is different from Chen He, Xu Jing is a good student and very quiet.
Chen He pursued Xu Jing in the most traditional way - stalking.
It is said that the spirited girl is afraid of pestering Lang, Xu Jing was quickly impressed by Chen He, and the two secretly fell in love in the third year of junior high school.
Because it was an early love, Chen He did not tell his parents, but once the two people had dinner and were bumped into by Chen He's mother.
Mother Chen is a very intelligent person, although the son and Xu Jing said that they were classmates of each other and met by chance.
But Mother Chen had a number in mind, although she did not want her son to fall in love early, but she did not break up the two of them.
In this way, the two people have maintained a stable relationship, from the third year of junior high school to high school and college.
In his third year of high school, Chen He saw that the classmates around him were studying hard and was also deeply affected.
So he decided to take the path of an actor, and it was precisely because of this decision that Chen He later became a college roommate with Du Jiang, Zheng Kai and others.
Xu Jing was admitted to another media college, so the two began a long-distance relationship.
Although they are far apart, the feelings of the two people have not weakened, and they understand each other very well.
Go to the other person's city when you have time, and call when you don't have time.
Du Jiang and Zheng Kai knew the feelings of the two of them early on, and they were also very moved.
Later, Chen He became popular because of the drama "Love Apartment", and his career was booming.
In the play, he is a funny male Zeng Xiaoxian, giving people a look, very out of tune.
However, the story of him and Xu Jing outside the play has touched countless netizens, and it turns out that the funny man also has a deep side.
This is the impression that many people have of Chen He. After Chen He became popular, his relationship with Xu Jing was still very good, and the work did not separate the two.
In the blink of an eye, the two people have also been together for thirteen years, in love for so many years, and have reached the age when it is time to get married.
Chen He and Xu Jing entered the palace of marriage as they wished, and the two ushered in a complete happiness.
But what everyone didn't expect was that the two people got married in 2013 and went public in 2015.
In the long article, Chen He said that he and Xu Jing have been divorced for half a year, that is to say, the two divorced in 2014.
This makes many netizens very surprised, thirteen years of love and long-distance running have come over, how to get married for more than a year and then divorced?
In this regard, Chen He said that he and Xu Jingju were less and more separated, and because of work, the time spent at home was only ten days a year.
This word out of the netizens are even more puzzled, long-distance love when there is no breakup, after marriage can not stand the long-distance?
Coupled with the appearance of Zhang Zixuan, Chen He's family life has been seriously affected.
Chen He pleaded with everyone to spare himself and his family.
Xu Jing, on the other hand, stood up and said that Chen He was just a fragile child and her relative, and hoped that everyone would not attack him.
Therefore, many netizens call Xu Jing "China's best predecessor".
You know, before Chen He announced his divorce, he and Xu Jing also participated in the variety show Show Of Love.
And the two people divorced half a year ago, that is to say, showing love in the variety show is fake?
For a time, Chen He's "good man" personality completely collapsed, and Xu Jing also gained the sympathy of countless netizens.
Now that the two have been divorced for eight years, netizens have gradually come out.
Chen He had his first daughter in 2016, the daughter of him and his second wife, Zhang Zixuan.
Chen He and Zhang Zixuan have cooperated in two dramas, and it is inevitable that the two people will have a long-term relationship.
However, Chen He said that when he and Zhang Zixuan were photographed, they had been divorced from Xu Jing for half a year.
Therefore, even if the controversy is great, the so-called "derailment" statements are untrue.
Xu Jing went abroad, yearning for freedom, she began to travel the world.
Zhang Zixuan's fame is not very big, she is an actress, also worked as a model, looks sweet and beautiful.
She and Xu Jing are two types of girls, Zhang Zixuan is a small woman, and Xu Jing loves freedom.
When Xu Jing and Chen He were together, Chen He had promised her to accompany her around the world.
This has always been Xu Jing's dream, and they also plan to buy a diamond ring for Xu Jing every time they go to a place and a country.
However, after Chen He became an actor, he participated in variety show recording, filming movies, and filming TV series, and did not have much time to accompany Xu Jing.
Artists often shoot in other places, and his promise to Xu Jing can no longer be fulfilled.
So although they were reluctant to each other, they decided to separate after much deliberation.
What Chen He needed was a small woman, a woman who was willing to meet her husband and teach her children at home and wait for her to come home.
Xu Jing, on the other hand, is a woman of the new era, she has her own thoughts, she is an independent individual.
Xu Jing will not give up her ideals for others, even if that person is her husband.
But what are they doing wrong? The two of them did nothing wrong.
Maybe that's why they'll be separated, and Zhang Zixuan may be the most suitable person for Chen He.
But some netizens said that they did not find it inappropriate to be together for thirteen years, and they found it inappropriate to get married.
Emotional things like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge, as outsiders we do not know what happened between them.
Zhang Zixuan and Chen He's time together is very delicate, so the two have always been very low-key.
They don't even have a public wedding and rarely show their affection online.
After all, in the eyes of the outside world, Zhang Zixuan's body has always been hung with the label of "little three".
So did Xu Jing, who left Chen He, let go of her heart knot and start a new relationship?
Of course there is.
Xu Jing's appearance may not be as beautiful as Zhang Zixuan, but she is very temperamental.
Xu Jing, who is 173cm tall, is very fond of sports and fitness, and she likes to travel.
She has healthy wheat-colored skin and is adventurous, optimistic and cheerful.
She has been abroad, has been to many countries, seen the world of ice and snow, and likes to blossom in the spring and face the sea.
Most of her boyfriends are expatriates, and they both love travel and fitness.
And these hobbies, Chen He does not like, Chen He likes food, games, filming.
He likes to be with his family, likes a stable life, and doesn't like to be wandering and homeless.
So now look at the separation of two people, in fact, it is understandable.
After Xu Jing separated from Chen He, she also disclosed several boyfriends, but the relationship was not very long.
Even she has a time when she is not clear, and a boyfriend was spat on by netizens because of "sucking DU".
She and her boyfriend hadn't been together for long either, and the two soon broke up.
Xu Jing did not shut down her social networking sites, and she often posted photos.
Sometimes it's a photo of yourself working out, and sometimes it's a landscape photo of your trip.
From the perspective of positioning, she has gone to many places, sometimes to Canada, sometimes to Mexico.
And also opened a homestay, became a designer, she has been constantly learning, improving herself.
Occasionally, Xu Jing will return to China and go to various cities in China, but she is very low-key.
Her life was very comfortable, the years did not leave any marks on her face, and her figure was still very good.
Xu Jing's life has made many people envious, she is free, romantic, full of literary atmosphere, she is not bound.
She could go wherever she wanted to go and sparkle somewhere in the world.
She can not be a wife, not a mother, she is just herself.
Life is like this, only after experiencing it, you understand why people who have been together for so long will also be separated.
Everyone is an independent individual, and after marriage both people sacrifice something.
Chen He is a more traditional man, for whom marriage, childbirth, chai rice oil and salt are all he has.
For Xu Jing, freedom and the wind and snow are her pursuits.
When in love, two people can not think about the future, because they just enjoy the sweetness of love.
However, getting married is not so simple, should you settle down after marriage, or continue to take risks?
Neither person is willing to compromise, so they can only choose to separate.
This was supposed to be between the two of them, but Chen He was a public figure, so he and Xu Jing had to face criticism.
Chen He also said in the show that Xu Jing is not an artist in the entertainment industry, and she is very painful in the face of these non-parliamentary.
Although the two people have been separated, Xu Jing has maintained Chen He, and Chen He has also maintained Xu Jing.
Two people have known each other for more than ten years, loved each other for more than ten years, and have long been relatives.
So even if you break up, you will still defend each other.
For netizens, what we should do is understand.
Wait until you have actually experienced it, and then you know that marriage is not so simple.
Now the two people have been divorced for eight years, and the young boy and girl who were green in the past are over thirty years old.
They are also more mature, and they have a new life for each other.
Maybe that's the best arrangement, what do you think?