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Text: Liuli said entertainment
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Preamble:
People will meet many people in their lives, so who is the one you really love?
Is it the small hair of a childhood sweetheart, or the noble person you met after becoming famous?
Or is it the person who has been by your side when you are at a low point in your life? Every relationship is like a cycle in which we experience joys and sorrows, joys and sorrows.
Chen Guojun has met three women in his life, and they have all left an indelible mark on his life.
These three relationships have witnessed his growth, shaped his character, and influenced his life.
The first love, holding hands for the rest of the year
In 1979, 26-year-old Chen Guojun and 23-year-old Zhao Yamin tied the knot.
At that time, they were all young people with dreams of being actors.
In China in the 80s, young people had infinite aspirations for the film industry, and they thought that as long as they worked hard, they could break through the world in this industry.
When they got married, although the conditions were difficult, with the blessings of relatives and friends, they were full of expectations for their future life.
After marriage, for the sake of this family, Chen Guojun and Zhao Yamin worked hard day and night.
Especially Zhao Yamin, not only has to work hard outside for her career, but also has to take care of housework when she returns home.
She feels that her husband Chen Guojun is a talented person who will definitely achieve a career, so she is willing to give everything.
She believes that as long as the two of them work together, the days will be more and more prosperous.
A few years later, her son Chen He was born, and Zhao Yamin felt that all the hard work was worth it.
Chen Guojun is also a conscientious and good father, who regards his son as the pearl of his palm, which makes Zhao Yamin feel sincerely happy.
Although the life is poor, their family is happy.
Every bit of life is so warm and beautiful, as if the road in the future will be smooth.
However, married life is not all smooth sailing.
As Chen Guo's military career took off, there was a rift in the relationship between him and his wife.
Especially after he met Liu Xiaoqing, the couple drifted apart.
Zhao Yamin was keenly aware of the change in her husband, and she begged hard to save the marriage, but finally took the initiative to file for divorce in 1985.
In the face of a broken marriage, Zhao Yamin chose to let go, she understood that the feelings that could not be retained, no matter how much she kept them, it was futile.
Zhao Yamin did not fight for the custody of his son when he divorced, but handed over Chen He to Chen Guojun's parents to raise without hesitation.
After that, she chose to quit the showbiz and went to Japan alone.
There, with hard work, she completed the transformation from actress to costume designer, and her career was a little successful.
Although the breakdown of her marriage broke her heart, she did not resent her ex-husband, but instead taught her son to understand his father.
Although Chen Guojun and Zhao Yamin did not grow old in the end, Zhao Yamin's atmosphere and open-mindedness in this marriage made Chen Guojun sincerely admire.
She interprets what love is and what responsibility is in her own way.
Liu Xiaoqing: A lifelong love and hatred
Chen Guojun and Liu Xiaoqing's bad relationship began in 1980, when they met through the collaborative film "Deep in the Heart".
The young and vigorous Chen Guojun saw his ideal female image in Liu Xiaoqing.
She is beautiful, intelligent, kind, and passionate about acting, which makes him involuntarily captivated.
Out of admiration for Liu Xiaoqing, Chen Guojun maintained an "underground relationship" with her in the next few years.
Although this feeling is not tolerated by the world, Chen Guojun chose to follow his heart without hesitation.
However, the good times were short-lived.
When Liu Xiaoqing's career was in full swing, Chen Guojun became a jobless vagrant.
In order to be with the woman he loved, he decisively resigned from his job as an actor and came to Beijing to join Liu Xiaoqing.
Although this decision cost him his career, he got love.
In that era of material scarcity, there were not many people who worked hard for love, and Chen Guojun's behavior was undoubtedly a manifestation of courage and perseverance.
In 1985, Chen Guojun and Liu Xiaoqing met in the crew of "Ruthless Lover".
The double harvest of love and career made the lovers extremely sweet.
They prepare movies together, wander through the halls of art together, as if the whole world makes way for them.
However, the honeymoon period soon ended, and the film's financial problems made Chen Guojun anxious, and Liu Xiaoqing had to return to his old business to take on some commercial performances to make money in order to help him, and the cost of each performance was used by Chen Guojun to fill the hole in the film.
This kind of mutual love is moving.
The two of them ran around because of the preparation of the movie, and every place they went to, they bought a sleeper ticket, and they had to sleep together in order to save money.
The harsh environment did not destroy their relationship, but brought each other's hearts closer.
However, no amount of sweet words can withstand the hardships of life.
Under the weight of the economy, the two people began to become sensitive and suspicious, and quarreled constantly.
In 1990, because of Jiang Wen's intervention, the two people who were originally like glue finally got into trouble.
Since then, they have each written books to expose their shortcomings, you come and I don't give in to each other, and for 18 years, they are all saber-rattling, and they don't even want to mention each other's names.
Love, like a double-edged sword, when you have it, you have the whole world; When you lose, you don't even have yourself anymore.
In a variety show in 2015, Chen Guojun broke the silence for the first time, and he admitted that for Liu Xiaoqing, he "can die for her or kill her".
The 26-year love-hate entanglement is an indelible scar for Chen Guojun.
However, when Liu Xiaoqing really appeared in front of him, all the resentment disappeared in an instant, and was replaced by deep apologies.
The two hugged each other tightly and shed tears on the spot, and the grievances of many years came to an end at that moment.
It turns out that true love is never about possession, but about fulfillment.
Son Chen He: Companionship makes love eternal
Among Chen Guojun's three marriages, Chen He is undoubtedly his greatest pride.
Although Chen Guojun played the role of a derelict father during his son's growth, fortunately, his ex-wife Zhao Yamin did not give up the child.
Under her careful education, Chen He not only did not hold grudges, but was full of understanding for his father.
Later, Chen He also became a director as he wished, and also cooperated with his father many times, creating masterpieces such as "On the Songhua River" and "High-speed Rail Testimony".
Seeing his son's achievements, Chen Guojun felt relieved in his heart.
His son's tolerance made him regret his dereliction of duty, but at the same time, he was glad that he did not lose the child in the end.
Chen Guojun sincerely thanked his ex-wife Zhao Yamin, it was her tolerance and generosity that made Chen He what he is today, and gave the father and son the opportunity to work together again.
Blood is thicker than water, and the relationship between father and son is irreplaceable by anything.
Although the years have passed, the family affection is still the same, which is the most cherished wealth in Chen Guojun's life.
Epilogue:
Today, 81-year-old Chen Guojun has a successful career, an excellent son, and the company of his current wife, which can be said to have reached the peak of his life.
However, deep in his heart, the rebellious, rebellious, and daring to love and hate youth has never disappeared.
As he himself said, only if you have loved and hated can you live completely.
Chen Guojun's life is wonderful because of love and hate, and complete because of gain and loss.
It was through three completely different relationships that he realized that there is no hurdle in life that cannot be overcome, and only by cherishing the present can he have no regrets.
Life is a practice, and we are constantly learning and growing through ups and downs.
Every relationship is a life lesson that teaches us how to love and how to be loved.
Chen Guojun's story may be the epitome of each of us.
On the road of pursuing love, we have all lost our way, and we have all been persistent and desperate for love.
But in the end, we will all understand that love is never a one-person business, it requires two people's hearts to manage, and it needs two hearts to grow together.
Only in this way can love survive the wind and rain and never fade.