Some people say that fathers are like mountains, because the father's shoulders give children unlimited dependence and dependence, and whenever we encounter difficulties and obstacles, as long as the father is around, we feel particularly secure. It is also said that fathers are like streams, and although their love is not ostentatious, it is long and profound for children.
Indeed, as the image of the guardian, the father is particularly important to the child. But many people, because they are fathers for the first time, they don't know what to do best for their children. Therefore, many fathers do not grasp the distance with their children, most of them are with their children in a serious image, and sometimes they obviously want to go further with their children, but they can't get closer to their father's face.
Fathers don't know how to communicate with their children? In fact, father and son get along is not as difficult as you think, master the following 3 sentences, break the barriers between communication with children, and make you and your children more intimate.
The first sentence: No matter what problems you encounter, Daddy is always behind you, baby, do you need Daddy's help?
Do not underestimate the role of this sentence, many fathers may feel that it is a bit of a fuss to say such kind words to their children. He is the father of the child, and the father of the child is of course the first to come out, is it really necessary to say this sentence?
We understand the father's idea that more fathers feel that love should be expressed in action, not in words. But what parents don't know, sometimes just because of a word of support and encouragement from the father can bring unlimited motivation to the child.
As a father, if you can often express this affirmation and support to your child, then if you still encounter any problems for your children, the first reaction is to seek help from parents, so that they have the confidence in their hearts and can be more confident in handling things.
Second sentence: What do you think about this? Can you think again with your dad about your thoughts?
Many parents are one-handed authoritarian in their decision-making regards to their children. In fact, such an approach can easily make children lose their self-assertion.
Especially for the father of the head of the family, if the father can often ask the child and seek the child's help, it will inevitably make the child slowly take the initiative to contribute to the family.
On the one hand, this not only actively cultivates the child's thinking ability, but also effectively improves the child's creativity and solution ability from another perspective, which is an effective way for the child to take the initiative to think about problems and solve problems.
The third sentence: Dad is not doing well here, need your help, otherwise we will make a plan for the future together, we will make progress together, and strive to supervise each other together.
If parents feel that their children are deficient, they need to continue to work hard and improve. Parents are only one aspect of the compulsion to let the child do things, which will only be a compulsive improvement for the child, and it is difficult for them to self-reflect and participate deeply in this matter.
Parents can make their children feel engaged by setting goals and rules with their children, and by following the rules and completing tasks together.
At the same time, it can also let the child have a sense of ownership in this process, so that the child understands what kind of posture and method they should use in their own tasks.
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