Text/Wei Chen
Oniguzi has a cloud: "Those who can cure the effect of events, those who are poor and can reach it, and those who can make meritorious contributions and can achieve it can make deep friends." ”
Saying that a person who can handle accidents rationally and quickly, even if he is in a difficult situation, cannot defeat him, such a person deserves deep friendship.
To put it bluntly, it is to teach us to interact with capable people as much as possible in interpersonal communication.
How to judge whether a person is capable or not has become another very important topic.
Some people like to understand each other through communication, and some people prefer to judge by observing details.
Communication has the skill of communication, and observation has the skill of observation.
The depth of a person's ability is not only reflected in major events. Attention to detail, more unexpected discoveries.
Those whose mouths are hanging on the river are unreliable
People who can really talk, there are not many words.
Many people will think that people who can talk tend to be mouthy, in fact, people who can talk are always to the point.
People who can talk understand what communication should be mastered, and what is the starting point and focus of communication.
Communication that cannot grasp the direction, no matter how much we talk about it, is ineffective communication.
A true master of talking will often be prepared before communicating. For example, the personality characteristics of the other party, the degree of possible acceptance of the content of the communication, and the prejudgment of the outcome of the communication.
The time of life is limited, everyone's every day is very precious, and blind communication is a waste of each other's lives.
Fact-based communication is the most reliable communication, and communication with people must avoid "false big space".
Speaking at any given time is an art. What should be said, what should not be said, when those words should be said, and what occasions should be said, are all fixed.
Smart people are always careful in their words and deeds, and they give the impression of modesty, prudence and reliability.
In contrast, ignorant people often behave like mouths, endless when they talk, only care about their own crazy output, and do not care about each other's feelings and feedback.
When getting along with people, if you find that the other party often falls into self-congratulation mode in the process of communication, it can almost be concluded that the person does not have much ability.
Those who do big things, although informal, will also carefully and carefully do the details properly.
How can people who cannot even communicate with each other be able to trust their careers with confidence.
Those who make clever remarks, fresh and benevolent
The Analects of Learning and Learning has a cloud: "Clever words make color, fresh and benevolent." ”
Confucius told us that those who always speak cleverly and pretend to be kind and cheerful are rarely benevolent.
Some people may ask: What is "benevolence"?
For now, benevolence is a kind of benevolence that cares for and sympathizes with each other.
When Confucius expressed his views, the "benevolence" he called referred to noble moral principles and moral standards.
The moral standards of those who are always rhetorical in life are often not high, because they often deliberately beautify something in order to achieve a certain goal.
This kind of behavior, to put it bluntly, is a fictitious deception by unscrupulous means.
Wise people understand that "the more beautiful things are, the more dangerous" and that if a thing is deliberately beautified, there must be a certain risk in itself.
Many facts are there, and everyone can see and feel them, but there will still be people who use rhetoric to make the difficulties of them light.
Every time this is the time, we should be vigilant, knowing that there is never such a thing as once and for all in this world.
The word "forever" itself is full of holes, and no one can promise you how far forever really is.
It may be three years and five years, it may be ten days and eight days, or even after today's tomorrow, this will end forever.
It is best to see a core truth in dealing with people, that is, agency. If a person only says no, no matter how beautiful the promise, it is essentially a bubble.
People with good intentions, people who do not play with their tongues, and those who have plots are often clever.
If you don't want to be deceived by people, stay away from the clever people.
As the saying goes, a bottle does not sound, half a bottle shakes.
Truly capable people are always reticent. You must understand that a person's ability is never reflected in the mouth.
People with a background are quiet on the surface and extraordinarily low-key. People with poor abilities will scream and love to show off.
The collision of ideas can indeed produce sparks, but the premise is that there must be thoughts first. And the formation of ideas requires absolute silence, and long silence.
Resourceful people love to think, not to discuss.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.