Due to the abuse of the law of attraction, many boys chat with each other, showing their "attraction", and showing their personality charm through colorful modifications. But in fact, as long as you think about it, in fact, many boys do not have that kind of attraction to talk about at length, and many girls are willing to listen to a stranger tell a strange story. So finding the right topic to chat about when chatting is the key!
The chat topic that girls are interested in is actually not listening to boys bragging, but likes to talk about themselves. So boys need to master the interests of girls, because different girls have different interests, some girls may be rice circle girls, some girls may be heavy fans, some girls are addicted to video games...
How to find a girl's point of interest
A girl's interest points can be fully displayed on her circle of friends, QQ space, Weibo, Zhihu and other social media, because girls often leave their own life footprints and thoughts on these platforms. From these places, it is easy to analyze the interests and hobbies and personality tendencies of girls, and after knowing the interests of girls, it is easy to talk about this topic.
How to talk about these points of interest
Don't talk about the points of interest that girls are proficient in and you are unfamiliar with. For example, girls are studying painting professionally, this time boys do not force talk about her point of interest, if boys go to talk to girls about image, contour, level, light and shade these painting skills, it is easy to have a feeling of playing a big knife in front of The Guan Gong, and many times it will make her realize your ignorance.
Talk about girls' interested and cognitive interests. If a girl likes hip-hop but knows very little about hip-hop and she knows nothing about the words "poping", "breaking" and "locking", don't continue the conversation. If you want to talk about some chat topics that she is interested in and understands, girls will be willing to talk to you.
How to take the topic
When boys and girls talk about a certain topic, they definitely need a certain degree of transitional sentences to play a natural topic. Otherwise, it will seem too deliberate, don't chew the hand cake in your mouth and tell the girl, "Haruki Murakami's "Norwegian Forest" is too touching!" My brother and I were crying!" The abrupt context is embarrassing for girls.
For example, girls love to play games, you can meet skillfully in LOL, and say to her, "I see that you are very talented, and I will fight the road with me."
First of all, what are the chat topics?
2.1, used to open the topic: interests: food, travel, pets, constellations, entertainment gossip, psychological tests, movies and TV series... To give some examples: just ate a particularly delicious dessert / Our puppy got three cubs today, happy ~ / What are your constellations / Just watched the fire like a song, so sadistic, almost cried
Status class: their own state A girl's circle of friends state, the surrounding state...
For example: today received a courier, the merchant actually naughtily gave me a package set of packaging, 3 layers in a row ~ / just came out of the gym, is eating barbecue ~ / Your photo today is very cute ~
Note: Do not talk about topics that girls are not interested in, such as games played only by boys, political and military, or topics that are too professional, such as the respondent engaged in IT, it is not appropriate to talk about code with girls The opening topic is only for the hot field, and it is not appropriate to talk too much
Don't talk to girls about topics that are too rational and too profound, in fact, girls prefer to live life and prefer the topic of chai rice oil and salt
2.2, the topic of closer relationship: the past: people are nostalgic, so when you talk about childhood troubles, talk about college experience, talk about the stumbling of the first entry into the workplace, often can play an emotional resonance effect, so that girls have a feeling as if they have known you for a long time
Story:
If you've ever had a good experience, tell it to a girl. Stories are a way for the human brain to receive information more easily, and it is easier for girls to resonate with future planning classes: you can talk about your future planning, your dreams.
Talk about the future, you may wish to guide the girl to say first, for example: tell me what fun about your childhood? / How did you spend your time in college? / What do you most want to be in the future, and what do you want? / If you choose, which city do you prefer to live in?
When the girl finishes talking, she should also carry out appropriate eye-catching, such as: I think you are a girl with a lot of ideas. / I find that we have so much in common.
Second, how to talk about a topic.
Let me start with an example:
M: What are you doing?
F: Just finished eating, lying on the couch watching TV, and then please think for yourself for 5 seconds, how will you answer...
Next I'll give you at least 5 answers
The first step is to come up with the keywords "finish eating", "sofa", "watch TV"
The second step, expand the topic after eating: will not call for takeaway bar / do you cook delicious...
Sofa: Brain make up for your Ge You paralyzed look, haha / Speaking of sofas, I saw a lazy sofa super comfortable before MUJI... Watching TV: What drama are you brushing, if it is good, I will also watch ~ / I was recently brushing the fire like a song, so sadistic, almost watched crying...
In summary: after eating, lying on the sofa, eating snacks while brushing drama, that kind of feeling is super comfortable.