"Mother is as humble as moss, as solemn as the morning sun, as soft as the sound of water in Jiangnan, and as strong as a thousand years of han jade." When you look up, she is Hao Hao Mingyue, and when you bow your head, she is reckless earth. ”
The poem dedicated by the poet Love to his mother is also the most emotional and in-place interpretation of the food blogger "Mother Lu"...
On November 9, 2021, People's Daily made this rare comment about a food blogger:
"This 'internet celebrity', let her be red!"
The "net red" name is Lu Aimei, 61 years old, from the zhumadian countryside of Henan Province, and now lives in Zhengzhou. The blogger of a short video platform "Having a wife is a blessing" is a great mother who takes two sons with frostbite to make a living...
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She takes the child everywhere she goes, because she is a mother
"Hello everyone, I'm Mama Lu!"
"Fry eggplant boxes for kids today."
"Kids, the eggplant box is fried. Caramelized crispy hahaha! Are you hungry? Hahaha..."
In March, the spring cold was steep, and an old bungalow in Zhengzhou City, Henan Province, was as cold inside and outside the house because there was no heating. In the narrow and dilapidated kitchen, there was the sound of chopping and powerful cutting vegetables, and the sound of oil pouring into a hot iron pot.
Noodles, chopping stuffing, frying in the pan, constantly changing angles and photographing this trivial everything is Lu Aimei's daily routine. Always laughing "hahaha", she says "kids" to the screen several times in every video.
The "children" she calls her refer to her 313,000 followers on one of her short video platforms. The camera turns, and in the bedroom next to the kitchen, there are Lu Aimei's real children - Zhu Xiaoqiang, the eldest son of 40, and Zhu Xiaomeng, the second son of 30. Both brothers are alzheimer's patients, Xiao Qiang has been ill for 30 years, and Xiao Meng has been ill for 20 years.
"Xiao Qiang was diagnosed with frostbite at the age of 8, his condition worsened at the age of 13 and he has been paralyzed so far, Xiao Meng was diagnosed with frostbite at the age of 10, and his condition deteriorated at the age of 16 and he has been paralyzed so far." In Lu Aimei's silent narration, there are swords and mountains and fires that are difficult for ordinary people to cross...
Lu Aimei is from Zhumadian and raised 4 children with her husband. In addition to Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng, who suffer from frostbite, there is also a daughter who has a family and is now working in Beijing and a young son who is in the second grade of junior high school. Her husband, who is 12 years older than her, has a hearing impairment and can only help with simple tasks.
"He's a hot-tempered veteran." Speaking of her 73-year-old wife, Lu Aimei's tone is calm. "He was a soldier for 9 years and his ears were broken during the exercise. Very upright, I also admire the soldiers, so we got married. ”
When the two first got married, the old partner had a bit of an ear back, Lu Aimei spoke loudly, and he could still hear it. "But then he gradually lost sight of it, and when Xiao Meng was also diagnosed with frostbite, he couldn't hear it at all." After the old partner could not hear, his body deteriorated.
Frostbite is known as "immortal cancer", the early symptoms are mild, but the onset cycle is extremely long, organ failure in the later stage, breathing difficulties, but most of the frostbite patients have the same wisdom as normal people, the same desires and dreams, but can not interact with the world normally, can only soberly feel the process of gradually losing their physical functions. In the beginning, it is often wrestling, unable to run and jump; then unable to walk, and finally unable to take care of basic living.
Because of this disease, Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng only went to the fifth grade of primary school and did not continue to study, there was a distance from home to school, the weather was fine, and the rainy day was simply torture. "They don't want to go to school anymore, and I don't force it anymore." Lu Aimei said that the two sons are very self-reliant, and they have insisted on self-study after dropping out of school, and they have almost completed the junior high school curriculum.
One day, Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng discussed quietly running away from home and going to a big city to find a big hospital for treatment. It was a rainy afternoon in the spring of 2012, and Lu Aimei, who overheard the brothers' conversation, decided to take them and her young son out to make a living.
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It is not choice and choice but encounter: this is the relationship between mother and child
As the Japanese drama "Mother" said:
"There is no reason, because between the mother and the child, there is never a relationship of choice and choice, just because they meet." 」
Lu Aimei used a tricycle, carrying Xiao Qiang, Xiao Meng and her 5-year-old son, from the countryside of Zhumadian all the way to the provincial capital of Zhengzhou, she wanted to find a way for Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng to find a way to live.
The road to life is slim, but Lu Aimei doesn't want to give up.
Someone once asked her a soul question: "This disease is not cured, and a family with such a child will be overwhelmed." You have two in your family, how can you do it alone? Lu Aimei said:
"If you can't do it, you have to!" Because I am a mother. ”
They rented a small courtyard near the Zhengzhou Railway Station, with a kitchen, bathroom and 3 small rooms, with a monthly rent of 1800 yuan. The minimum guarantee of the two children adds up to 1,000 yuan, and the remaining rent and the living expenses of the mother and son of 4 people have to find a way to earn. The two sons need to be fed for food, and Lu Aimei can't leave them to work. In the end, the mother and son decided to sell singing and set up a stall to sell some small things.
Wind and rain, cold winter, or the child's condition worsened, Lu Aimei could not go out. "Those who sell porridge give us porridge, those who sell noodles give us noodles, and well-meaning people will stuff some money." Every year before the Spring Festival, when my daughter came to visit them, she would buy some rice flour oil. The days just went on year after year.
The daughter is the second eldest in the family and has helped the family bear a lot since she was a child. "She started cooking for the family when she was 8 years old, helping me take care of my brother and brother. She did well in her studies, and she always came first in running, but because she couldn't afford it, she didn't read again after junior high school. After her daughter got married, she went to Beijing with her husband to work, and Lu Aimei felt very guilty that she could not help her.
"If you can't give her anything, try not to bother her."
In June 2018, Lu Aimei suffered from acute appendicitis, and she insisted on feeding her two sons so much that she did not want to speak. Xiao Qiang found that her hands were trembling, her face was pale and cold, and she immediately called 120 to send her mother to the hospital. Finally, Xiao Qiang had to call his sister. My sister rushed back to Zhengzhou overnight and took care of her mother until she was discharged from the hospital.
Seeing that my mother had just been discharged from the hospital, she took my brother and brother to sell songs and set up stalls. The daughter hugged her mother and cried: "I have 3 children myself, and my in-laws are not in good health, so I can't help you..." Lu Aimei said:
"Being my daughter is the greatest help to me."
In the summer of 2019, seeing many people filming food on the short video platform, Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng proposed to let their mothers shoot too, because in their eyes, the meals made by their mothers are the best.
Lu Aimei nodded and agreed, Xiao Meng registered the "Mother is Fu" account on Douyin, and the three mothers and sons embarked on the road of self-media without understanding. Xiao Qiang is the director and screenwriter, Xiao Meng edited, and his mother photographed and appeared in the film.
In the video at the beginning, Lu Aimei cooked noodles at meals, clear soup noodles, radish noodles, green vegetable noodles... She is illiterate, and the little fierce in charge of editing can only move her index and middle fingers. 3 minutes of video, mother and son 3 people to busy all day, the income is 3 yuan. Others have long given up, but Lu Aimei has never thought of giving up, because the income from shooting a video can buy a pair of noodles no matter how little.
In the winter of 2019, Lu Aimei brought her old partner and children from her hometown to Zhengzhou. "He's deaf, he's in poor health, he's 70 years old, and I can't leave him alone." After the wife came, she could help sweep the floor and wash a dish, and Lu Aimei was particularly satisfied.
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Like Mama Lu because she is "Mama Lu"
Gradually, there were more fans, everyone began to order, and Lu Aimei also tried to be satisfied. Henan braised noodles, fritters and so on, "bite the teeth can also afford to eat." A little boy asked Lu Aimei in the live broadcast room: "Why don't you shoot big crabs?" "How many pounds of noodles a crab has to buy, Lu Aimei doesn't dare to think about it, she can't afford it." But she was embarrassed to say it directly, so she laughed and said that she would not make crabs.
Because of the insistence on shooting every day, the story of Lu Aimei and her two sons with frostbite gradually became known. From the spring of 2021, the fans of "having a wife is a blessing" began to soar, and at the strong request of everyone, Lu Aimei began to do live broadcasts.
In the live broadcast, she affectionately called the fans "children", and the fans called her "Lu Mama". These ordinary and trivial interactions bring warmth and comfort to the audience in front of the camera, and also let the mother and son who are trapped in suffering see the light.
Netizens call Lu Aimei "Mother Lu", and she especially likes this title. Once, when I went out, a little girl of more than 3 years old recognized her and said to her in a milky voice: "I like Mother Lu." Like adding sugar to bitter coffee, Lu Aimei couldn't help but smile, and her mood was suddenly cheerful.
There are more and more such touching moments.
The "little vest" in Linfen, Shanxi, has visited Lu Aimei 3 times. "She bought a hood and bought me 3 clothes and two pairs of shoes. Every time we live, she came to cheer us on! ”
There was a single mother who once wanted to jump off a building with her child to commit suicide, but that day she happened to walk into the live broadcast room of "Having a mother is a blessing"..." Hearing Mother Lu's laughter, I felt that there was no obstacle in this world that could not be passed. ”
Sometimes, fans send gifts, and Lu Aimei also follows the example of other bloggers to record an "unbox video". She would put on clothes that she usually did not want to wear, affectionately put her arms around her two sons, smile and say to the camera: "I am Mother Lu, today I came to dismantle the things that the family sent us." "Such a video is more difficult to shoot than a cooking video, and the playback volume is not high." But Lu Aimei insisted on shooting, which she thought was the best way to repay her fans.
A live broadcast can be as little as 3 hours and as much as four or five hours, which is not an easy task for the mother and son trio. In order to show the best state, Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng are sitting upright in front of the camera, and their mother Lu Aimei is standing between the two. Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng said a word to take a deep breath, and after a while they had to suck on phlegm once. Lu Aimei's feet will swell for a long time and her heart will be very uncomfortable, so later before each live broadcast, she has to take a painkiller.
After the next broadcast, Lu Aimei had to be busy for a while. First put on the ventilator for Xiao Qiang, then suck on the phlegm for Xiao Meng, scrub his body, brush his teeth and wash his face, and settle down to bed after they went to bed it was two or three o'clock in the morning. Next, almost every quarter of an hour, Lu Aimei would get up once, turn over her two sons, suck phlegm, and take the bowel and defecation. "People who lie in bed all year round have to tickle at any time." Xiao Meng was a little shy and proud to say that his mother would meet any of their requests.
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Eat hard, smile every day: sing songs that make the heart not collapse
Almost every year, Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng would go to the ghost gate to walk around. At the end of 2019, Xiao Qiang was critically ill again. Before being admitted to the hospital, his mother washed his feet and face, and he suddenly asked his mother to take a video. "I don't know if I can come back after going to the hospital this time?" I want to remember the last time my mother washed my face and feet..." My son said this with a smile, but Lu Aimei couldn't cry. After that, the two sons stopped saying "unlucky" things because they didn't want to see their mother cry.
"I don't ask too much of my child, I just want him to breathe normally."
Sometimes, Lu Aimei even felt that if she had to get sick, it would be better to get other diseases, so that she could change their livers, hearts, and kidneys.
But they got frostbite, and all the pain could only be endured by themselves, and their mother could only watch them die and live after being tortured by breathing again and again. Mom knew Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng's pain better than anyone, but even so, she told them over and over again:
Being alive is the best thing
。
Not only to live, but also to live with dignity. Because of Lu Aimei's meticulous and professional care, the two sons were paralyzed in bed for 30 years, never had pressure sores, they were always dressed clean and tidy, and there was no smell in the house and on the body.
Most patients with frostbite die of respiratory failure, according to statistics, the average survival time from illness to death is 3-4 years, and 10% of patients survive for more than 10 years, so that Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng are undoubtedly the lucky ones who are 10%.
Therefore, they are more and more free, feeling that every day of life is precious and lucky to count down with their fingers broken; and Lu Aimei's every day is spent in a mixture of expectation and panic.
But even so, she cooks with care and keeps smiling.
Xiao Qiang said:
Xiao Meng said:
"Mom is our air, water and sun, and when we see Mom, all our troubles disappear."
After taking a bite of food, you have to stop and take a breath, take a break before eating, and sometimes you don't have the strength to open your eyes after eating. But in order to reassure their mother, even if the brothers were so uncomfortable that they could not even open their eyes, they would obediently open their mouths to eat the food that their mother fed.
Lu Aimei is 1.63 meters tall and weighs 130 pounds. She felt that this weight was very good, and it was not difficult to hold her two sons, because Xiao Qiang and Xiao Meng were less than 100 pounds. "They're too skinny, I want them to gain another twenty or thirty pounds, so I can hold them!" She proudly said: "My level of care is better than that of the hospital nurse, very professional and fast. Because I have to take care of two! ”
"I loved to cry a few years ago, but I didn't cry much after taking the video. Neither brother made me cry. Say' The body is broken, who is waiting for you?' ’”
In order to keep their mother from crying, the brothers tried to eat, sleep well, endure the pain, always smile, and if they took videos or did live broadcasts, they always tried to sit in front of the camera.
A line from the movie "McDougle, Me and My Mother":
"We are glad that there is always a song in our hearts, so that the world of hard states will not be hard into the heart, and the weak heart will not collapse." 」
There is no doubt that this is written for Mai Du and Her Mother, but also for Mama Lui and her children...