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Xin Zhiyi has a famous sentence throughout the ages:
The crowd looked for him a thousand times, and looked back, but the man was in the middle of the light.
On the night of the First Yuan Festival, the lights are brilliant, as if ten thousand flowers are blooming, fragrant cars and HORSES are full of streets, and people are constantly coming and going.
Laughter can be heard everywhere, the jade dragon lantern is not lively, the beauty is particularly feminine, and the most surprising thing is that the crowd is surging and she meets her favorite, and in the turn of looking back, the beautiful person is in the light.
Life is long, perhaps, a person's mentality in love is to wait.
Seeing her at first sight, I remembered her in my heart and worried about her continuously, so I silently paid attention to everything about her, quietly wrote down her sorrows and joys, and looked at all her eyes.
Then, in the midst of concern, watching her do everything is good, listening to her say everything is good, appreciating everything about her.
Finally, one day, a sincere confession, the two people seriously interacted, and finally she was conquered, and a sigh was issued from the depths of my heart: It turns out that I am bent on finding someone, that is you.
Only because, at this time, he accepted all her, and he was accustomed to everything she had.
Of course, this is the ideal state of love.
-02-
In life, we can observe that those couples who get along very happily, they will all have one thing in common, that is, they rarely complain about each other, even if they occasionally complain twice, they are also smiling, as if it does not affect his mood at all.
Yes, in this world, no one is perfect, and no human nature is perfect. There will always be some defects, there will always be some regrets.
But thankfully, the guy you can meet, his attitude toward you is: total acceptance.
Because I accept everything from you, even if it is a dull day, I can live a poetic beauty, and no matter how many chickens and dogs are broken, I can live a lingering romance.
So, whether a man has been conquered by you or not, the detail of his "acceptance of everything" for you, can be seen.
Can stand your habits
There are no two leaves in this world, naturally there are no two people with the same, even under the same roof, there will be different living habits.
Two people together, from different families, different growth environments, there must be some habits, good and bad mixed.
For example, men are not good at waiting, and women's makeup time is too long; men are decisive when buying things, while women are more than three; men spend lavishly while women are too frugal; men throw things away, while women are clean...
Different habits, natural living together, there will be some inconvenience, there will always be a person to make a compromise, in order to let this love precipitate, so that two people get along comfortably, not tired.
A man who truly loves you, he will definitely take out enough patience to adapt to you, will not be anxious, will not be troublesome, he will try to get used to your habits as a part of his life, and even he will change his bad habits for you, such as you do not like to smell smoke, he will go outside to smoke, or simply quit smoking; you are tired of noise, he will watch the ball game, turn down the volume, even put on headphones...
He says those two words to you: acceptance.
And, a man who doesn't love you, his attitude toward you, is likely to be impatient, even mocking.
Just like a big literary hero laughed at his wife's constipation and wrote the story in the book, his first thought was not to help his wife find a doctor to cure, but to feel that the other party destroyed the beauty in his mind.
Love or not love, immediately visible.
Get used to your little temper
Perhaps, most of the complaints that many men complain about women will be this sentence: You have this temper, and I can stand you.
It sounds disgusting, but it is incomparably spoiled.
Only because, this temper, is what he is used to.
Women will be more sensitive than men, and they will also have more tempers, just like "cats", maybe you will offend her with one word, and if you do not do well, she will not want to pay attention to you.
And these small tempers of hers, in the eyes of those who love her, will become "personality, I like", perhaps, he will occasionally be irritable, but also want to have a big fight with her, but every time he thinks that this person is his beloved person, so he immediately dismisses this idea and will coax her instead.
In his heart, there will be a kind of "fear", afraid that because of arguing with the other party, he will take her away, afraid that because of arguing with her, he will make her angry and damage her body.
In "Ip Man", some people ridiculed Ip Man for being afraid of his wife, and Ip asked: That is not fear, but respect.
It can be seen that a man loves you, and his attitude towards everything about you is: acceptance.
Of course, if it is true that you are doing something wrong, he will not blindly indulge you, but will tell you the reason very rationally, but he will restrain his emotions and carefully explain to you why this is not possible.
And a man who doesn't love you, once your little temper exceeds his tolerance range, he gives you either a quarrel or a cold war, in short, you must "break up" your ideas, let you listen to him, and even if you meet a violent man, you may fight with you.
So, whether a man loves you or not, an argument, you can see clearly.
Get used to your liking
The so-called gold has no feet, and no one is perfect.
There is no perfect lover in this world, so you will always have some preferences, in the eyes of others, is a kind of "hot eyes".
For example, women like to buy all kinds of lipstick, like to buy bags, like to dress up, go shopping for clothes, all kinds of accessories and so on. At this time, some men show their attitude that the better you look, the more face I have; some are, what is the waste of that money, you are already my person.
Therefore, some women, the more they live, the younger they are, and some women, exquisite before marriage, are like changing people after marriage.
Zhang Zhilin was once known as Yuan Yongyi's bag cash machine, just because Yuan Yongyi loves to buy bags too much, but what to do, love her, just spoil her. Of course, buying things must be within the range that each other can bear, otherwise, this hobby of women can only be said to be a kind of love and vanity.
There is also a kind of woman, born toil, love to worry, but also love to take care of things, at this time, men's attitude, is particularly important.
Some men will hold the attitude of "don't care about yourself, hang high", you love to worry about it, as long as you take good care of me; and some men will check for women, take her affairs as their own affairs, he will not let women take care of the housework alone, and will also tell women when women encounter trouble: you don't have to care about this matter, just leave it to me.
Therefore, men's love, often in the details, see the real chapter.
He loves you, and no matter what you look like, he will accept it.
Cater to your three views
Once a man is interested in a woman, more or less, he will cater to the other party, even if he is not very approveable.
However, a person's three views are difficult to subvert, and the deeper two people get along, the more obvious the differences between each other.
And if a man loves you deeply, he will surely cater to himself, to cater to you, to be close to you. For example, dressing up, men only like black and white gray on weekdays, but women will feel too single, he will find a way to change themselves to meet your aesthetics; there are also men, who will like to eat stalls on weekdays, and women will feel unhygienic, he will happily drag you to the market, buy vegetables and go home to cook...
Of course, these are only superficial, and values are particularly important inside.
After all, most people, once they have some ideas in their hearts, it is difficult to change, and, the point is, he will not try to persuade you, change you, but respect you, talk to you, and temper.
Life is long, how many people have different opinions, quarrels, quarrels, or, some men seem to understand you very well, but in fact, they insist on themselves, never compromise, always try to persuade you, let you suffer grievances.
And a person who loves you deeply, his attitude towards you is: take the initiative to understand you, understand you, understand you.
The three views He gives you are to accept that you are different from Him.
-03-
A noisy life always makes people feel lonely.
Therefore, if there is a person next to him who can carry the temperature of life, give you the love of knowing cold and knowing heat, knowing cold and knowing warmth, he must have put you deeply in his heart.
The vast sea of people, being able to meet is a kind of fate, and the sea of life can live a calm life when the tide rises and falls, then you are together, it is a fate.
In this world, there really isn't so much romance of "you're making trouble, he's laughing", and only one person is adapting to you and accepting your heart because he loves you.
When two people are together, only the dependence of the soul will have the habit of action. Even if you are not good, he is always ready to see.
His love for you is to step through the years in bit by bit, in the porridge rice and the common, to walk Shaohua through, in the flow of the four seasons, holding hands and snuggling with each other.
What is love?
Perhaps, love, it is so, it is very simple: everything you have, I accept, I like.
Author, Frank Fox
Figure, network
May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!