Anita Yuen: I used to be a crazy mother

At the beginning of September 2013, when the new wave of broadcast of "Dragon Gate Dart Game" directed and written by Ning Caishen began, Yuan Yuyi, the heroine of the play and the actor of Sheng Qiuyue, accepted an interview with the author. With neat short hair, plain black clothes, no makeup but almost no flaws, Yuan Yuyi, who is over forty years old, still lives up to her beautiful reputation.

He speaks Mandarin very well, laughs loudly, and when he is interested, he will hook up with the person he meets for the first time, and he will immediately point out who is not pleasing to the eye. Yuan Yuyi in front of the author, and the shadow of the autumn moon that shouted and slashed your peach blossoms with a knife. Yuan Yuyi laughed after a moment of silence: I am recognized as a peerless good mother! After a pause, she said, but when I first became a mother, I was as crazy and fierce as Sheng Qiuyue.

A crazy mom with only her children in her eyes

In 2006, Yuan Yuyi gave birth to the crystallization of love with Zhang Zhilin: son Zhang Mutong. Yuan Yuyi, who has endured all the hardships of pregnancy in October, and has become fat because of this, has complained to Zhang Zhilin many times that it is too hard to be old and body, gritted her teeth and said that after the child is born, she will lose weight immediately and then go to filming. But soon after her son was born, the agent went to the hospital to see her, but Yuan Yuyi said: From now on, my job is to be a mother, and I will not leave my son for a minute, don't think that I will earn you money!

Of course, not acting is nothing to Yuan Yuyi, because Zhang Zhilin promised to support her and her son. It's just that what Zhang Zhilin never dreamed of was that Yuan Yuyi's temperament changed greatly after giving birth to a child, which made him unbearable, so much so that he automatically filed for divorce.

Although she is full of belief in taking care of her children and accompanying them to grow up, after giving birth, Yuan Yuyi, who is fat and stays at home every day, has become particularly sensitive and suspicious and suffers from postpartum depression. Zhang Zhilin joked that you are so fat, in the past, Yuan Yuyi would laugh and pass by. But now, she was furious, thinking sadly, and then complained to Zhang Zhilin: What am I so fat for? How can you dislike me? Complaining, scolding, and crying for a long time, if Zhang Zhilin has half a rebuttal, her bad mood will come back.

Yuen had a caesarean section and lay in bed for a week after giving birth. asked Zhang Zhilin to hold the child to her, but he was stunned and didn't dare to hug it. He commented to her: All of a sudden, there is an extra child, I am very uncomfortable, I don't know what to do? She treats her son as a treasure and can watch him day and night without sleeping. But her husband said to herself: There are extra children, and he is very uncomfortable! Since then, as long as Zhang Zhilin talks about his son, Yuan Yuyi will immediately squeeze him: It is extraordinary, you still don't care about the children!

When her son was more than a month old, Yuan Yuyi went to make milk and asked Zhang Zhilin to pick up her son from the bed. He hesitated for a long time and bent down to pick up the child, but accidentally, his son fell out of the swaddling clothes, but fortunately the little one fell on the bed and was fine. But Yuan Yuyi ran away like crazy, pushed Zhang Zhilin away, and then picked up her son, saying: Zhang Zhilin, you can never touch my son again! Zhang Zhilin was both aggrieved and surprised: My son is also mine, and besides, I didn't fall on him! But Yuan Yuyi waved her hand and said to him: Get out!

Not only did she not let Zhang Zhilin touch her son, but no one from her family and friends on both sides could touch her son. Until one day, my mom said that in my world, it seems that I can't fit anyone else anymore. can't pretend that his parents have nothing to do with it, but he can't kick his lover out completely. But Yuan Yuyi didn't take it seriously at all at that time, which woman was not a mother like her, madly loving and protecting her children?

In addition to not allowing others to contact her son, Anita Yuen also maintains her own views on education issues. She thought that when she was a child, when she made a mistake, her mother would take all the books out of her school bag and let her hold them in both hands for 15 minutes, and when she was playing and watching TV, her mother would make her turn her back to the TV and turn on her favorite programs very loudly. The mother's education method directly affects Yuan Yuyi's education of her son. When her son was 6 months old, she had already arranged for him to go to school, hired a special tutor, and told him stories and played music for 55 minutes a day. Zhang Zhilin said: It is too exaggerated for a half-year-old child to go to school. Yuan Yuyi maintains: A half-year-old child is also a human being, I hope to train him to be an excellent man, you don't care!

Since then, Yuan Yuyi has completely excluded Zhang Zhilin from her son's world and kicked him out of her heart. When his son was 8 months old, Zhang Zhilin said to Yuan Yuyi: Let's say goodbye. The way you are now scares me, and besides, you don't love me anymore

How can you have such a fresh idea? I don't love you, will I be in love with you for so many years, and still have children for you? Yuan Yuyi was hysterical, thinking of the ups and downs that the two of them have gone through over the years, and she couldn't help crying

In order to be a good mother, she almost got divorced

This answer made Yuan Yuyi aggrieved and embarrassed, and her friend saw that she was very hurt, so he initiated her to think about whether to leave this man who did not want to marry you. After thinking about it for a few days, she said: Without him, I may not fall in love again, and even if I fall in love again, I may not be able to get married. Let's wait and see. But she didn't wait long.

Because Yuan Yuyi didn't know that when she proposed this time, Zhang Zhilin was actually thinking about getting married. In advance, he said that he didn't have time to tie the knot, because he wanted to see Yuan Yuyi's disappointed expression. Soon after, when she went to Singapore to visit the class, Zhang Zhilin sprinkled the bathtub with roses, and then suddenly took out a small box. Yuan Yuyi opened the box excitedly, only to find that it was only a pair of pearl earrings inside. The loss can be imagined, Yuan Yuyi reluctantly said thank you!

Zhang Zhilin asked: Aren't you happy? Yuan Yuyi didn't look at him and said: "What's the matter?" Is this okay? He handed over a box again, and when he opened it, it was a ring. But he didn't kneel, he didn't propose, he was originally a man who didn't know romance at all. But it's enough to have a ring, and besides, he has always tolerated my bad temper, the main thing is that he is very handsome! Yuan Yuyi, who was worried that she would not be able to marry, readily agreed to Zhang Zhilin's marriage proposal.

Soon, the two registered their marriage in the United States. The days after marriage are no different from those before marriage, both of them are busy with their careers, they get together less and leave more, and it is rare to see each other. But every day, Yuan Yuyi will call and text Zhang Zhilin, admonish, greet, and tell her missing. When the two were along the way, it was probably a little surprise to create a romantic atmosphere, and it was mostly Yuan Yuyi. It is often said that the reason why Zhang Zhilin has always grown up against the odds and has become an immortal myth in the Hong Kong entertainment industry is because he has a wife who is like his mother who spoils and loves him.

But why, when she became a mother, she suddenly became a crazy mother who only had her son in her eyes and completely ignored her husband? It was precisely because of the madness and unreasonableness of Yuan Yuyi's eyes that she only had her son in her eyes, that Zhang Zhilin was disappointed and afraid of love. He filed for divorce to make Anita Yuan shocked and melancholy, from acquaintance to the birth of the child, the two have gone through 15 years of ups and downs hand in hand, during which Anita Yuen has been too handy. This time, it was Zhang Zhilin's first parting.

After crying, Yuan Yuyi suddenly asked herself in the bottom of her heart: Do you still love him? The answer is yes, of course she still loves him. This man who tolerates herself everywhere and looks at her silently every time she makes a big noise, Yuan Yuyi doesn't want to let go. Thinking of this, she entrusted the child to her mother, and then asked Zhang Zhilin to go out to sit. I'm sorry, husband, I was wrong. I have many questions, however, you also have yours. Shall we ease our problems all the way from tomorrow onwards? Yuen Yuyi said that she knows that the most important thing for husbands and wives to maintain their relationship is communication, understanding, and mutual tolerance. Her mother told her that only a good wife can be a good mother. Yuan Yuyi also assured Zhang Zhilin that from now on, she will correct herself one by one.

The first step in Yuen's change was to start getting her family in touch with her son. She taught Zhang Zhilin, who still didn't dare to hold the child, hand-in-hand, and pulled him to play with the child all the way as long as he was free. As long as you talk to me in the tone you speak to your son, there will be no problems. Zhang Zhilin said to her. Yuan Yuyi suddenly became famous, and treated her husband as a child, wouldn't it be the best of both worlds?

The hardships and happiness of going from crazy mom to stern mom

Under the careful training of Yuan Yuyi, Zhang Zhilin will soon take care of the child, and with his son growing up day by day, babbling and toddler, he is more like him day by day, and Zhang Zhilin himself has become a particularly sticky son's father. When the child was one and a half years old, Yuan Yuyi, whose figure had recovered to the condition in front of her, took advantage of Zhang Zhilin's vacation at home to take over the filming of the TV series "A Drop in the Sea". After filming in Hengdian for more than two weeks, Yuan Yuyi began to miss her son like crazy. Colleagues in the crew often heard her talking about it quickly after filming, but it turned out that she was comforting herself: the filming will be over soon, and she can go home to see her son. When I came home a month later, I saw my son running towards him with his arms outstretched, and kept calling his mother, mother, Yuan Yuyi's heart was about to melt.

At that moment, she suddenly asked Zhang Zhilin: Next, can I stop filming until the child doesn't need me? There will be good dramas every year, but the child's childhood is only once. Zhang Zhilin said: However, I hope you are a reasonable mother, and at the same time, don't forget that there is another man named Zhang Zhilin in this family.

Yuen's father was a police officer and was strict with her, her brother and sister since she was a child. So she is also a strict mother in front of her son, she will be punished if she does something wrong, she must come by herself to eat and not be fed by adults, she can't threaten adults with crying, etc., Yuan Yuyi, who decided to be a full-time mother, gave her son a lot of decoronations.

However, Zhang Zhilin was not harsh with his son. When my son did something wrong, I asked him to teach him a lesson, and he would crouch down and whisper, "You can't do this." When I lectured my son, I reminded him to cooperate, but the result was that I was mad at my son, and he still said gently: You can't do this. Yuan Yuyi said that her son is not afraid of his father at all, because his father has no principles at all. For example, I would arrange for my son every Sunday, what I had to do every day from Monday to Friday, and when I was old, I said that I wanted to take my son to play, and my son asked me if I could cancel it? I said no, this is a responsibility that you promised your mother to complete, so you must do it.

In the eyes of his son, his mother is so harsh that he is afraid, and his father is a warm harbor that never loses his temper. Therefore, when Anita Yuen and Zhang Zhilin quarreled, the son always protected his father. But what makes her happy is that her son is usually clingy to his father, but when he encounters something he is afraid of, he is always the first to find his mother. For his son, his mother is a bodyguard, an umbrella under which he can find a sense of security.

When she heard her family and friends praise her son, she also praised her: You are amazing, you have cultivated a very good son! Yuan Yuyi will also be humble: In fact, my husband also has to pay, in terms of educating his son, he sings white face, I sing black face, he is a loving father, I am a strict mother. Without his dedication, his son would not be so good and sensible!

While she accompanies and witnesses her son growing up day by day, she has also changed a lot. Before becoming a mother, Yuan Yuyi had a very straight temperament, and she would be outspoken about anyone who had an opinion, so she offended many people. But now Yuan Yuyi is tactful and exquisite. In the past, she liked to travel and shop everywhere, especially to buy a car, but after becoming a mother, Anita Yuen was very picky. She no longer likes shopping, but plans to save money to prepare for her son's future study, love and marriage. Anita Yuen, like many ordinary mothers, hopes to save more money for her son so that his future can be happy and worry-free.

Children are a woman's best trophies

Yuan Yuyi said that if she hadn't experienced Zhang Zhilin's parting, she might never have realized that after becoming a mother, she couldn't forget that there was another man by her side. In order not to make Zhang Zhilin jealous and feel that he was neglected by his wife, every once in a while, Yuan Yuyi would specifically please him: take him out to eat delicious food, and buy him something expensive that he had wanted to buy for a long time. And Yuan Yuyi, who always felt that her husband was not romantic and was not easily moved, now feels that Zhang Zhilin drove her and her son to eat a food stall, which is also a very romantic and happy thing.

Under the careful companionship and care of Yuan Yuyi, Mu Tong gradually grew up. He is cheerful, optimistic, intelligent and polite, and very caring and responsible at a young age. For example, Yuan Yuyi once told him: When you go out with your mother, you have to cover your face with your hands when someone takes a photo. Because the uncles who took pictures were all big thugs. But then someone took a picture, but the little guy automatically faced the camera, and after the photo was taken, they said goodbye to uncle! He said to his mother: They are not bad uncles, they all say goodbye to me. Since then, Anita Yuen no longer deliberately lets her son avoid the camera, nor does she quarrel with reporters over her son's filming.

In the blink of an eye, my son is about to enter elementary school. He started to be less clingy to his mom and sometimes didn't want to be with his mom because he had to party with his friends. I gradually became redundant, and my son and I didn't have as much of the common language we used to have. This made me wonder if I could be myself again. Anita Yuen said that after personally finding a good primary school for her son, she decided to make a comeback.

Friends said: You haven't missed the most important stage of your son's growth, it's time to continue to pursue your ideals. Yuan Yuyi told her agent that there are two conditions for taking over the play: a good script and a comedy. After becoming a mother, she can no longer pick up the kind of scene with a sad face and crying all day long, and Yuan Yuyi is worried that she will bring her bad mood home for her son to see. She hopes that her son will be positive and happy when he sees his mother's plays, and when he grows up and can fully understand TV and movies, he will consider taking on other roles. And this is also the main reason why Anita Yuen finally took over the filming of "Dragon Gate Dart Game".

When "Dragon Gate Dart Game" was on the air, Mu Tong was already a first-grade student in primary school, and at school, he was recognized as a handsome, smart, kind and caring child. Yuan Yuyi said with relief: I never thought that I, a crazy mother, would raise my son to be kind and generous. And my obligations as a mother have finally been completed for the most part.

Asked Yuan Yuyi now, what is the greatest happiness? She blurted out: the time with her son on the road. No, it's the time with my son and husband along the way. Although, when the family of three is on the way, her son and husband often join forces to deal with her. In the past, Anita Yuen would definitely be wronged, cry and even cry. But now, she feels full of happiness. In her eyes, her husband and son are her children. And one person managing two sons, like Sheng Qiuyue in "Dragon Gate Dart Game", can't do it by being crazy and mad. Reasonableness, intelligence and patience are Anita Yuen's mothers.

When "Dragon Gate Dart Game" was on the air, his 7-year-old son Mu Tong would chase it on the Internet every day. After reading it, he asked his mother: Mom, are you very famous? Have you won many awards? Yuan Yuyi informed him: Your father and I often play someone, and then appear as that person's personal image, we play a certain person who is very famous, and we are just engaged in a profession that often appears on TV. Of course, mom has won some awards, but you are mom's best trophy!